Quote: (04-25-2018 11:01 PM)JackinMelbourne Wrote:
Sounds to me like you didn't asses the situation.
You disrespected the guy by encroaching on his territory, totally not even acknowledging him which made him lose face, all while being arrogant about it. Perfectly normal reaction from an evolutionary perspective. AND you hung around plus escalated. The way to handle it would have been to shrug it off with "worth a shot, c ya" and gotten the fuck out of there. That would have let him be a hero in front of his hoes, kept it light hearted and would have elevated you as the dood who had balls to try, in case any other women were observing or you bumped into her later on...
Maybe in the future ask if BOTH of the ladies are his girlfriends and take him off guard while finding out what the situation is... bit more indirect with the approach.
You need to be careful and street-smarten up, the guy could have been someone who wouldn't think twice about knifing you in the car park later on. You don't know. That's the reality.
Absolutely right, in a pick-up with other people at the table you simply have to include them and attempt to befriend them. Once she said she had a bf, make some joke about would have sat down and gotten to know them better, but there's no room so you're heading off.
Why give static back to some jackhole?