Quote: (10-13-2013 12:52 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:
like a lot of things, what America has and does not have is a double-edged sword.
Tonight in Starbucks in my college town me, 50+ YO got a phone number from a 23 YO who's going to be a doctor. She agreed to go on a bike ride, I'd say the chances of her
showing are 1/3.
She's only a 6, but I saw some hot women, all with bright looking guys either loaded Asian students who probably have millionaire parents sending them here or athletic looking 23 year old American guys 6'3" +. I saw his 5'8" blond-blue GF looking up at him like a submissive puppy. Really hot 23 year old ( especially white) girls would look at me as if I was from Mars, I'm far older, fatter, shorter, less likely to be rich soon than these younger guys.
I work with musicians and engineers who like my music, and are some of the best available. My engineer records stuff with Hollywood stars EVERY ONE of you has heard of.
He does it for free because he sees a vision he likes.
The thing I am getting across is there are all sorts of people here DOING SHIT RIGHT, they are NOT JOKING, they are serious about doing things to be on a world class level.
You don't get that most places. Most places they are focusing more on their family and friends. It is viewed as foolish to exhaust yourself working Ukraine. What will you get for it?
You have to pick what environment you want depending on what you want to accomplish. Each has its pros and cons.
There is a lot of COMPETITION HERE, smart, creative, tall, buff guys with great careers on the way. But competition makes for superior, smarter collaborators if YOU want to do something extraordinary. It is very hard for most people to do something extraordinary on your own. Novelists are one of the only ones I can think of.
When people advertise a FULL TIME job, believe what they say: Your time will be FILLED by them. At least in the US if you have half a brain you can do that for 15-20 years and then NOT work FULL TIME.
But if you want to achieve something you can't do over a computer, something cultural or technical, America is often the single best place to be for THAT ASPECT of your life.
But the competition amongst the male "doers" means the women you get will generally be inferior.
Those are some really good observations. Competition in America is fierce. Just go to Silicon Valley and try to get a job (or a girl) if you don't believe it.
Among any of the competition that actually matters, you're up against very smart, driven, creative, fit, aggressive guys in the USA.
And your'e right about America taking business seriously. I do some business coaching here in Bangkok and I'm helping a training partner from my Jiu Jitsu academy set up a dropshipping business. His supplier can't be arsed to talk business with him and expand, even though it means a lot more money and name brand recognition in SEA. They're satisfied with their current profits and so why rock the boat? Doing business in Thailand can be a big fucking headache...
So it seems to me that it all comes down to, do you thrive in that kind of hyper competitive environment or not, and is competition necessarily a good thing,
always?
For instance, if you go to SEA as a white guy, you'll be getting tons of pussy
if you know what you're doing. It doesn't fall in your lap, you still have to hustle, but it's not like in the US where the whole business is like pulling teeth (for me, anyway).
Some people get off more on the egotistical reward of banging girls with a handicap (being in a loud club in America with poor ratios and guys ready to fight you at the drop of a hat) more than the actual banging of the girls.
Personally, I don't need to prove to myself what a great seducer I am (anymore) by stacking the deck against myself. I'd rather share the company of a sweet, honey skinned girl who makes my bed for me after I violate her mercilessly. No demands, no law suits, no vocal fry, no nothing (beyond inescapable, universal female B.S., of course).
Likewise, if you have an internet business, you don't have to work in an office and deliver results to a boss. YOU are the boss. So you are only accountable to yourself and your business friends. That means you have to learn to manage your time and energy wisely, otherwise you don't have bread on your table.
You have to learn expectation management and reputation management by underpromising and over delivering and helping other people grow THEIR businesses. As opposed to doing the bare minimum required of you to get your biweekly paycheck.
Some people are intrinsically motivated, and some people need a drill sergeant barking at them. It's a matter of personality, really. And one way of making ends meet, or scoring tail, is just as honorable as another. However, a salary is dangerous because it disincentivizes people, especially in large corporations and government institutions. It's similar to how getting in an exclusive LTR makes it unnecessary to stay sharp with your game.
So the whole America vs The Rest of The World thing is moot because everybody is a unique individual with incredibly unique personalities and motivations. I say, take a few trips, check it out for yourself and make up your own mind. Reading other people's experiences is just that, other people's experiences.