[Nordwand]

Two years down the line, and this woman is effectively still dictating to you. Move on. It'll undoubtedly end badly anyway - the internet is full of anecdotes regarding guys who got their act together, and then found that their spouse/girlfriend/ex didn't like the new them one little bit, as the balance of power had shifted, and not in their favour.

If you've got the time to browse, I seem to recall that Black Dragon was particularly blunt about this particular subject (No contact).