Quote: (09-06-2018 09:08 AM)Griprip08 Wrote:
Pretend your James Bond. Seriously, fucking do it. Pretend you are James Bond. Each and every girl that you find attractive, go up to them immediately (or within 60 seconds) and start talking. Anything.
Remember that you are the prize, and the girls are chasing you (indirectly and subversively of course).
Next time you are vibing with a girl, in the back of your mind start trying to get closer and closer to her. As someone else mentioned physical escalation is key as well (maybe you are telling a story and grab her arm to imitate something that happened to you). You should be finding any and every excuse to touch her (obviously within the realm of reason, nothing unnatural).
Remember that the game of seducing a girl you just met is rather slow, but always unfolding and progressing. It's like she's unwrapping a chocolate slowly, wondering if she should continue, hoping there is something delicious at the center/end of the unwrapping.
This is gold. Thank you! Great advice. I like the chocolate analogy, it's spot on.
Quote: (09-06-2018 09:27 PM)RedPillUK Wrote:
Why not focus on improving one thing at a time? Let's say escalation, basically touching a girl.
I still feel awkward doing it with new girls. It doesn't feel natural because I'm not the naturally touchy feely guy who touches basically everyone in the room. I had to force myself to do it until it became easier.
I've been on a date with a girl and not touched her and then lost my chance with her. I knew somehow I fucked up by not touching her at any point during the date, but I just didn't want to push myself out of my comfort zone and take a risk.
I rationalised it in my head as being a bad place to do it, or awkward or unnecessary or whatever.
Then I realised I was being a complete PUSSY.
I eventually manned up and said fuck it, I'm going to touch this girl without even a good reason and see what happens.
What is there to be afraid of? She might not like it? Slap me? Say I assaulted her? I don't give a fuck.
It's good if she backs off because then I know she's not interested, and if she does nothing I know she's interested. However I can't actually remember times when a girl has responded badly. I've walked up to girls I don't even know at a club who were blanking me and immediately put my arm around her waist and seen them warm up to me.
I say drink some liquid courage and go for it.
Wow what you described in the bold part is LITERALLY me. It's like we're the same. This is my exact struggles right now. I am not a touchy person at all and it seems forced to touch all the time, so i always wait for "that perfect moment" but it never comes. Because there is no perfect moment. You gotta create that moment with good game. It's nice reading that you've got ridden of that thought pattern we share. I think it's easier said than done, but definitely need to try your technique out. Say fuck it and put my self out there.
Quote: (09-03-2018 03:20 PM)Trent W. Wrote:
In the beginning touch lightly and don't hold it long. Hit and run, you touch and you create a distance. Your touches will be getting more intimate and last longer as time goes by. If she hooks, you isolate. Crucial that you do that.
Golden advice. Very useful!
Quote: (09-03-2018 03:20 PM)Trent W. Wrote:
As to not give any f*cks, it just comes with time.
Love this part. Well said.
@realogist true... sexual tension is a major factor. It can ease the touching part and make it more natural.
@tycotacos yeah i do the same, but the escalation part is what's lacking.
Quote: (09-08-2018 11:27 PM)Roswell87 Wrote:
4. Kiss her when you are feeling it but don’t kiss her out of fear
This is actually excellent advice. Thank you.
Quote: (09-09-2018 06:34 AM)Noir Wrote:
This will help you, visually, to understand the dynamics of escalating, imposing yourself in her space without needing to say a word.
Mandatory for all newbies as this seems to be a recurring theme.
I just finished watching this, i must say it's one of the best talks i've listened to. Visual examples is exactly what i am looking for and this guy nails it. Brilliant. This technique seems very interesting, need to give it a try on friday. It's perfect because i need to learn non verbal communication since all i've been doing is verbal and it hasn't been leading to much.