I am a veteran in the solo-dolo game, but am now incapable of going to a venue and not having at least 10 people with whom I can hang out with already there. But trust me, I know what you are going through. Straight up, going out alone is scary at first. I moved to Pittsburgh a year and a half ago and knew one person. He was the epitome of what you do NOT want as a wingman. So I decided to go it alone and am now better known than I want to be, but rack up an average of 1 new notch every other week if I put forth zero effort, simply by making friends in the field. It took a lot of hard work to get to this point, and I learned a lot of lessons.
1. Venues: Simple. Wherever you feel comfortable and will enjoy your evening. Music, clientele, etc. Check around on nightlife-oriented websites for reviews. Facebook is good, too, if you know venue names. Just look at the pictures and you will get a feel for what the place will be like.
2. Presentation: You may need some prep time. Start hitting the gym. Hard. GET LEAN. Lean face makes for a stronger jaw line. I don't care what anyone says, looking good helps. Go out dressed VERY stylishly when you roll solo. I favor the vest and dress shirt, Miami style, shirt unbuttoned. You are solo. Lay back a bit. Post up by the bar, chat with the bar tender. You need to show up early.
Remember: You are new in town and you want to make friends.
Target personnel: For access to attractive girls (7+'s), you need to access the "in crowd". This is the nightlife scene crowd. Promoters, VIP Hosts, bartenders, even some bouncers. Club resident DJs are GREAT friends to have. Just go bullshit with him about music, when possible. When you appreciate their musical tastes and what they do as an art (which it is), they will LOVE you and introduce you to their friends, who always have tons of hot friends. (i.e. promoters) Promoters and VIP managers have tons of sexy friends. It is their job. You become friends with them, you are a made man
You are new in town.
Make new friends: Select a target group and mingle. Make sure you will have good synergy. These are your wingmen. Make sure they are energetic and alpha-like. Win one over. I met my crew from last summer at a Steve Aoki show, opened the convo by making a drug reference, and out of it became best friends with the promoter and VIP manager of the club. Keep in mind, the guys who are out a lot can give you the down-low on a lot of info. The key: MAKE SHIT HAPPEN. You pull your weight, you just gained yourself access to a new network of people. Do this continuously. Then build your own dream team. I have a team of pure-bred alpha-males, who I hand selected out of everyone I knew after a year of searching. These guys get together, fun as had and girls are pounded. It's inevitable. You can build your own team. And they make you. But you have to make shit happen on the regular in order to reach this golden land of easy pussy. Can't be a slouch. Every man on my team banged girls the first time they hung out with me. Except the one kid from my original crew. He was one of the guys I met at the Steve Aoki show, and he is an event manager. Gets me laid all the time. Awesome. You need to sharpen your skills at making this happen by pulling on your own while making friends.
You are new in town.
Follow standard approach tactics when opening, and make sure you can close. hough if you pull this method off right, you won't have too for long. I have girls thrown at me now. I got good at closing on my own. I made friends with whom I worked well with and had common interests, and we have been plowing girls ever since.
YOU ARE NEW IN TOWN!!!
Get into the character of being new in town. It helped me being new in town and needing to make new friends. So you make yourself into a newcomer. Think from that position. You want to infiltrate the structure of the club scene.
Remember, the nightlife scene has a structure. People who run shit, and people who hang out with them. The alphas and the betas. Seek out the alphas. Work their networks. My life as it is now as a 25 year old prior-military college student was built out of this method. My VIP birthday bash was taken care of by others, and I was thrown car models as a kicker. They were in town and the VIP manager brought them to my VIP section as a favor to me.
Quote: (07-31-2011 12:23 PM)Clown Wrote:
I am interested in going out more to get more experience interacting with girls, but I don't really have any guy friends that would make good wingmen. Going out by myself is a scary proposition and I'm looking for advice on how it's done.
1) What sorts of places do I go to?
2) Do I sit by myself or try to join a group immediately?
3) How do I explain why I'm alone if a girl asks?