How does one deal with a long dry spell? The thrist, mental and physical frustration
02-07-2017, 08:38 PM
This isn't a "woe is me" post because at the end of the day, the answer is to give it my all and approach and interact with women.
But as we know, thirst and desperation can be quite obvious acting as a repellent to women so it makes it harder to break the cycle making you even more desperate, thirsty and un-confident. I've noticed that over the past few days, my thirst has gone up and it's messing me up. It's difficult to have an abundance mindset when you're starving.
I've mentioned previously that I'm in a long dry spell. It's been 13.5 months since I've had sex and almost 8 months since I've had any action (this is the longest dry spell I've had since my early 20s i'm early 30s now). Prior to this dry spell, I got out of 2 LTRs (one was really serious and blew up unfortunately) and I have spent the past 8 months working on myself and developing hobbies.
Even though my physique is good, style is on point, I've matured as a person over the past year, and career is squared away, it seems like women are less attracted to me than they were a few years ago.
My current logistics are terrible and due to current career obligations which will last for a few more months, I only have minimal amount of time to game and study game a week (I try to do a few approaches whenever I run errands). I realize that it may be a while before I get any action and furthermore, I'm looking for something more than just quick bangs not that I currently have the option.
I've been fine for the most part with the lack of physical and emotional intimacy over these past 8 months but just this past week, I've noticed that the lack of sex is really messing up my mental wellness. If I'm at home, I'm mostly okay but if I'm out and surrounded by women (gym, work), I feel a mental and physical desperation. Any 4/10 looks like a 10/10. It feels like I'm going to explode inside. And I've stopped looking at porn for a month now so it's added to the frustration.
It'll be another 2 months before I can increase my dedication to game. For those of you who have experienced these dry spells, what can I do to manage it? I feel like it's going to start affecting my day to day life as I can feel that it's already affecting my mood and creating a sensation of physical heaviness because my body's probably freaking out telling me to mate. And no, paying is not an option. I don't want to head down that road.
Thanks.
But as we know, thirst and desperation can be quite obvious acting as a repellent to women so it makes it harder to break the cycle making you even more desperate, thirsty and un-confident. I've noticed that over the past few days, my thirst has gone up and it's messing me up. It's difficult to have an abundance mindset when you're starving.
I've mentioned previously that I'm in a long dry spell. It's been 13.5 months since I've had sex and almost 8 months since I've had any action (this is the longest dry spell I've had since my early 20s i'm early 30s now). Prior to this dry spell, I got out of 2 LTRs (one was really serious and blew up unfortunately) and I have spent the past 8 months working on myself and developing hobbies.
Even though my physique is good, style is on point, I've matured as a person over the past year, and career is squared away, it seems like women are less attracted to me than they were a few years ago.
My current logistics are terrible and due to current career obligations which will last for a few more months, I only have minimal amount of time to game and study game a week (I try to do a few approaches whenever I run errands). I realize that it may be a while before I get any action and furthermore, I'm looking for something more than just quick bangs not that I currently have the option.
I've been fine for the most part with the lack of physical and emotional intimacy over these past 8 months but just this past week, I've noticed that the lack of sex is really messing up my mental wellness. If I'm at home, I'm mostly okay but if I'm out and surrounded by women (gym, work), I feel a mental and physical desperation. Any 4/10 looks like a 10/10. It feels like I'm going to explode inside. And I've stopped looking at porn for a month now so it's added to the frustration.
It'll be another 2 months before I can increase my dedication to game. For those of you who have experienced these dry spells, what can I do to manage it? I feel like it's going to start affecting my day to day life as I can feel that it's already affecting my mood and creating a sensation of physical heaviness because my body's probably freaking out telling me to mate. And no, paying is not an option. I don't want to head down that road.
Thanks.