Quote: (09-03-2012 06:03 PM)ImWaitingForTheMan Wrote:
Quote: (09-03-2012 05:56 PM)basilransom Wrote:
Quote: (09-03-2012 04:12 PM)scorpion Wrote:
The combination of facebook, smartphones and online dating has significantly changed women's attitudes toward dating over the past decade. Because of these recent technologies, women are essentially in a 24/7 state of receiving attention from men. Her beta orbiters and potential lovers are blowing up her facebook wall and texting her constantly, and she can log in to her online dating profile from her phone for a quick ego boost to see all the men who want to fuck her.
This means that when you're on a date with her, you're not really on a date with her; you're on a date with her and every other dude on her radar at the time. Not only must your game be strong enough to surmount her natural defenses, it must set you head and shoulders above every other guy she's talking to at the moment. You basically have to blow a chick away with the power of your game (or status, or looks, or some other massive DHV) to keep her on the hook past the first date. The typical 7-8 in her prime is getting bombarded with male attention, and will think nothing of writing you off in favor of "the next guy" unless you clearly knock her socks off with a powerful masculine vibe that shakes her out of her smartphone-induced attention-whoring stupor.
I have a different take. Far more important than having the best game is being there. That's the whole benefit of a social circle. Be there in the right time and the right place, and getting laid is easy peasy. You have to have game, but you're only really competing with the other dudes immediately available nearby. And even they don't figure in much if they're not talking to her.
If girls said, 'ok I'm going to fuck and date the absolute coolest, hottest dude I can find,' you wouldn't see cute girls dating herbs. Girls are rewarding guys for being connected to them.
If you subtract date from the "ok i'm going to fuck and date the absolute coolest, hottest dude I can find" some of them do say that. I think social circle has a lot more to do with relationships than just fucking.
I suppose, but that level of mercenary ambition is kind of rare. The ones that do do that often have weak circles. Besides, for plenty of girls, a guy high in a social circle *is* cool, and being outside the circle isn't.