Interesting week finishing my loop of central Laos. Elephants, an anniversary, and a cuckolded boyfriend.
Ooh baby this is gonna be good! It's a long post so grab a coffee. Maybe a sandwich.
I'd really appreciate feedback. I know you guys have been in my position. It's hard to be objective.
I feel like I'm in control of this situation. But tonight I could easily be in a Lao jail. Or catch an STD.
In short turns out my Laos 9 is a money girl. Well kinda. It's complicated.
I figured as much. I'm not phased. And still traveling with her.
She's great company. Never complains. Helps with bags. Decent translator. Always smiling. Defers all decisions to me. Near perfect travel companion.
We're cruising up the Mekong on slow boat. She just finished giving me an impromptu pedicure as I write this.
I still had to punish her. She's now paying her own way 50/50. No more subsidizing this "poor Lao girl". She fucked her game up. And it puts us both at risk.
Her current boyfriend is a beta blue pill NGO guy in Vientiane. I quickly picked up on their relationship. I ignored it like a good lover should.
His calls got more frequent to the point of being nonstop. It was only a matter of time before he became a loose cannon. She thought she could handle it. But her game is weak. I had to take control of the situation.
This is a communist country after all. Their are laws against foreigners even being alone in the same room with a local. Beta says he knows the police chief. And she was dumb enough to give him our rough itinerary.
She told him she was traveling for a month with two nieces. He bought it. She didn't tell her parents anything.
Her two cousins knew. They're a bestie triumvirate. I think they work as a team. She's the bait. They are the accomplices.
I had less than 24 hours in VTE. Just enough time to brunch with them. The English speaker is even asking me about my girls in other countries. I'm like common ladies. Don't play a player. We all know what's going on here.
Not sure how much I'm being vetted and for what purpose. Turns out her 70 year old Lao-French sponsor is on his deathbed back in France. They see I'm traveling all over the world and not working.
Last year I returned for Pi Mai. I met her parents, brothers, extended family, etc. I wanted to go to Luang Prabang which has parades. But she poo pooed that.
So she paid for my hotel stay in VTE. But I was quickly sleeping over her house. It was no secret what was going on.
Everyone accepted me with open arms. Her family held two separate Baci Ceremony. Not for me, but Lao New Year. Still I was honored to be included. One for her immediate family and one for around 60 of her extended family.
They were all really nice to me. We had several parties. Everyone treated like a me r for the family.
Her noisy neighbor finally got involved and made phone calls. He'd watch us pull in every night. Probably heard her coming hard through the walls too.
It reached her dad through the grapevine that I was staying nights in her home. He advised her to get me out before a cop came looking for a bribe.
Still they remained super nice to me. Then again I don't speak Lao. Not sure if it was about preserving a meal ticket or genuine hospitality?
Beta says the parents hate foreigners. That they were indifferent, even rude to him. Even after he made it known he'd planned to marry her. Maybe his personality is off-putting?
Maybe they parents are part of the scam? Both the beta bf and I deduce the sponsor bought the parent's house too. It seems well above their means. You can't argue with math.
I'm still not sure how I was introduced. More than a random tourist or friend. It was obvious we were a couple. It was made known to them we were banging.
Yet still no animosity. I never say much. Just smile and wave, boys.
Yes a lot of foreigners never come back. Or come back a few times before getting bored. So I planned my third visit in 6 months. But it turned into 8 before I arrived back in Laos.
I was maybe, supposed to show up in November. Told her I'd try my best to make it after rainy season. We could enjoy the boat races. But more likely I'd arrive in December.
Had to take care of things in New York and Los Angeles. Then I'd be free for a nice long trip the entire winter.
I wanted to start in Cambodia. Last winter I started off in Chengdu. Working my way south through Yunnan with a Chinese MLTR.
Hit Laos by CNY. By March I was in Champasak. But it was too hot to continue south into Cambodia. I should have started there and followed warm weather north.
So after that trip I crossed to Thailand. (Way cheaper to fly to BKK from inside Thailand.) Banged Isan girls in Ubon for a week. Then Tinder mini-marathon bangs in Bangkok.
Laos knew I had other girls. When I left for Thailand she implored me "just use condoms". I told her she could date too. She said it's different for girls. Even wept our final embrace in the airport. It was really touching.
In Tokyo I stayed with my Japanese MLTR. Hit some festivals in Izu Islands and explored Miura Peninsula. Then headed back to Laos for Pi Mai as mentioned.
Rest of the year was a flurry of travel. We kept in touch. She changed her Line & Whatsapp several times. Excuses were she was dumb and got locked out or smashed her phone.
On Facebook she liked literally every single one of my posts. Everyday. For the entire 8 months away! However I noticed she had two accounts like me (actually I have three hehe).
She gave me regular shit tests. Easy to pass. Constant guilt trips. Easy to dismiss with minor reassurance. Still it was annoying and irksome. Meanwhile she's painting herself as a saint patiently waiting for my return.
I postponed in November. Arrive to Cambodia December. I noticed she posted a meme photo about being single. I ignored it. Instead offered to fly her to Phnom Penh to meet me.
She claimed to be scared of international travel. But during the months away I'd seen photos of at least a few (sponsored?) trips to Thailand.
I figure just as well. I'll be free to bang Cambodia. Her loss.
Turns out around this time she started steady dating another guy in Vientiane. He met her on badoo. The Beta.
I met her in Bor Pen Yang Bar (both such wonderful places for wholesome girls). I figure she had a sponsor and maybe she only turned a few tricks a year.
Or was just out for good looking foreigner cock on Valentine's. After all I was able to SNL her without spending a nickel. She insisted on paying for everything.
Apparently my existence was entirely kept from Beta. Imagine his shock. His hot "girlfriend" has a hot lover.
So now when he isn't crying his heart out he's busy calling her parents, friends, etc doing his best to ruin her reputation. Even texting me. I spoke to him on phone too.
It wasn't hard to make him my buddy. He'd initially felt me out on social media. Sent a few friendly texts admiring my work. I was nonreactive. He escalated with insulation before going full tilt "You're fucking my GF".
Are you sure it's the right girl? Hmm. Wow. A love triangle. How could this be? So I slowly/quickly grab the frame away.
Let him know shoe was on other foot. We'd just celebrated our one year anniversary on Valentine's Day. She's actually MY girlfriend, hehe.
Now he sees me as a bigger victim. He feels even worse. He texts me screen shots of her messages.
It's great because he speaks Lao. He also asked questions I didn't. So he knew quite a bit more than me.
I use this information to game both him and her. She's still hiding the whole story from me. Her act is so good!
For instance: Her frame is she never even met this guy. Just Facebook friends. Her act is near flawless. She holds up under duress of questioning.
Even when I drop truth bombs she barely broke character. I got a split second of a true micro-expression. Then she was right back to crocodile tears and trying to embrace me.
While she was with me she's texting him bullshit:
"I love you too much"
"I miss you too much"
+ Emoticons
"Kiss Kiss"
It's word for word, emoticon for emoticon, the same shit I'd get from her over last 8 months.
Of course I'm game aware. I have abundance. Whether or not I play along. My skin really isn't in the game.
I do confess to licking her slit. Common she's a 9 with some sweet pussy. I usually get careless after awhile and start banging it raw. She squirts all over me like a fountain, too.
Funny thing is this guy knew more than me. He speaks Lao. He told me all about her sponsor over the phone. He was AWARE. More so than me!
I had only figured as much. But I didn't care. Secretly I think it's great. She's smart enough to fleece someone else. I don't need to worry about taking care of her. I can just reap the benefits. Good personality, great company, hot sex, professional massage, no commitments.
The good quality of her massages alone are suspect. She claims to have "learned from a friend". Yeah right!
Ok, so he's not FULLY aware bc he doesn't know about me being an MLTR. But he knew way more than me about the sponsor.
Yet he's still running around Vientiane introducing himself as the fiancée? Yikes!
Is he gaming me?
Or does he really want to marry this girl? A girl he met 3 months ago on badoo?! He thought they were going to have a baby...
To me this information was a long time coming. We had headed back down Ou River after chilling out several days in Ngoi Neua.
In Nong Khiaw we relaxed for Valentine's Day at bungalow on the river. Got a nice long massage from my girl with happy ending. Then some more afternoon delight.
Took a sunset hike up the Phadeng Lookout. Got some truly amazing photos of her and the both of us embracing.
Then hit Luang Prabang for a few more romantic days. Got even more dramatic video of her dressed up traditional doing Tak Bat at dawn.
Not to mention shooting a sex video one night. By this point her boyfriend was calling nonstop. I start humping her to the ringtone.
She starts recording, sets phone on nightstand, plays with my cock. Big cocky smirk across her face.
She's lifting me up doing angel. I'm motor boating her tits. Beta is calling nonstop. We're both laughing.
I'm on video like it's your boyfriend (its her second phone thats ringing). She's denying. I'm like it's Beta. Ha! I'd seen the name two weeks ago when I used her phone to call guesthouses. Every few days since I borrow it to make reservations. I could see she'd chatted him for 20 minutes.
She's playing half dumb, half naughty girl. Next few days we watched the video over and over. Again laughing our asses off each time.
But by Sainyabuli I began to worry. No guy is this stupid. He knows she's at the Elephant Festival. So she's trying to hide from the TV cameras. Of course they want to interview me bc I'm a foreigner.
Then we're both up on an elephant right up front for the closing ceremony. I'm sure he's watching it all live. Because I immediately start getting texts from him.
So it's gotten a bit annoying. I didn't bargain this guy into the equation. I'm not gonna subsidize her trip then have to sneak around bc of him. And have him stalking me too.
So Christmas is over. It's back to business. I had already broke my secret society rules a few days before. I posted a bunch of photos of her on Instagram and a few on Facebook.
They were just so goddamn beautiful. Had her dressed in ethnic minority costume at the loom weaving. I legit wanted to share them. I knew it was going to make several girls jealous.
Immediately two MLTRs stopped talking to me. But that was in the cards for them anyway. May actually jealous ploy them with it. Not sure I want to.
My Lao girl was like yeah I know you have other girls in other countries. I try to understand and accept it. You're that kind of man. But you don't post photos so it's ok. If I have to see their photo it's not OK.
So basically women can ignore/compartmentalize indecency so long as it's discreet. They need to be able to ignore it. Help them do it.
Or don't.
By this point she's been talking on the phone to a boyfriend in Laos every night. It's usually just 20 min while I'm in the shower. She was going outside at first. Then staying inside but shooshing me or hanging up if I talk.
I don't speak Laos. Surprisingly it was still pretty easy to understand what was going on. I subtly let her know that I knew. Not that it was perfectly OK with me, but I'm a realist. You do what you gotta do. I'll do what I have to do.
Still I felt she was crossing the line at times. A few nights into our first stop in Phonsavan she tried to grab the frame. She walked out, gave me silent treatment, refused to acknowledge me, or come into room. All over some minor restaurant bullshit (Laos don't like confrontation.) She sits in courtyard talking on phone to him.
Oh hell no. I put her shit outside and lock the door. She's pounding. I open. So now your ready to talk. Go ahead. She's dumbfounded. Tries to wait me out. Nope. Click.
She goes to another guesthouse but doesn't get the room. Comes back and waits in lobby bc our laundry is being done together. We have to separate it.
Here I fucked up. Well kinda. I'm practical over alpha. I wanted my massage and an early start in the morning. Walk her back to room.
She's not giving me much besides some tears. Bounces ball back to me. "Up to you"
Hmm ok fuck her hard, squirt her, massage, and we're in bed.
One telling thing: She was really shocked that I kicked her out. She was legit in tears. "No one ever do that to me". She repeated t a few times to herself. I remember thinking damn how many guys has your routine worked on?
Fast forward to this past V Day. Our one year anniversary. She hates how we met. Wants to fabricate a story. She insists she never goes to bars. Let alone the most notorious for escorts in Laos. Yeah right!!
I picked her up one year ago at Bor Pen Yang bar in Vientiane. I'd been having sundowners there with other tourists from my hostel. We went several nights and it was always ladyboys and obvious bar girls.
She stuck out bc she was in a group of three (more) normal looking girls. She wasn't beat-up looking like a typical SEA skank.
Quite the opposite. She was a real stunner. Slim. Elegant. Soft spoken. Reserved. Poised. But still shy and innocent.
Her English wasn't great but good enough. Her cousin's was better and she helped translate. Story was cousin had been married to a French guy and lived in France a year but now divorced. Story changed later. Was told I must have misunderstood. Sure, sure.
The hook was too easy. We venue changed a few times. She had a car and we drove separate from friends. Had her stop at my hotel to grab something so she saw my room and intentions were clear. A few hours later we were back there banging.
Next day she drove me around sightseeing. I then took her down south for a few weeks. We went to Konglor Cave together. Lost my wallet and had it returned in Savannakhet. Enjoyed the Tak Bat at Wat Phu Festival. Zipped around Boliven plateau on a multi day motorbike loop.
Truly romantic trip full of ancient culture, festivals, adventure, waterfalls, sex. Felt like we were falling in love. Well as much as two people like us can.
With her money almost out she got on a Pakse sleeper back home. Then I banged a bunch of Isan 7s. I'm cheat. And a scoundrel.
Sure she paid for some of her stuff. I was paying all the big stuff like hotel, bike, etc. I'd be paying for it anyway. A few times I may have payed her admissions but I felt her daily massages more than compensated.
I knew she was hiding things from me. I've been around the block. Traveling better part of a decade. I had an older divorcee in CT sponsor me in college. Car, cash, weekends at the lake house. I'm not an idiot.
A girl her age and beauty with her own house and car in the capitol? From a poor dirt village? (A village we passed on motorbike and she refused to stop and show me.) It's not impossible, but...
She took off work for several weeks at the drop of a hat to travel with me. She did it again this year.
Sure we had more planning. But what kind of a job offers that flexibility? She initially told me she buys things from weavers and sells it in the market. She did have a loom in her garage with a half done textile.
Now her story has changed. She makes licenses with her cousin. Oh cool! Can I get one! I want it to say boob inspector. For the beaches...
So should I keep her around?
I probably will. None of this surprises me. In a way I like her more.
Letting her know that I know supports my poly frame. I feel less guilty. She's now paying her own way too.
I put my foot down on money. She's giving me bullshit about her bank doesn't work anywhere by Vientiane. Clearly a ploy.
Never trust a woman.
Our trip could be several months of travel. I'm not due stateside until mid April. Not sure how she planned to keep this guy on the hook that long.
We were supposed to hit Thailand and China. Maybe even Myanmar. Though she's been rushing me since this happened.
I can tell part of her wants to be back home doing damage control. Fuck that. Let her minion cousins run clean up crew. We planned this trip for months.
She's cut this dude off. He's now messaging me asking to talk to her. He called me several times last night. As I'm takin sunset photos of her on Mekong! I didn't answer.
His texts flip flop between love lorn and pure hatred. He's talking to her family.
The cousin tried to tell him to wait me out. Because I can't stay in the country. Eventually she'll be home and he can take her back.
Then next morning he'll text that he talked to cousin again. And now she admits our girl is a prostitute frequenting Bor Penyang. She has sex for money. He's going to get an HIV test.
This isn't a one time thing. We're on a long trip. I expect her to take precautions for both our safety.
Honestly lady, you tell me the condoms are for your protection? Meanwhile your a bar hooker? I gave you benefit of doubt being upper class or sponsored by a cuckold.
You climb on top raw when I can't jizz? After all you do eat ass. Do your job and do it well!
How did she expect to keep him from finding out? He was asking to speak to the niece: she put random Laos girls on the line for a second.
He asked to see a pic: she sent him random ones of just the niece. She even sent him the pics I took of her (edited to look like a stunner).
Her pics usually look like Rainman took them. All crooked and off center. Then all of a sudden shes posting professional photos on top of mountains?!
Maybe she doesn't care? Because she's got other guys too? Or can easily go on Badoo. She's been active there in the last week according to Beta.
I can't say I care. Most of the time she's massaging me I'm on Tinder and Badoo myself. I'm sure she sees it. She's walking on my back.
Maybe she isn't as savvy as I'd thought. Hot girls don't travel like this. They get flown around and stay in hotels. Easier to cover up.
At Pi Mai I grabbed some photos she took of me off her phone. I see a fat bald Arab guy took her to Luang Prabang. Not a sheik, but probably an expat biz guy. Photos are of him, her, fancy double bed hotel room. Their legs touching in water at the falls. Hands barely holding while walking.
I didn't ask. Not my business. Seemed before she had met me. Figured she just used him. Probably got away without even giving him sex. Half the time I wouldn't bang my old lady either. Just go eat and dumb shit like that.
Does make me think twice about raw dogging her. But it's so much better. A bonus of this drama is I'm back to popping in her mouth.
After my Elephant Festival interrogation I bent her over and took her hard. Gave her my load. Then kicked her out.
Told her there was a bus to Vientiane. She asks you want me to go? I zing her "Up to yououuu" in her same sing song Bullshit tone. Two can play!
She just goes and gets a room above me. After a nap I head upstairs. Made her call beta in front of me. Apologize to him. Tell him she lied. She doesn't really love him. She loves me. She chooses me.
She tried to speak Lao. I made her speak English. Her apology was rushed. She had a smirk on her face. She tried to cover her face with a towel. What a cunt!
Beta was livid. Saying he's gonna spit in her face. Blah blah. Sounded totally shit-faced drunk. Told me he'd been drinking all day.
I honestly felt she owed this guy an apology. I don't see why she needed to punk AND cuckold him so callously.
He speaks Lao. She could have said her boyfriend came back and she needs time. Or something reasonable. He'd wait for her. He's obviously that kind of guy.
He's been messaging me several times per day. Sends photos of them. Screenshots of texts. Says over and over I should dump her and the reasons why. To send her home.
I mostly just agree with him. Tell him I feel bad too. Which I do. That it should have been handled differently. That if he wants a good Lao wife and mother he should move on.
I don't want to have to run this damage control my entire time in country. I'm sure I could string him along for weeks. Honestly I think he needs the bro support.
She claims to have cut off all contact. I suspect they're in touch or will be. He still wants her back. I think most of his shit is a veiled attempt to game me.
Thing is I have her now. I see little point in sending her home until I finish the entire country. Then they both can do whatever SHE wants. I'll be out of the picture.
But right now I'm in control. And I have a schedule to keep.
She brings up money everyday. Says she's running out. Blah blah. I keep telling her to cut the crap. Stop treating me like I'm an idiot.
Will visa run into Chang Rai. My second land crossing to Thailand this year.
Is there still a limit?
I read online there was at first. But Thailand scrapped it. You can now enter by land unlimited times with a two week visa waiver. Air is still 30 days.
Beta messaged me there was still a limit. Trying to scare me with another reason to dump her.
He has a work visa. Wanted to point out if I try to date her in Vientiane I must fly for visa runs.
I think he's wrong. Not that it matters.
Thoughts?
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Xayaboury Elephant Festival
It was awesome. Almost 70 working Asian elephants from different areas gather for 3 days.
I advise going on Friday. Same ceremony and show minus Saturdays huge crowd. Some elephants aren't as dressed up. It's essentially a practice day for main day.
On Saturday they open with ethnic dancing by costumed kids. It's rather disappointing if you've visited the ethnic villages already. They end with an Elephant Baci Ceremony.
Sunday is the wrap up. Good day to be up on the elephants during the festival. They end with awards and elephant buffet.
Events are 8-11am. Saturday started a little earlier. Not much in afternoons as it's too hot. Elephants can only work 3-4 hours.
The show is elephant tricks, racing, soccer penalty shots, painting canvas, etc.
Not terribly exciting if you've done seen other elephant shows in Asia. But for sheer numbers it's good.
Walk back to hotel over bamboo bridge to north of main bridge each day. You can watch elephants cooking off and bathing in river. Same early in morning.
The stadium is just across the bridge over Nam Heouang River. Fairgrounds and paddock opposite. Maybe 20 min walk from the Main Street with all the guesthouses. No need to rent a motorbike.
At night the ethnic costume dance show is modern kids. Not worthwhile unless you've never seen the outfits. Better to rest and get up early.
The fairgrounds have a carnival. Dusty and typical. Only worthwhile thing was cheap fresh strawberry shakes. They grow them near Hongsa. Hard to find in Laos.
Pak Lai also had some kind of concurrent ethnic festival with giant masks. Phabet or something like that. Pak Lai is 110km south towards Vientiane.
ElefantAsia no longer runs the elephant festival. Sounds like the government took it away from them. When I called to ask they seemed bitter about it.
That NGO still runs the Elephant Conservation Center. Guidebook said $60 for a day. Over the phone they said I had to pay $250, stay overnight, and use their transport to/from.
They wouldn't accommodate me for a quick tour. Nor would they give a discount to a Lao person. So $500 for two people to look around. Crazy.
Seems they have no problem busing Japanese tourists down from Luang Prabang at those prices. Try Sakura Tour for that.
Planned to stay a night in Hongsa. Guidebook said Brazilian anthropologist runs eco elephant treks. Called her. She moved to Luang Prabang. Hongsa has a new Thai coal plant but nothing to do but choke on it.
Ban Veingkeo 5km south of Hongsa has 17 elephants in a Tai Liu village but they were all still in Sainyabuli city.
Minivan to Muang Ngeun arrives too late to connect to Pakbeng via the new bridge over Mekong. Finished last year so bus routes still suck. Nothing to do there either. Just a border town.
Had 7 of us ready to pay minivan to continue on to Pakbeng for 50,000K. We negotiate down to 30,000K. Two EE tourists decide that's too much. They will hitch. 3 French decide to cross into Thailand.
Sitting at bus station a km outside down with my bags. No bus till morning and total shit guesthouse. Walk to Chinese market. A tuk tuk wants 50,000K/pp (same as morning bus).
I go out to road. Open my umbrella and stick out my thumb "Pakbeng!" "PAKBENG!" Like a silly Retard. Within a few minutes a pickup stops and starts making room. Crazy falang completely nailed it!
We see the dirtbag EE backpackers. Take pity. Ask driver to pick them up. My girl is chatting driver in Laos so he says ok. But they have to sit in back with the pile of dirt. They're happy.
Not much in Pakbeng. Arrive in time for sunset. A few decent restaurants but too busy to get food quick. We have some fresh croissants and BBQ.
Maybe some waterfalls and caves in Pakbeng if you stick around. We couldn't find a motorbike though. Tourist center didn't open until 8am.
8am slowboat upriver. The backpacker buys me a beer and I do this write up. Captain likes my girl. Let's me hold the wheel briefly.
Otherwise pretty boring. Can't imagine doing the full two days. Thankfully boat has airline seats and a table. Not hard benches. 8-9 hours to bokeo. Bring a chick to rub your feet.
Ooh baby this is gonna be good! It's a long post so grab a coffee. Maybe a sandwich.
I'd really appreciate feedback. I know you guys have been in my position. It's hard to be objective.
I feel like I'm in control of this situation. But tonight I could easily be in a Lao jail. Or catch an STD.
In short turns out my Laos 9 is a money girl. Well kinda. It's complicated.
I figured as much. I'm not phased. And still traveling with her.
She's great company. Never complains. Helps with bags. Decent translator. Always smiling. Defers all decisions to me. Near perfect travel companion.
We're cruising up the Mekong on slow boat. She just finished giving me an impromptu pedicure as I write this.
I still had to punish her. She's now paying her own way 50/50. No more subsidizing this "poor Lao girl". She fucked her game up. And it puts us both at risk.
Her current boyfriend is a beta blue pill NGO guy in Vientiane. I quickly picked up on their relationship. I ignored it like a good lover should.
His calls got more frequent to the point of being nonstop. It was only a matter of time before he became a loose cannon. She thought she could handle it. But her game is weak. I had to take control of the situation.
This is a communist country after all. Their are laws against foreigners even being alone in the same room with a local. Beta says he knows the police chief. And she was dumb enough to give him our rough itinerary.
She told him she was traveling for a month with two nieces. He bought it. She didn't tell her parents anything.
Her two cousins knew. They're a bestie triumvirate. I think they work as a team. She's the bait. They are the accomplices.
I had less than 24 hours in VTE. Just enough time to brunch with them. The English speaker is even asking me about my girls in other countries. I'm like common ladies. Don't play a player. We all know what's going on here.
Not sure how much I'm being vetted and for what purpose. Turns out her 70 year old Lao-French sponsor is on his deathbed back in France. They see I'm traveling all over the world and not working.
Last year I returned for Pi Mai. I met her parents, brothers, extended family, etc. I wanted to go to Luang Prabang which has parades. But she poo pooed that.
So she paid for my hotel stay in VTE. But I was quickly sleeping over her house. It was no secret what was going on.
Everyone accepted me with open arms. Her family held two separate Baci Ceremony. Not for me, but Lao New Year. Still I was honored to be included. One for her immediate family and one for around 60 of her extended family.
They were all really nice to me. We had several parties. Everyone treated like a me r for the family.
Her noisy neighbor finally got involved and made phone calls. He'd watch us pull in every night. Probably heard her coming hard through the walls too.
It reached her dad through the grapevine that I was staying nights in her home. He advised her to get me out before a cop came looking for a bribe.
Still they remained super nice to me. Then again I don't speak Lao. Not sure if it was about preserving a meal ticket or genuine hospitality?
Beta says the parents hate foreigners. That they were indifferent, even rude to him. Even after he made it known he'd planned to marry her. Maybe his personality is off-putting?
Maybe they parents are part of the scam? Both the beta bf and I deduce the sponsor bought the parent's house too. It seems well above their means. You can't argue with math.
I'm still not sure how I was introduced. More than a random tourist or friend. It was obvious we were a couple. It was made known to them we were banging.
Yet still no animosity. I never say much. Just smile and wave, boys.
Yes a lot of foreigners never come back. Or come back a few times before getting bored. So I planned my third visit in 6 months. But it turned into 8 before I arrived back in Laos.
I was maybe, supposed to show up in November. Told her I'd try my best to make it after rainy season. We could enjoy the boat races. But more likely I'd arrive in December.
Had to take care of things in New York and Los Angeles. Then I'd be free for a nice long trip the entire winter.
I wanted to start in Cambodia. Last winter I started off in Chengdu. Working my way south through Yunnan with a Chinese MLTR.
Hit Laos by CNY. By March I was in Champasak. But it was too hot to continue south into Cambodia. I should have started there and followed warm weather north.
So after that trip I crossed to Thailand. (Way cheaper to fly to BKK from inside Thailand.) Banged Isan girls in Ubon for a week. Then Tinder mini-marathon bangs in Bangkok.
Laos knew I had other girls. When I left for Thailand she implored me "just use condoms". I told her she could date too. She said it's different for girls. Even wept our final embrace in the airport. It was really touching.
In Tokyo I stayed with my Japanese MLTR. Hit some festivals in Izu Islands and explored Miura Peninsula. Then headed back to Laos for Pi Mai as mentioned.
Rest of the year was a flurry of travel. We kept in touch. She changed her Line & Whatsapp several times. Excuses were she was dumb and got locked out or smashed her phone.
On Facebook she liked literally every single one of my posts. Everyday. For the entire 8 months away! However I noticed she had two accounts like me (actually I have three hehe).
She gave me regular shit tests. Easy to pass. Constant guilt trips. Easy to dismiss with minor reassurance. Still it was annoying and irksome. Meanwhile she's painting herself as a saint patiently waiting for my return.
I postponed in November. Arrive to Cambodia December. I noticed she posted a meme photo about being single. I ignored it. Instead offered to fly her to Phnom Penh to meet me.
She claimed to be scared of international travel. But during the months away I'd seen photos of at least a few (sponsored?) trips to Thailand.
I figure just as well. I'll be free to bang Cambodia. Her loss.
Turns out around this time she started steady dating another guy in Vientiane. He met her on badoo. The Beta.
I met her in Bor Pen Yang Bar (both such wonderful places for wholesome girls). I figure she had a sponsor and maybe she only turned a few tricks a year.
Or was just out for good looking foreigner cock on Valentine's. After all I was able to SNL her without spending a nickel. She insisted on paying for everything.
Apparently my existence was entirely kept from Beta. Imagine his shock. His hot "girlfriend" has a hot lover.
So now when he isn't crying his heart out he's busy calling her parents, friends, etc doing his best to ruin her reputation. Even texting me. I spoke to him on phone too.
It wasn't hard to make him my buddy. He'd initially felt me out on social media. Sent a few friendly texts admiring my work. I was nonreactive. He escalated with insulation before going full tilt "You're fucking my GF".
Are you sure it's the right girl? Hmm. Wow. A love triangle. How could this be? So I slowly/quickly grab the frame away.
Let him know shoe was on other foot. We'd just celebrated our one year anniversary on Valentine's Day. She's actually MY girlfriend, hehe.
Now he sees me as a bigger victim. He feels even worse. He texts me screen shots of her messages.
It's great because he speaks Lao. He also asked questions I didn't. So he knew quite a bit more than me.
I use this information to game both him and her. She's still hiding the whole story from me. Her act is so good!
For instance: Her frame is she never even met this guy. Just Facebook friends. Her act is near flawless. She holds up under duress of questioning.
Even when I drop truth bombs she barely broke character. I got a split second of a true micro-expression. Then she was right back to crocodile tears and trying to embrace me.
While she was with me she's texting him bullshit:
"I love you too much"
"I miss you too much"
+ Emoticons
"Kiss Kiss"
It's word for word, emoticon for emoticon, the same shit I'd get from her over last 8 months.
Of course I'm game aware. I have abundance. Whether or not I play along. My skin really isn't in the game.
I do confess to licking her slit. Common she's a 9 with some sweet pussy. I usually get careless after awhile and start banging it raw. She squirts all over me like a fountain, too.
Funny thing is this guy knew more than me. He speaks Lao. He told me all about her sponsor over the phone. He was AWARE. More so than me!
I had only figured as much. But I didn't care. Secretly I think it's great. She's smart enough to fleece someone else. I don't need to worry about taking care of her. I can just reap the benefits. Good personality, great company, hot sex, professional massage, no commitments.
The good quality of her massages alone are suspect. She claims to have "learned from a friend". Yeah right!
Ok, so he's not FULLY aware bc he doesn't know about me being an MLTR. But he knew way more than me about the sponsor.
Yet he's still running around Vientiane introducing himself as the fiancée? Yikes!
Is he gaming me?
Or does he really want to marry this girl? A girl he met 3 months ago on badoo?! He thought they were going to have a baby...
To me this information was a long time coming. We had headed back down Ou River after chilling out several days in Ngoi Neua.
In Nong Khiaw we relaxed for Valentine's Day at bungalow on the river. Got a nice long massage from my girl with happy ending. Then some more afternoon delight.
Took a sunset hike up the Phadeng Lookout. Got some truly amazing photos of her and the both of us embracing.
Then hit Luang Prabang for a few more romantic days. Got even more dramatic video of her dressed up traditional doing Tak Bat at dawn.
Not to mention shooting a sex video one night. By this point her boyfriend was calling nonstop. I start humping her to the ringtone.
She starts recording, sets phone on nightstand, plays with my cock. Big cocky smirk across her face.
She's lifting me up doing angel. I'm motor boating her tits. Beta is calling nonstop. We're both laughing.
I'm on video like it's your boyfriend (its her second phone thats ringing). She's denying. I'm like it's Beta. Ha! I'd seen the name two weeks ago when I used her phone to call guesthouses. Every few days since I borrow it to make reservations. I could see she'd chatted him for 20 minutes.
She's playing half dumb, half naughty girl. Next few days we watched the video over and over. Again laughing our asses off each time.
But by Sainyabuli I began to worry. No guy is this stupid. He knows she's at the Elephant Festival. So she's trying to hide from the TV cameras. Of course they want to interview me bc I'm a foreigner.
Then we're both up on an elephant right up front for the closing ceremony. I'm sure he's watching it all live. Because I immediately start getting texts from him.
So it's gotten a bit annoying. I didn't bargain this guy into the equation. I'm not gonna subsidize her trip then have to sneak around bc of him. And have him stalking me too.
So Christmas is over. It's back to business. I had already broke my secret society rules a few days before. I posted a bunch of photos of her on Instagram and a few on Facebook.
They were just so goddamn beautiful. Had her dressed in ethnic minority costume at the loom weaving. I legit wanted to share them. I knew it was going to make several girls jealous.
Immediately two MLTRs stopped talking to me. But that was in the cards for them anyway. May actually jealous ploy them with it. Not sure I want to.
My Lao girl was like yeah I know you have other girls in other countries. I try to understand and accept it. You're that kind of man. But you don't post photos so it's ok. If I have to see their photo it's not OK.
So basically women can ignore/compartmentalize indecency so long as it's discreet. They need to be able to ignore it. Help them do it.
Or don't.
By this point she's been talking on the phone to a boyfriend in Laos every night. It's usually just 20 min while I'm in the shower. She was going outside at first. Then staying inside but shooshing me or hanging up if I talk.
I don't speak Laos. Surprisingly it was still pretty easy to understand what was going on. I subtly let her know that I knew. Not that it was perfectly OK with me, but I'm a realist. You do what you gotta do. I'll do what I have to do.
Still I felt she was crossing the line at times. A few nights into our first stop in Phonsavan she tried to grab the frame. She walked out, gave me silent treatment, refused to acknowledge me, or come into room. All over some minor restaurant bullshit (Laos don't like confrontation.) She sits in courtyard talking on phone to him.
Oh hell no. I put her shit outside and lock the door. She's pounding. I open. So now your ready to talk. Go ahead. She's dumbfounded. Tries to wait me out. Nope. Click.
She goes to another guesthouse but doesn't get the room. Comes back and waits in lobby bc our laundry is being done together. We have to separate it.
Here I fucked up. Well kinda. I'm practical over alpha. I wanted my massage and an early start in the morning. Walk her back to room.
She's not giving me much besides some tears. Bounces ball back to me. "Up to you"
Hmm ok fuck her hard, squirt her, massage, and we're in bed.
One telling thing: She was really shocked that I kicked her out. She was legit in tears. "No one ever do that to me". She repeated t a few times to herself. I remember thinking damn how many guys has your routine worked on?
Fast forward to this past V Day. Our one year anniversary. She hates how we met. Wants to fabricate a story. She insists she never goes to bars. Let alone the most notorious for escorts in Laos. Yeah right!!
I picked her up one year ago at Bor Pen Yang bar in Vientiane. I'd been having sundowners there with other tourists from my hostel. We went several nights and it was always ladyboys and obvious bar girls.
She stuck out bc she was in a group of three (more) normal looking girls. She wasn't beat-up looking like a typical SEA skank.
Quite the opposite. She was a real stunner. Slim. Elegant. Soft spoken. Reserved. Poised. But still shy and innocent.
Her English wasn't great but good enough. Her cousin's was better and she helped translate. Story was cousin had been married to a French guy and lived in France a year but now divorced. Story changed later. Was told I must have misunderstood. Sure, sure.
The hook was too easy. We venue changed a few times. She had a car and we drove separate from friends. Had her stop at my hotel to grab something so she saw my room and intentions were clear. A few hours later we were back there banging.
Next day she drove me around sightseeing. I then took her down south for a few weeks. We went to Konglor Cave together. Lost my wallet and had it returned in Savannakhet. Enjoyed the Tak Bat at Wat Phu Festival. Zipped around Boliven plateau on a multi day motorbike loop.
Truly romantic trip full of ancient culture, festivals, adventure, waterfalls, sex. Felt like we were falling in love. Well as much as two people like us can.
With her money almost out she got on a Pakse sleeper back home. Then I banged a bunch of Isan 7s. I'm cheat. And a scoundrel.
Sure she paid for some of her stuff. I was paying all the big stuff like hotel, bike, etc. I'd be paying for it anyway. A few times I may have payed her admissions but I felt her daily massages more than compensated.
I knew she was hiding things from me. I've been around the block. Traveling better part of a decade. I had an older divorcee in CT sponsor me in college. Car, cash, weekends at the lake house. I'm not an idiot.
A girl her age and beauty with her own house and car in the capitol? From a poor dirt village? (A village we passed on motorbike and she refused to stop and show me.) It's not impossible, but...
She took off work for several weeks at the drop of a hat to travel with me. She did it again this year.
Sure we had more planning. But what kind of a job offers that flexibility? She initially told me she buys things from weavers and sells it in the market. She did have a loom in her garage with a half done textile.
Now her story has changed. She makes licenses with her cousin. Oh cool! Can I get one! I want it to say boob inspector. For the beaches...
So should I keep her around?
I probably will. None of this surprises me. In a way I like her more.
Letting her know that I know supports my poly frame. I feel less guilty. She's now paying her own way too.
I put my foot down on money. She's giving me bullshit about her bank doesn't work anywhere by Vientiane. Clearly a ploy.
Never trust a woman.
Our trip could be several months of travel. I'm not due stateside until mid April. Not sure how she planned to keep this guy on the hook that long.
We were supposed to hit Thailand and China. Maybe even Myanmar. Though she's been rushing me since this happened.
I can tell part of her wants to be back home doing damage control. Fuck that. Let her minion cousins run clean up crew. We planned this trip for months.
She's cut this dude off. He's now messaging me asking to talk to her. He called me several times last night. As I'm takin sunset photos of her on Mekong! I didn't answer.
His texts flip flop between love lorn and pure hatred. He's talking to her family.
The cousin tried to tell him to wait me out. Because I can't stay in the country. Eventually she'll be home and he can take her back.
Then next morning he'll text that he talked to cousin again. And now she admits our girl is a prostitute frequenting Bor Penyang. She has sex for money. He's going to get an HIV test.
This isn't a one time thing. We're on a long trip. I expect her to take precautions for both our safety.
Honestly lady, you tell me the condoms are for your protection? Meanwhile your a bar hooker? I gave you benefit of doubt being upper class or sponsored by a cuckold.
You climb on top raw when I can't jizz? After all you do eat ass. Do your job and do it well!
How did she expect to keep him from finding out? He was asking to speak to the niece: she put random Laos girls on the line for a second.
He asked to see a pic: she sent him random ones of just the niece. She even sent him the pics I took of her (edited to look like a stunner).
Her pics usually look like Rainman took them. All crooked and off center. Then all of a sudden shes posting professional photos on top of mountains?!
Maybe she doesn't care? Because she's got other guys too? Or can easily go on Badoo. She's been active there in the last week according to Beta.
I can't say I care. Most of the time she's massaging me I'm on Tinder and Badoo myself. I'm sure she sees it. She's walking on my back.
Maybe she isn't as savvy as I'd thought. Hot girls don't travel like this. They get flown around and stay in hotels. Easier to cover up.
At Pi Mai I grabbed some photos she took of me off her phone. I see a fat bald Arab guy took her to Luang Prabang. Not a sheik, but probably an expat biz guy. Photos are of him, her, fancy double bed hotel room. Their legs touching in water at the falls. Hands barely holding while walking.
I didn't ask. Not my business. Seemed before she had met me. Figured she just used him. Probably got away without even giving him sex. Half the time I wouldn't bang my old lady either. Just go eat and dumb shit like that.
Does make me think twice about raw dogging her. But it's so much better. A bonus of this drama is I'm back to popping in her mouth.
After my Elephant Festival interrogation I bent her over and took her hard. Gave her my load. Then kicked her out.
Told her there was a bus to Vientiane. She asks you want me to go? I zing her "Up to yououuu" in her same sing song Bullshit tone. Two can play!
She just goes and gets a room above me. After a nap I head upstairs. Made her call beta in front of me. Apologize to him. Tell him she lied. She doesn't really love him. She loves me. She chooses me.
She tried to speak Lao. I made her speak English. Her apology was rushed. She had a smirk on her face. She tried to cover her face with a towel. What a cunt!
Beta was livid. Saying he's gonna spit in her face. Blah blah. Sounded totally shit-faced drunk. Told me he'd been drinking all day.
I honestly felt she owed this guy an apology. I don't see why she needed to punk AND cuckold him so callously.
He speaks Lao. She could have said her boyfriend came back and she needs time. Or something reasonable. He'd wait for her. He's obviously that kind of guy.
He's been messaging me several times per day. Sends photos of them. Screenshots of texts. Says over and over I should dump her and the reasons why. To send her home.
I mostly just agree with him. Tell him I feel bad too. Which I do. That it should have been handled differently. That if he wants a good Lao wife and mother he should move on.
I don't want to have to run this damage control my entire time in country. I'm sure I could string him along for weeks. Honestly I think he needs the bro support.
She claims to have cut off all contact. I suspect they're in touch or will be. He still wants her back. I think most of his shit is a veiled attempt to game me.
Thing is I have her now. I see little point in sending her home until I finish the entire country. Then they both can do whatever SHE wants. I'll be out of the picture.
But right now I'm in control. And I have a schedule to keep.
She brings up money everyday. Says she's running out. Blah blah. I keep telling her to cut the crap. Stop treating me like I'm an idiot.
Will visa run into Chang Rai. My second land crossing to Thailand this year.
Is there still a limit?
I read online there was at first. But Thailand scrapped it. You can now enter by land unlimited times with a two week visa waiver. Air is still 30 days.
Beta messaged me there was still a limit. Trying to scare me with another reason to dump her.
He has a work visa. Wanted to point out if I try to date her in Vientiane I must fly for visa runs.
I think he's wrong. Not that it matters.
Thoughts?
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Xayaboury Elephant Festival
It was awesome. Almost 70 working Asian elephants from different areas gather for 3 days.
I advise going on Friday. Same ceremony and show minus Saturdays huge crowd. Some elephants aren't as dressed up. It's essentially a practice day for main day.
On Saturday they open with ethnic dancing by costumed kids. It's rather disappointing if you've visited the ethnic villages already. They end with an Elephant Baci Ceremony.
Sunday is the wrap up. Good day to be up on the elephants during the festival. They end with awards and elephant buffet.
Events are 8-11am. Saturday started a little earlier. Not much in afternoons as it's too hot. Elephants can only work 3-4 hours.
The show is elephant tricks, racing, soccer penalty shots, painting canvas, etc.
Not terribly exciting if you've done seen other elephant shows in Asia. But for sheer numbers it's good.
Walk back to hotel over bamboo bridge to north of main bridge each day. You can watch elephants cooking off and bathing in river. Same early in morning.
The stadium is just across the bridge over Nam Heouang River. Fairgrounds and paddock opposite. Maybe 20 min walk from the Main Street with all the guesthouses. No need to rent a motorbike.
At night the ethnic costume dance show is modern kids. Not worthwhile unless you've never seen the outfits. Better to rest and get up early.
The fairgrounds have a carnival. Dusty and typical. Only worthwhile thing was cheap fresh strawberry shakes. They grow them near Hongsa. Hard to find in Laos.
Pak Lai also had some kind of concurrent ethnic festival with giant masks. Phabet or something like that. Pak Lai is 110km south towards Vientiane.
ElefantAsia no longer runs the elephant festival. Sounds like the government took it away from them. When I called to ask they seemed bitter about it.
That NGO still runs the Elephant Conservation Center. Guidebook said $60 for a day. Over the phone they said I had to pay $250, stay overnight, and use their transport to/from.
They wouldn't accommodate me for a quick tour. Nor would they give a discount to a Lao person. So $500 for two people to look around. Crazy.
Seems they have no problem busing Japanese tourists down from Luang Prabang at those prices. Try Sakura Tour for that.
Planned to stay a night in Hongsa. Guidebook said Brazilian anthropologist runs eco elephant treks. Called her. She moved to Luang Prabang. Hongsa has a new Thai coal plant but nothing to do but choke on it.
Ban Veingkeo 5km south of Hongsa has 17 elephants in a Tai Liu village but they were all still in Sainyabuli city.
Minivan to Muang Ngeun arrives too late to connect to Pakbeng via the new bridge over Mekong. Finished last year so bus routes still suck. Nothing to do there either. Just a border town.
Had 7 of us ready to pay minivan to continue on to Pakbeng for 50,000K. We negotiate down to 30,000K. Two EE tourists decide that's too much. They will hitch. 3 French decide to cross into Thailand.
Sitting at bus station a km outside down with my bags. No bus till morning and total shit guesthouse. Walk to Chinese market. A tuk tuk wants 50,000K/pp (same as morning bus).
I go out to road. Open my umbrella and stick out my thumb "Pakbeng!" "PAKBENG!" Like a silly Retard. Within a few minutes a pickup stops and starts making room. Crazy falang completely nailed it!
We see the dirtbag EE backpackers. Take pity. Ask driver to pick them up. My girl is chatting driver in Laos so he says ok. But they have to sit in back with the pile of dirt. They're happy.
Not much in Pakbeng. Arrive in time for sunset. A few decent restaurants but too busy to get food quick. We have some fresh croissants and BBQ.
Maybe some waterfalls and caves in Pakbeng if you stick around. We couldn't find a motorbike though. Tourist center didn't open until 8am.
8am slowboat upriver. The backpacker buys me a beer and I do this write up. Captain likes my girl. Let's me hold the wheel briefly.
Otherwise pretty boring. Can't imagine doing the full two days. Thankfully boat has airline seats and a table. Not hard benches. 8-9 hours to bokeo. Bring a chick to rub your feet.