Quote: (11-03-2016 04:33 AM)Ouroboros Wrote:
I've noticed they often have an encyclopaedic knowledge of movies, music and celebrities, created by a lifetime of passively consuming entertainment. If one opts to pursue a more fulfilling life of activity, hobbies, and travel, one will necessarily lack this knowledge and will therefore not comprehend meta references (sadly a social DHV in many circles) and will have less common interests to talk about.
How do you deal with this? Persistently change the subject to something else? Try to keep up with all the latest pop culture? (an endless task)
You cannot compete with a girl who's life is all about entertainment industry. You cannot play her game. But you can use her domain to game her.
Let's say she says "I love this Bieber song with Major Lazer"
Fine. I say "really? let's see.. sing it for me, come on just a few lines"
She tries to sing. Most probably her singing sucks. Perfect. Great opportunity to tease.
I go "what? this is not even that song, you made up different song with you voice, Justin would be pissed at you for that. I'd definitely would. Who knows maybe I'd find you facebook or twitter and messaged you to never sing that again, or maybe not.."
Oh she would react to that for sure. She would respond giving me even more shit to use "against her". Verbal battle would start but I'd keep it fun and silly, not trying to show her place.
And that's how you do it. You don't need to know shit about what she's saying however the more you know the more you can use to game her.
Quote: (11-03-2016 04:33 AM)Ouroboros Wrote:
I can see that maybe I'm placing too much emphasis on wanting common ground with girls. This actually raises an interesting question - to what extent do girls even want to share common interests with guys?
In my opinion, in terms of interests, hobbies, etc very little.
Women care how you fit their lifestyle in general ie whether they can go out with you, whether they can introduce you to their friends and family, whether you lifestyle is somewhat similar. Things like that.
Quote: (11-03-2016 04:33 AM)Ouroboros Wrote:
Many of them are interested in fashion, dance, gossip etc., but I imagine a guy with the same interests would seem effeminate/repulsive (although some obviously like dancers).
Fine, let them be that way. You don't need to. You can be too but you don't get some kind of special magic points for that.
Quote: (11-03-2016 04:33 AM)Ouroboros Wrote:
Similarly, surely an active guy with experiences would seem more appealing than a couch potato who watches TV/movies all the time? (I should mention I don't actually dislike entertainment, I just think my generation - millennials - way overdo it)
True because active guy is more healthy, masculine, exciting. See the pattern? It all matters how the guy makes them feel. Women do not give a flying fuck HOW you make you look good, strong, masculine. Most of them actually think gym is for retards. But they like to be dominated, carried on, fucked well, etc. They care about what they get out of it. It's pure selfish.
Quote: (11-03-2016 04:33 AM)Ouroboros Wrote:
do you think it's in general worth trying to immerse yourself in the interests of others for the sake of game? Spending hours on something that does nothing for you feels like a massive waste, but on the other hand networking, game and socialising are obviously very fulfilling and necessary, and these are often based on shared interests (e.g. the hipsters' love for obscure bands) - where does one draw the line between staying true to oneself and conforming to herd mentality?
For the sake of game, NO. Waste of time.
For networking with girlies, bet on making them feel good around you, not on shared interest. Just like I mentioned already, you can do it by teasing girls about their precious idols and gossips and they can adore you for it.
With men, shared interest is more important. Networking with men is about something more tangible. I don't talk to much to guys who I have nothing in common with. If I do then it's more about curiosity of their lifestyle and worldview but I don't feel any need to be friends with them. But with men is easier I think, most men like similar things.