NYC is a big city to tackle so I wouldn't feel too bad. You have several options.
1) Explore the shit out of NYC while you are there. The place is a fantastic outpost of knowledge production... Arguably the top place in the world, and the anglo world, for the time being. Lectures, book signings, symposiums, conferences, they're all right there. That should cover one angle. Get yourself in a music scene; in NYC you have everything: techno, edm, metal, folk, rock, classical, punk and beyond. Get on a scene and make that your circuit. Subcultures are fucking amazing and a great way to establish a social circle/ social proof. I'd be hitting up raves in brooklyn every weekend if I was in your shoes, or the folk scene. Then there's the art scene, I'd be going to gallery openings and chatting up girls and enjoying free wine, what a way to educate yourself on contemporary art. Hell, even going to the museums opens the world and all these possibilities to you. Then you get into urban pastimes, like urban exploration, graffiti, hip hop and so on. That's a great way to explore. You have all these chill parks (I'm thinking especially of the Washington Square park that are amazing and great places for daygame. Explore the shit out of the city, find yourself an awesome jazz lounge to take girls and become worldly as fuck. The world is literally right there outside your stoop man.
2) If the chaos is not your thing, keep your head down and leave for the weekend. Hamptons, Upstate New York, Boston, DC, Vermont, and others. Day tripping is fantastic especially if you don't vibe well with the city you're in.
3) Fly the fuck out every month. Options would include: Iceland (cheap as hell from NYC) Miami, LA, Chicago, Europe, Central/ South America, etc. Being from NYC will give you a lot of status all over the globe and if you work on making yourself worldly, soon you'll have people from all over the world coming to see you (including girls you've met). You travel literally becomes your wingman at that point. You get to show people your city as much as you want, and have adventures. Also, Canada is close, and don't Canadians especially women in Montreal love New Yorkers?
Just keep positive man, you have so many options, and sounds like you have a good job on lock, so you're doing well. Just figure out the direction you're trying to go.
P.S. I did a post on unconventional date ideas, most of that post was the result of living in shitty city, I started to get more creative with what I was doing, and I started to like a lot more the place I was living in, because I was doing unconventional shit that was a lot more fun than bars and clubs, it's all just a matter of perspective: thread-69024...pid1920518
1) Explore the shit out of NYC while you are there. The place is a fantastic outpost of knowledge production... Arguably the top place in the world, and the anglo world, for the time being. Lectures, book signings, symposiums, conferences, they're all right there. That should cover one angle. Get yourself in a music scene; in NYC you have everything: techno, edm, metal, folk, rock, classical, punk and beyond. Get on a scene and make that your circuit. Subcultures are fucking amazing and a great way to establish a social circle/ social proof. I'd be hitting up raves in brooklyn every weekend if I was in your shoes, or the folk scene. Then there's the art scene, I'd be going to gallery openings and chatting up girls and enjoying free wine, what a way to educate yourself on contemporary art. Hell, even going to the museums opens the world and all these possibilities to you. Then you get into urban pastimes, like urban exploration, graffiti, hip hop and so on. That's a great way to explore. You have all these chill parks (I'm thinking especially of the Washington Square park that are amazing and great places for daygame. Explore the shit out of the city, find yourself an awesome jazz lounge to take girls and become worldly as fuck. The world is literally right there outside your stoop man.
2) If the chaos is not your thing, keep your head down and leave for the weekend. Hamptons, Upstate New York, Boston, DC, Vermont, and others. Day tripping is fantastic especially if you don't vibe well with the city you're in.
3) Fly the fuck out every month. Options would include: Iceland (cheap as hell from NYC) Miami, LA, Chicago, Europe, Central/ South America, etc. Being from NYC will give you a lot of status all over the globe and if you work on making yourself worldly, soon you'll have people from all over the world coming to see you (including girls you've met). You travel literally becomes your wingman at that point. You get to show people your city as much as you want, and have adventures. Also, Canada is close, and don't Canadians especially women in Montreal love New Yorkers?
Just keep positive man, you have so many options, and sounds like you have a good job on lock, so you're doing well. Just figure out the direction you're trying to go.
P.S. I did a post on unconventional date ideas, most of that post was the result of living in shitty city, I started to get more creative with what I was doing, and I started to like a lot more the place I was living in, because I was doing unconventional shit that was a lot more fun than bars and clubs, it's all just a matter of perspective: thread-69024...pid1920518