Amazing discussion guys! I appreciate all the well-thought out posts. I'm so happy that I decided to join and post, some of you really get the player life in a way most people I know don't (I know maybe 4 others in my real life that are like me). I feel like I can talk to you guys like I talk to my diary.
So what I'm getting from this so far is:
My goal is to date her for a maximum of 6 months. I know I know, not super player of me to treat her well and really date her. But I have a feeling that I've got something to learn from this woman, otherwise this situation wouldn't keep occurring.
So I can use this relationship to iron out some of my weaknesses keeping me from getting a good girl, I can practice being in a relationship again, and it'll also keep me from distracting myself with chasing pussy, in a period of my life where I really need to focus on my career.
If she's as smart as I think she is, she will come away from this in a better place than she started.
I try to add more than I take from every girl I date....makes it easier for me to leave in good conscience. I don't obsessively bang like I did in my early 20s, just don't have the patience for it. It's also a bit draining: you need to manage keeping her at a distance all the time, you never really get to know the person you're sleeping with, and this pussy-churn...always new people to have to focus on, say certain things to get certain reactions....just got mechanical and no-fun to me.
So what I'm getting from this so far is:
- Visit my therapist (hadn't seen him in a year due to career changes)
- Tone down the overtness of my game a bit because it's scaring away wholesome good girls (I do swagger pretty hard: my mouth is always open, I automatically look at girls, and my clothing is really well put together every single day)
- Keep dating this girl until it fizzles out (or maximum of 6 months), and gain the learnings from it
My goal is to date her for a maximum of 6 months. I know I know, not super player of me to treat her well and really date her. But I have a feeling that I've got something to learn from this woman, otherwise this situation wouldn't keep occurring.
So I can use this relationship to iron out some of my weaknesses keeping me from getting a good girl, I can practice being in a relationship again, and it'll also keep me from distracting myself with chasing pussy, in a period of my life where I really need to focus on my career.
If she's as smart as I think she is, she will come away from this in a better place than she started.
I try to add more than I take from every girl I date....makes it easier for me to leave in good conscience. I don't obsessively bang like I did in my early 20s, just don't have the patience for it. It's also a bit draining: you need to manage keeping her at a distance all the time, you never really get to know the person you're sleeping with, and this pussy-churn...always new people to have to focus on, say certain things to get certain reactions....just got mechanical and no-fun to me.