On this subject, I wonder what you men would advise on the best way of dealing with negative emotions when they arise.
I recently came out of a LTR after the better part of a decade and am starting to feel it now.
It had been bad for a while so there was an initial sense of relief to have made a decision coupled with a week or so of roller coaster up and down emotions 4-5 times a day.
Then it seemed to settle over the past month as I decided not to allow myself to dwell on it and focused my mind on work, taking practical steps to keep moving forward with my life.
Whenever thoughts of her came up and I felt my mood worsen, I would just get into the moment, stay out of my head and it would soon pass.
I thought to myself, hey, this was not so bad i'm doing fine.
But now, I'm starting to wonder if I'm just burying my head in the sand and not processing it properly as I feel a building sense of nagging unease about the future.
Iv started dreaming about her now and thoughts of her are coming more frequently.
Iv also started sleeping in, binging on tinder, fucking a couple other girls & gym as a stronger form of distraction from these feelings which in turn is now affecting my work/general self improvement progress.
I wonder if im making a mistake in pushing out the thoughts & negative emotions and should just continue allowing them to come, wash over and pass as I did at the beginning.
Basically do you think I am just avoiding the full grieving process and should continue going 'through' it to get to the other side or was I doing the right thing in not dwelling on it but just happen not to be managing too well at the moment?
Thanks for any replies.
I recently came out of a LTR after the better part of a decade and am starting to feel it now.
It had been bad for a while so there was an initial sense of relief to have made a decision coupled with a week or so of roller coaster up and down emotions 4-5 times a day.
Then it seemed to settle over the past month as I decided not to allow myself to dwell on it and focused my mind on work, taking practical steps to keep moving forward with my life.
Whenever thoughts of her came up and I felt my mood worsen, I would just get into the moment, stay out of my head and it would soon pass.
I thought to myself, hey, this was not so bad i'm doing fine.
But now, I'm starting to wonder if I'm just burying my head in the sand and not processing it properly as I feel a building sense of nagging unease about the future.
Iv started dreaming about her now and thoughts of her are coming more frequently.
Iv also started sleeping in, binging on tinder, fucking a couple other girls & gym as a stronger form of distraction from these feelings which in turn is now affecting my work/general self improvement progress.
I wonder if im making a mistake in pushing out the thoughts & negative emotions and should just continue allowing them to come, wash over and pass as I did at the beginning.
Basically do you think I am just avoiding the full grieving process and should continue going 'through' it to get to the other side or was I doing the right thing in not dwelling on it but just happen not to be managing too well at the moment?
Thanks for any replies.