"The good thing is that I made myself approach more or less knowing it was not going to work AND I didn't feel any pain. It was just a lesson learned."
Why did you assume that "it was not going to work...", it sounds like you had a positive first interaction, you should have kept that confidence when you re-engaged her, it sounds like you went into it with a weak frame (you already assumed failure), which as you said effected your "state, positioning..." and neediness. You already know like you said that you need to strike when the iron is hot, but if you are in a small to mid-sized class with her, chances are you'll have other opportunities. Sometimes it is worth waiting a little while for a good situation, or try at least to create the logistics for opportunity (e.g. partner with her for a proj., sit next to her, etc., etc.).
Different situations call for different approaches, I had my head up my stoned-ass in college, so unfortunately I didn't run much game there (as well as having mostly dudes and a few uglies in most of my classes), but what I'm getting at is this isn't like bar, club, or street game. In that situation you can plant seeds and slowly cultivate them. I'd say re-engage this chick if she gives you an IOIs, but as always play it cool like you don't care too much.
Keep approaching, and trying, that is the only way to success, you will continue to fail, but through failure you will learn to succeed. Also, if you're not as interested with day/night game, you can try to work social circle game, by joining clubs and activities on campus, but always go for things that will have hot chicks, (yoga, spanish lang., salsa dancing, etc.)
Oh yeah, and don't ask girls out for "ice cream" in advance, it sounds super AFC/Beta to me, unless it's a spontaneous "insta-date" after class or something. Stick with drinks at a bar/lounge and if you're not 21, then hit her up to go to a party, or invite her to go to an art show, or hiking at a local park, followed by coffee/pastries, a drink at yourplace, etc....?
Why did you assume that "it was not going to work...", it sounds like you had a positive first interaction, you should have kept that confidence when you re-engaged her, it sounds like you went into it with a weak frame (you already assumed failure), which as you said effected your "state, positioning..." and neediness. You already know like you said that you need to strike when the iron is hot, but if you are in a small to mid-sized class with her, chances are you'll have other opportunities. Sometimes it is worth waiting a little while for a good situation, or try at least to create the logistics for opportunity (e.g. partner with her for a proj., sit next to her, etc., etc.).
Different situations call for different approaches, I had my head up my stoned-ass in college, so unfortunately I didn't run much game there (as well as having mostly dudes and a few uglies in most of my classes), but what I'm getting at is this isn't like bar, club, or street game. In that situation you can plant seeds and slowly cultivate them. I'd say re-engage this chick if she gives you an IOIs, but as always play it cool like you don't care too much.
Keep approaching, and trying, that is the only way to success, you will continue to fail, but through failure you will learn to succeed. Also, if you're not as interested with day/night game, you can try to work social circle game, by joining clubs and activities on campus, but always go for things that will have hot chicks, (yoga, spanish lang., salsa dancing, etc.)
Oh yeah, and don't ask girls out for "ice cream" in advance, it sounds super AFC/Beta to me, unless it's a spontaneous "insta-date" after class or something. Stick with drinks at a bar/lounge and if you're not 21, then hit her up to go to a party, or invite her to go to an art show, or hiking at a local park, followed by coffee/pastries, a drink at yourplace, etc....?