I’m caught between two general mindsets with women. Both come from places of confidence and I’ve had success with both. They are:
1. A play-it-cool, carefree attitude. If I don’t get the girl tonight I’ll get her another night, and if not, there are always other girls
2. A persistent, “I want this specific girl and I need her now,” demeanor where I’m upfront with my feelings toward her very quickly
I’ve always found the carefree attitude to fit me better personality-wise, but lately I’ve been wondering if I’m losing high-quality girls that I really connect with because I’m not aggressive and fast-acting enough.
How do you guys balance a non-scarcity vibe with a more aggressive, personalized approach?
1. A play-it-cool, carefree attitude. If I don’t get the girl tonight I’ll get her another night, and if not, there are always other girls
2. A persistent, “I want this specific girl and I need her now,” demeanor where I’m upfront with my feelings toward her very quickly
I’ve always found the carefree attitude to fit me better personality-wise, but lately I’ve been wondering if I’m losing high-quality girls that I really connect with because I’m not aggressive and fast-acting enough.
How do you guys balance a non-scarcity vibe with a more aggressive, personalized approach?