Quote: (03-27-2013 08:35 PM)Lemmo Wrote:
Quote: (03-27-2013 08:29 PM)SHANbangs Wrote:
Quote: (03-27-2013 07:40 PM)MattC Wrote:
Quote: (03-27-2013 07:10 PM)Knowledge Seeker Wrote:
I sent her a brief text just now saying I didn't mean my comment to come off as offensive and that I understood if she was upset. She texted 5 mins later and said she was over it. Like I had guessed, she was just waiting for me to reach out.
I appreciate the comments though. Situations like this makes me realize that I need to be more conscious of what I am sending, especially through text.
She's the type of girl that withdraws when her feelings are hurt. It's funny because she has a tough exterior but is a softy on the inside.
Noooo! No no no! NO!
You fed the hamster, you never feed the hamster!
I'm surprised it took 9 replies but Scorpion has highlighted your problem. What kind of text was that to start off the interaction. "Good morning, I hope you slept well". Seriously lad?
I get it, you like the chick but you will be in a constant tug of war with her for power and right now, you've just let go of the rope with that text.
You shouldn't have texted her 3 times in a row, and you should've replied "lol" after the jackass one then reinitiated a few days later as if nothing happened, assuming she didnt hit you up first.
If you want to progress with this chick you're gonna have to get good at outcome independence (search rational male's blog). Right now it's going downhill as she's baiting the beta in you.
Nah brah, you and a lot of guys on this thread on harping at the wrong thing. There was nothing wrong with his first text. Maybe the women u date have strong demand for alpha/hard game, but I think a customary "good morning, had a good sleep?" is fine in a relationship provided he is already banging the girl. Remember, a relationship implies the two of you are on the same team - much less need for a me vs. you confrontational dynamic.
Besides, I think OP was doing fine midway through this exchange. Him sending her a screenshot of her triple text is a subtle neg that digs at her insecurities. She responded positively by qualifying herself, saying she's not crazy, but she could be crazy if he wanted that. Lots of qualifying and implications that she is attracted enough to him for him to determine what he wants her to be.
The problem with OP's text is the last bit about "all women being crazy." I mean, that's just a really really bad neg. First, she's already qualified herself to you. Second, it's a flat out insult. Third, it implies the OP has insecurities about women. I remember Roissy and a lot of other respectable PUA bloggers mentioning that women don't want to be around men they think are resentful or angry or bitter towards women. This neg was harsh and all around disrespectful. A good neg, and good alpha game in general, is charming, disaffected, and playful.
As for the aftermath, I think OP should just let it breathe for a bit. Then maybe follow up with something low key. Don't hint at you doing anything wrong. Maybe use some "vulnerability game" along the lines of "I've dated some crazy girls, but I like you because you've got a good head on your shoulders."
Most importantly, remember that this guy is in a FRESH relationship. He's already bedded her (I'm assuming that), he's already got the power. He can easily lose that power, but a pleasant "good morning" is not what would cause it.
Huh? You consider that a harsh neg? This isn't a stranger. He's been with her for a month. If a mild offhand comment like that, which is obviously a joke, results in a multi-day tantrum, he is obviously dealing with a loose cannon. She confirms as much with her multiple texts describing how "crazy" she is. This girl is obviously going to be a lot of make believe drama and she'll involve him in these dramas to the extent he continues to show a willingness to engage. That's why people are saying he needs to either cut her off or laugh off the nonsense. Otherwise, he is just spending time managing her nonsense (like he did in this case).
Your first points are quite possible. I don't know her well enough to know that yet. All I know is that all women have a tendency to go psycho, especially on their significant others if left unchecked.