I recently posted this as a response to the AO thread as a response to why girls love letting their inner slut out but rarely want to be thought of or labelled as a slut.
I was expressing my view about how "feeling like a slut" and her "feeling used" are two very different things. IMO girls like to be treated like filthy sex creatures but do not want to be used (read on for details)... Girls do not want to be labelled as sluts, ESPECIALLY in western culture.
My opinion is that girls will do ANYTHING they can get away with. So providing a safe environment for them to do this in is a good first step.
That being said I do not think that most girls want to FEEL like a slut. "Wait, whatever do you mean gandt?" Well girls wont want to go home with a guy who asks them to fuck (straight away) without taking a genuine interest in who they are (apocalypse opener). Additionally, they wont want to go home with a guy who does not provide them with the reassurance that you're not going to chuck em in the garbage when your done blowing your load in them. Sure, there are always exceptions (I too have had my fair share of girls whose name I didn't even know).
But what I am getting at is that are a few key elements to allowing a girl to let her inner slut out while not being labelled as a slut and made to feel "dirty" about herself. Girls are taught from a young age "what daddy doesn't know won't hurt him" and this mentality very much carries over into their paranoia about them being labelled as sluts.
Here are a few things that you may already know or may find useful in creating a safe environment:
-Communicating your non-judgemental acceptance of her behaviour (in the sense that you are not going to treat her any differently based on her sexual choices and that it's completely natural for women to want to be sluts). If you combine this with a no self-inflicted shame for being up front and sexual (read below for more on that) this tool becomes very powerful.
-Communicating security (in the sense that you will neither kick her to the curb when you are done OR beg to be her boyfriend). This is a HUGE one because most girls who go home with a guy shortly after meeting him USUALLY experience 1 of 2 scenarios:
THE FIRST is the guy thinks she's trash for going home with him and never talks to her again. This is where the feeling of being used comes into play.
THE SECOND is the guy thinks he is automatically entitled to be her boyfriend because he cant understand the concept that women like CASUAL sex just as much as men.
When you communicate you are unlike these other guys she realises she can do all she wants with you and YOU WON'T COUNT! (in her book![[Image: tard.gif]](https://rooshvforum.network/images/smilies/new/tard.gif)
) She will not have to worry about her friends finding out or you wanting all her attention, etc...
-communicating that you want to be with her for who she is, not because she is a piece of meat with a hole in it. An easy way to think of this is when girls ask a guy "why me?". If you are able to answer that question and provide her with reasons why you want to spend time with her you are gold.
So if you can communicate these elements then you come from a real position of power in my opinion.
IMPORTANT!! This all may seem very huffy fluffy to some of you and I am sure some are thinking "fuck that beta shit about building safety". I am NOT saying you shouldn't be sexually forward. In fact it is a huge part of my game and I encourage all of you to do it as well. After all, trying to hide things makes you creepy. What I am saying is there is a way to be filthy and nasty with girls while providing them with a secure environment to do it in.
The guys who are good at bringing the inner slut out in girls are inherently good at this. Hopefully, some of this can get you thinking on how to incorporate this into your arsenal. Would love to hear other's views as well of course.
I was expressing my view about how "feeling like a slut" and her "feeling used" are two very different things. IMO girls like to be treated like filthy sex creatures but do not want to be used (read on for details)... Girls do not want to be labelled as sluts, ESPECIALLY in western culture.
My opinion is that girls will do ANYTHING they can get away with. So providing a safe environment for them to do this in is a good first step.
That being said I do not think that most girls want to FEEL like a slut. "Wait, whatever do you mean gandt?" Well girls wont want to go home with a guy who asks them to fuck (straight away) without taking a genuine interest in who they are (apocalypse opener). Additionally, they wont want to go home with a guy who does not provide them with the reassurance that you're not going to chuck em in the garbage when your done blowing your load in them. Sure, there are always exceptions (I too have had my fair share of girls whose name I didn't even know).
But what I am getting at is that are a few key elements to allowing a girl to let her inner slut out while not being labelled as a slut and made to feel "dirty" about herself. Girls are taught from a young age "what daddy doesn't know won't hurt him" and this mentality very much carries over into their paranoia about them being labelled as sluts.
Here are a few things that you may already know or may find useful in creating a safe environment:
-Communicating your non-judgemental acceptance of her behaviour (in the sense that you are not going to treat her any differently based on her sexual choices and that it's completely natural for women to want to be sluts). If you combine this with a no self-inflicted shame for being up front and sexual (read below for more on that) this tool becomes very powerful.
-Communicating security (in the sense that you will neither kick her to the curb when you are done OR beg to be her boyfriend). This is a HUGE one because most girls who go home with a guy shortly after meeting him USUALLY experience 1 of 2 scenarios:
THE FIRST is the guy thinks she's trash for going home with him and never talks to her again. This is where the feeling of being used comes into play.
THE SECOND is the guy thinks he is automatically entitled to be her boyfriend because he cant understand the concept that women like CASUAL sex just as much as men.
When you communicate you are unlike these other guys she realises she can do all she wants with you and YOU WON'T COUNT! (in her book
) She will not have to worry about her friends finding out or you wanting all her attention, etc...-communicating that you want to be with her for who she is, not because she is a piece of meat with a hole in it. An easy way to think of this is when girls ask a guy "why me?". If you are able to answer that question and provide her with reasons why you want to spend time with her you are gold.
So if you can communicate these elements then you come from a real position of power in my opinion.
IMPORTANT!! This all may seem very huffy fluffy to some of you and I am sure some are thinking "fuck that beta shit about building safety". I am NOT saying you shouldn't be sexually forward. In fact it is a huge part of my game and I encourage all of you to do it as well. After all, trying to hide things makes you creepy. What I am saying is there is a way to be filthy and nasty with girls while providing them with a secure environment to do it in.
The guys who are good at bringing the inner slut out in girls are inherently good at this. Hopefully, some of this can get you thinking on how to incorporate this into your arsenal. Would love to hear other's views as well of course.