Quote: (05-30-2015 11:56 AM)Engineer Wrote:
Look at the books on her bookshelf and her browser history.
Live with her for a while, probably over a year.
Make sure she knows if it's an act or if she crosses a red line, you'll divorce her very quickly.
Before you even start looking for Mrs. CleanSlate, make a list of the things you need, want, would tolerate, and would not tolerate.
I like this advice. Also her Spotify playlists (or just generally what music she listens to).
In my case, a couple years ago my soon-to-be-ex branched out in her reading, went from reading very conservative stuff (Jan Karon, Anita Shreve) into some pretty dark stuff - Cormac McCarthy, Story of O, 50 Shades, a bunch of other stuff. That was a huge signal of a personality change. Same with her music - folk music and Christian rock and suddenly she's listening to Katy fucking Perry?
I really believe in the whole what you take in reflects itself on the outside.
Also the female relatives. My sister-in-law told me the same thing. She lives in a different state and we don't see each other very much, but looking at my ex's Facebook she could see that something was going on.