About six years ago I ended a six year relationship with a super sweet american girl. A solid 7.5 imo. She was the best girlfriend I've ever had before or since. In short, she wanted to get married and I didn't and we ended up breaking up after about six years together.
A large part of the reason I didn't want to marry her was that I wanted to sleep with more women. I was a pretty big pussy in my twenties and only slept with a few girls before her. That bothered me. I also didn't feel quite that same spark as I did during the first year or so. I guess you could say I was just bored and I wanted to play the field.
So.... I broke up with her six years ago. I was 32 then. Since then I've had quite a few short term relationships, one three year on and off relationship and I've been single again for the last year or so. I've slept with a lot of women since then.... at least for me. About 20 last year and 5 different girls within the last three weeks....
I'm feeling tired of the game. Tired of approaching girls. Tired of dealing with the drama. Tired of the process. And although I still like sex with new girls. It's really just not that exciting to me anymore. The rewards are diminishing for sure. I definitely don't get the same rush I used to. I used to be pumped for weeks after sex with a new girl. Now I'm slightly excited for an hour or so afterwards and the next day I feel like I'm right back where I started.
I don't regret breaking up with my ex. I would have never been happy with her had I continued. I did what I had to do at that point in my life and I've had so many crazy and fun experience I never would have had had we stayed together. I've traveled and lived in Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Panama, Peru and The Dominican Republic. I've slepts with dozens of new girls and it's been fun and rewarding in many, many ways.
But now... well I kind of want to find a girl like my ex: sweet, feminine, attractive, intelligent.... I feel like this girls are in short supply in the states...
So two questions?
Anybody else feel this way after a few years in the game?
And where to find such a sweet feminine creature for an in shape 38 year old guy with life experience to boot?
Thank you and I admit I'm a bit of a beta dude, but I'm starting to not care...My notch count satisfies my curiosity. Now I just want to find something more deep and long lasting with a cool girl and focus on other aspects of my life. So whatever you want to call that is what I am. BUT.... I refuse to settle. Finding a girlfriend is not the problem, it's finding THE girlfiend that is a little trickier.
A large part of the reason I didn't want to marry her was that I wanted to sleep with more women. I was a pretty big pussy in my twenties and only slept with a few girls before her. That bothered me. I also didn't feel quite that same spark as I did during the first year or so. I guess you could say I was just bored and I wanted to play the field.
So.... I broke up with her six years ago. I was 32 then. Since then I've had quite a few short term relationships, one three year on and off relationship and I've been single again for the last year or so. I've slept with a lot of women since then.... at least for me. About 20 last year and 5 different girls within the last three weeks....
I'm feeling tired of the game. Tired of approaching girls. Tired of dealing with the drama. Tired of the process. And although I still like sex with new girls. It's really just not that exciting to me anymore. The rewards are diminishing for sure. I definitely don't get the same rush I used to. I used to be pumped for weeks after sex with a new girl. Now I'm slightly excited for an hour or so afterwards and the next day I feel like I'm right back where I started.
I don't regret breaking up with my ex. I would have never been happy with her had I continued. I did what I had to do at that point in my life and I've had so many crazy and fun experience I never would have had had we stayed together. I've traveled and lived in Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Panama, Peru and The Dominican Republic. I've slepts with dozens of new girls and it's been fun and rewarding in many, many ways.
But now... well I kind of want to find a girl like my ex: sweet, feminine, attractive, intelligent.... I feel like this girls are in short supply in the states...
So two questions?
Anybody else feel this way after a few years in the game?
And where to find such a sweet feminine creature for an in shape 38 year old guy with life experience to boot?
Thank you and I admit I'm a bit of a beta dude, but I'm starting to not care...My notch count satisfies my curiosity. Now I just want to find something more deep and long lasting with a cool girl and focus on other aspects of my life. So whatever you want to call that is what I am. BUT.... I refuse to settle. Finding a girlfriend is not the problem, it's finding THE girlfiend that is a little trickier.