Quote: (12-26-2015 06:52 PM)MMX2010 Wrote:
I love AB's posts because they remind me of an argument against Game: "Why would you want to construct an artificial persona to make women like you? Can't you just expect women to like you for Who You Really Are?"
Counter-argument: "Who You Really Are is extremely large and complex compared to What People See You As. Therefore, the desire to be seen for Who You Really Are, and any concern over whether you're being Authentic, is rooted in the desire for the impossible."
No one will ever see for Who You Really Are. Once you accept this, you also accept that any act you perform is authentic because you authentically performed it. If you present yourself as confident, you will be seen as confident; if you present yourself as insecure, you will be seen as insecure - but in both cases, you will equally be "who you really are".
And so all considerations of whether you were being "authentic" are dismissed before they even begin.
Better, all rhetoric from the Mental Environmentalists is immediately recognized as stupid, and dismissed immediately.
Best, when you stop using your mental energy to ask yourself whether you're being "authentic", you'll be able to use the energy to Read The Girl. As in, "If I've read her correctly, she'll laugh like this when I say X. So I'm saying X just to see if I'm right."
Do this well enough and you'll understand why they call it Game. It's fun an hell, and you can get better and better at it.
Great post. I just wanted to add, that Who You Really Are isn't an authentic quality, it's almost 100% out of your hands.
A vast majority of what constitutes who we are is decided even before we're born. Our genetics determine the inclinations and personality traits which make us unique. If we're introverted or not, what our natural inclination to depression or anxiety is, what our baseline motivation is.
The rest of our personality is programmed into us. Children are sponges, and the brain is designed to learn the customs, language, and values from their parents and society as a whole. True individuality is discouraged, and the narrative of a society is imprinted on people throughout their childhood and into adulthood. The environment that someone grew up in is a very reliable indicator of what their values are. Essentially, our personalities are largely a vessel to propagate the ideologies of our society.
If anything, learning Game, or any method of actively choosing your values or behavior, is the only way to be true to yourself and accomplish your goals.