There is no meaningless touching.
What you were doing was the second stage of kino escalation- friendly touching.
This is something you do after you've established social touching, and before you advance to romantic touch, and finally sexual touching.
You have to get green lights to go up the ladder. It's like the panama canal
From a well-known game manual:
Social Touch is the kind of touch that would be socially appropriate if the person you are touching is a complete stranger.
Generally, this kind of touch is on the elbow, shoulder, or hands. Common examples of social touch include:
• Physically demonstrative handshakes
• Touching someone’s arm or shoulder when you are making a point, showing a person something, or getting his or her attention
• High-fives
Friendly Touch implies that you and the person you are touching are more than strangers. However, it doesn’t necessarily imply romantic or sexual interest. For example:
• Your arm around someone briefly • Touch on the back
• Touch on the legs (in a seated position) but not the upper or inner thighs
• Fixing someone’s hair
• Extended touching of someone’s hands (Not holding hands – rather, the sort of hand touching if you were reading some one’s palm)
• Holding her hand with an excuse (e.g., “come with me”)
• Any kind of play fighting • Hugs or “French-style” cheek kisses • Role-playing touching
Romantic touch is something that implies a connection beyond the “just friends” level. But don’t assume anything. Until you’ve kissed her, she still has plausible deniability. She can be enjoying the feeling of Romantic Touch, enjoying the flirting, enjoying the sexual tension, and have absolutely no intention of proceeding further.
Examples of Romantic Touch include:
• Massages
• Stroking her hair
• Her sitting on your lap
• Holding hands
• Etc. (Note that Romantic Touch is not explicitly sexual.)
Kissing comes at the very end of Romantic Touch – and that’s where plausible deniability ends.
Sexual touch is the end zone of the physical mod- el. It includes anything past kissing.
What you were doing was the second stage of kino escalation- friendly touching.
This is something you do after you've established social touching, and before you advance to romantic touch, and finally sexual touching.
You have to get green lights to go up the ladder. It's like the panama canal
From a well-known game manual:
Social Touch is the kind of touch that would be socially appropriate if the person you are touching is a complete stranger.
Generally, this kind of touch is on the elbow, shoulder, or hands. Common examples of social touch include:
• Physically demonstrative handshakes
• Touching someone’s arm or shoulder when you are making a point, showing a person something, or getting his or her attention
• High-fives
Friendly Touch implies that you and the person you are touching are more than strangers. However, it doesn’t necessarily imply romantic or sexual interest. For example:
• Your arm around someone briefly • Touch on the back
• Touch on the legs (in a seated position) but not the upper or inner thighs
• Fixing someone’s hair
• Extended touching of someone’s hands (Not holding hands – rather, the sort of hand touching if you were reading some one’s palm)
• Holding her hand with an excuse (e.g., “come with me”)
• Any kind of play fighting • Hugs or “French-style” cheek kisses • Role-playing touching
Romantic touch is something that implies a connection beyond the “just friends” level. But don’t assume anything. Until you’ve kissed her, she still has plausible deniability. She can be enjoying the feeling of Romantic Touch, enjoying the flirting, enjoying the sexual tension, and have absolutely no intention of proceeding further.
Examples of Romantic Touch include:
• Massages
• Stroking her hair
• Her sitting on your lap
• Holding hands
• Etc. (Note that Romantic Touch is not explicitly sexual.)
Kissing comes at the very end of Romantic Touch – and that’s where plausible deniability ends.
Sexual touch is the end zone of the physical mod- el. It includes anything past kissing.