Quote: (12-15-2008 08:02 AM)X-Factor Wrote:
Just got back on the forums after a month and caught this thread. My two cents...
Trotter has done a good job at attempting to communicate ideas that are often not suited to communication. OP, you must have epiphanies and other flashes of insight, coupled with a desire to become a better man. That is the foundation you must seek. Put it this way: there are two roads you can take.
1) Become a vapid pua (a la Mystery in The Game), devoid of any real value and screwed in the head, or...
2) Become a REAL pua, who does not fake/feign confidence. He does not fake this because true confidence comes from the man who has set goals for himself and has achieved those goals. It comes from taking risks and stepping way outside your comfort zone. True confidence also comes from the knowledge that your life is freaking awesome, and any woman would be THRILLED to experience just a portion of your life. But you can't have an awesome life without setting goals to achieve.
Do you see what I'm getting at?
This is the perspective, mindset, and philosophy you must adopt in order to become the "alpha male." Being alpha is an attitude, not an action. And that attitude stems from your real life experiences, sacrifices, failures, and successes. It is the essence of who you are, and CANNOT be faked.
Re: the OP's original question, the answer is simple.
If you've done it correctly, there will be no question. It will just...be.
Respect.
That makes alot of sense, Ive come across the conclusion when Im posative,good things happen and I attract people and attitudes that are also posative and vice versa being negative, and if Im not mistaken your saying that it all has to deal with how I portray myself mentally and project that outward? Hence how I would like to be at one point and then acting upon that?