Quote: (06-30-2015 02:49 AM)SteezeySteve Wrote:
Nice move.
Getting people to do small favors like this ("Can I borrow a pen?" "Can I get directions?") is a good way to make people like you,because then it makes them invested in you. I'm pretty sure this is why you value your friend since kindergarden more than the homey you met last year at a bar; if you've known someone for that long chances are you have invested more time,and energy into that person. You want to think you make good 'investments' so it makes sense to like that person more.
Then she has to ask you for help,and you get to mess with her. Might even make her feel more feminine,because she is kind of 'taking advantage of' your masculine muscles.
I hate to derail this thread because it is potentially valuable, but this leads me to a seriously intrinsic difference between men and women that I need to get out.
Women are not capable of that kind of loyalty described above. They are only loyal out of necessity and do not account for any actual investment. It's almost like they are cats and men are dogs. Cats will forget what your face looks like if you are gone for too long, dogs will grow a lifelong bond with their master. Ever wonder why a bitch can go cold on you at the flick of a switch? Ever wonder why bitches can go through "best friends" like pairs of socks? It's part of their wiring. Perhaps they are designed to socially operate most optimally in a relationship that requires constant maintenance and care. From a natural standpoint this makes sense as rearing children is their most important asset and the relationship between a mother and a child up to adulthood requires constant maintenance - this would also explain why women need "drama" to be kept interested in a relationship. It keeps the relationship in the forefront of their brain so they must think about it.
It is hard to see this in terms of intimate relationships because we hold those in different regard than platonic relationships (as they should be held). As a better example, look at platonic relationships you hold/held with women vs. men (if you have had any close female friends). The bonds you form with females can not stand the way it does with men. Female friends will fade and the investment put into the friendship will not matter if something comes up to tarnish it or if times fades it away. I have had a couple of female friends that have denounced our friendship over petty things or simply drifted away and will only contact me seldom when they need something to which I swiftly ignore. My close male friends on the other hand recognize the life-long investments we have made to forge the friendship and no amount of time or petty shit will break that.