Quote: (01-02-2016 02:49 PM)churros Wrote:
This is a great post, but can you comment more the distinction between sleazy sexpats and true players?
Good question. It's just opinion, but here's my take:
Sleazy sexpat: Tends to be vulgar, offensive to locals, seeks only to get his rocks off and doesn't care who he offends along the way. Relies largely on his foreigner status to get sex, sees no need to learn game or create value. Treats girls like trash. Tends to hook up with desperate girls drawn to him because of white skin / cash /gullibility. Generally found in dive bars swilling beer and complaining loudly about the local culture. Get's minimal results in western countries. Generally someone to avoid (IMO).
True player: A creator, writes his own adventure. Socially skilled. Does things discreetly and smoothly. Despite playing the field, treats girls well and leaves them happy to have known him. Cultivates relationships with high-status/interesting locals and expats alike. May leverage his "exotic foreigner" status, but doesn't depend on it exclusively. Relies on strong social skills and solid game. Can do well on home turf and western countries as well as Asia. Generally someone worth knowing (IMO).
Both are gross stereotypes of course. You'll find all manner of expat abroad and they won't neatly fit into boxes, but... you get the idea.