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If a guy is fat the first thing to fix is that. stop being a fat fuck. stop with the god damn sugar and count calories.
You're right, man. You're totally right. But there's a couple steps to this. If you're going to stop being fat, there's two steps you've got to go through before you can even really begin.
1.) Realizing that the way you are isn't okay.
This sounds obvious as hell, but the truth is nobody tells a fat person they have to lose weight outside places like these. In the outside world it's "healthy at every size" and fat people on TV. I was just watching some show called "Hitch" on the TV at the gym, and it had some obese dude hooking up with a supermodel. Sure, once a year his doctor will tell him if he doesn't lose 50 pounds he'll have blood pressure problems in 20 years, but since when has that ever helped? And a lot of doctors won't even do that anymore, since Chub-o-sauruses everywhere have taking to bitching at the slightest suggestion that they put down the ice cream scoop.
But here in the manosphere, we've raised fat-shaming to a high art. No place in the world is as negative towards the obese as this one. If you start reading places like Roosh, Bronan, or UMan, it'll only be a few days before you're ready to hop on an exercise bike and not get off for the next three months.
2.) Realizing that it's worth the effort to fix it.
You can make lots of jokes about "put down the spoon" and "stop eating so many damn snickers bars". You can make some really damn funny ones, actually. We've all done it. But the truth is that losing weight is really, really hard. It takes constant, sustained effort. If you're doing it right, you're very quickly going to become exhausted, hungry, out of breath, and probably in a lot amount of pain. And the fatter you are, the worse it's going to be. Some people have the willpower to do it off of intrinsic motivation. Most don't. You need something else to drive you forward when you've got one last set to do and your limbs feel like they're about to fall off. And the single best motivator for a human male is sex. And where do you go if you want to find out how to get sex? Here.
So yeah, you're right, but still it would've been nice if the OP could've given the poor bastard a head's up that his life could be better. No changing the past, of course, but if anybody reading this ever finds themselves in a similar situation, it's something to think about.