Tuth's recent and excellent thread on securing first-date bangs inspired me to write this and go into some detail on the musical aspects of it. I figured that we could also use this thread to share our particular musical proclivities and what we've found well received by the women we're with.
My experience has given me a very favorable view on the value of Erotic Lounge/Chillout type music for women. Good music is crucial to mood-building once you've isolated a girl back home, and this is some of the best mood-setting music I've found. A couple of examples below:
You can find a lot of this type of music on youtube. If you know how to torrent and/or use filehosting sites (hotfile, oron, etc), you can also just download them en masse (ex: here and here). It is fantastic for setting the mood, and can work for/appeal to almost anyone with any girl.
Sometimes I like to go further and mix this music with more explicit, smooth modern R&B (which usually would come later on in the playlist, by which time I'm probably already escalating sexually). I'm talking Trey Songz, Chris Brown, Tank, Drake, and a few others mainly here. Examples below:
They call this "babymaking music" for a reason. It oozes slow, sensual, yet somehow deep and meaningful intimacy.
This latter type of music has proven particularly effective for me because it is congruent with my image. I'm a black male with a lean, but still somewhat bulky build, so girls can quickly make the visual/mental association between myself and a guy like Trey Songz (read: athletic black dude).
I would imagine that any young guy (particularly black/hispanic) could pull this off in a similar way.
An older white male (to use one example) may come off as incongruent playing Trey Songz or Drake, but then that's what the erotic lounge and other stuff is for.
The type of music you play should depend somewhat on your own image and the type of girl you're targeting.
As I just said, if you're not a guy who is into hip-hop (or looks like he might be into it), you can try erotic lounge or other genres that will clash less with her likely perception of you.
In my experience, Black girls tend to receive the more explicit R&B with the most enthusiasm. Given the pervasiveness of hip-hop today though (your average young college chick drowns in it whenever she goes out), you'll find plenty of other girls of all types who are receptive to it. The average young white girl I've run into in my time has enjoyed it as much as anyone else.
My experience has given me a very favorable view on the value of Erotic Lounge/Chillout type music for women. Good music is crucial to mood-building once you've isolated a girl back home, and this is some of the best mood-setting music I've found. A couple of examples below:
You can find a lot of this type of music on youtube. If you know how to torrent and/or use filehosting sites (hotfile, oron, etc), you can also just download them en masse (ex: here and here). It is fantastic for setting the mood, and can work for/appeal to almost anyone with any girl.
Sometimes I like to go further and mix this music with more explicit, smooth modern R&B (which usually would come later on in the playlist, by which time I'm probably already escalating sexually). I'm talking Trey Songz, Chris Brown, Tank, Drake, and a few others mainly here. Examples below:
They call this "babymaking music" for a reason. It oozes slow, sensual, yet somehow deep and meaningful intimacy.
This latter type of music has proven particularly effective for me because it is congruent with my image. I'm a black male with a lean, but still somewhat bulky build, so girls can quickly make the visual/mental association between myself and a guy like Trey Songz (read: athletic black dude).
I would imagine that any young guy (particularly black/hispanic) could pull this off in a similar way.
An older white male (to use one example) may come off as incongruent playing Trey Songz or Drake, but then that's what the erotic lounge and other stuff is for.
The type of music you play should depend somewhat on your own image and the type of girl you're targeting.
As I just said, if you're not a guy who is into hip-hop (or looks like he might be into it), you can try erotic lounge or other genres that will clash less with her likely perception of you.
In my experience, Black girls tend to receive the more explicit R&B with the most enthusiasm. Given the pervasiveness of hip-hop today though (your average young college chick drowns in it whenever she goes out), you'll find plenty of other girls of all types who are receptive to it. The average young white girl I've run into in my time has enjoyed it as much as anyone else.
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