Quote: (09-17-2016 01:49 AM)Sandstorm Wrote:
I was actually so mad yesterday I was gonna post something about some dumb bitch that wouldn't leave my condo! And here's a whole thread about it! Love RVF.
Nothing that major but had a girl stay over for first time - we woke late coz of pawing all night- was still a weekday so wanted to be left alone to work and go to gym.
I said, "OK, so I have to work today" . She said "OK. Where is 7/11? " across street. "Do I need card to get out?" No, just press ground. "I need cigarettes and snacks. Want anything?" Err.... no?? "Can I have card to get back in?" Hmm.... yeah...?
She gets cigs and snacks. Then sits there on sofa eating snacks. I start working on laptop. After 20 minutes of silently getting angry, I ask her "So what are you doing?" "Oh just writing some ideas down. Going to get my phone charger back from friends at 3:30 pm" (just around corner from where I live) I walk into bedroom to get away, punch wall a bit and come back in. "So! I really have to work today!" Bitch says, "So?" and just stares at me incredulously.
"So... I can't really work when you're here. I need to go to the gym too"
"So you want me to leave?" (Um yeah bitch!)
What makes these girls think that it's OK for them to just fucking hang around all day until it's time for them to go do their thing, completely fucking interrupting my day?? It happened before in Thailand but in the evening. Some girl just puts on TV and even after I'm telling her "yeah I have to work" she was just like "It's fine" Fuck that made me so mad! Don't tell me it's fucking fine! I'll decide what's fine or not!
Must be a cultural thing. And the fact both were 21 max. I guess at that age, life's more about socialising and "hanging out" rather than taking responsibility for work and life.
Likely she just didn't get the hint. Girls do this. Do you blame her for wanting to spend time with you?
She probably didn't even realise you wanted her to leave.
I've had this before, and every time I've made it explicit, they get it and make a move. Goes like this:
Me: "OK, I need to work today"
Girl: "Ok" *doesn't move*
Me: "No I mean, I need to get work done alone today. I need to focus. But let's hang out again soon"
Girl:" Oh ok.... I will go home then"
If they're really clingy...
Girl: "It's ok, I will just stay and watch TV?"
Me: "Not today, sorry. Need to focus. But lets catch up again soon"
etc.
Can't expect them to read your mind, and can't blame them for wanting to be with you. Gotta communicate clearly.