I agree with the OP, and most who don't agree are just completely unaware that women use jealousy as a common tool in relationships to gaslight you.
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To draw you closer, narcissists & psychopaths create an aura of desirability—of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for you to be the preferred object of their attention, to win them away from a crowd of admirers. They manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding themselves with members of the opposite sex: friends, former lovers, and your eventual replacement. Then, they create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise their perceived value. (Adapted from “The Art of Seduction” by Robert Greene).
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A large percentage of women use jealousy to make you more desirous of them, or, to punish and hurt you when they want to. These women know this is a very effective way of hurting you emotionally, or inciting a fight, or to illicit an emotional response from you to prove to her you are emotionally invested in her. And by emotionally reacting in this scenario, its a form of gaslighting, you trick yourself into caring more than you actually should.
We all know the results of acting butt-hurt by jealousy - it just makes her go away. Every. Single. Time. No your not alpha by defending your turf. This is the fastest way to make her leave you.
Sneaky ways I've noticed over the years that she does this;
-Receiving a text from a guy and showing you, this can be any guy(work/friend/former bf). "Oh my god he texted me"
-Talking about men in general, in any way.
-Talking about her exes, as innocuous of a conversation as possible.
-Talking about sex, her sex life, past partners, etc.
-Staying friends with exes.
-Communicating with exes over social media without you knowing.
-Blatant social media interactions
-Her friends talking about her exes in front of you.
Some of these things may seem completely innocuous, but they are not.
Some women do this innocently enough, as a minor shit test. How do you know its innocent? You will just know, as your gut is the most honest truth detector you posses.
Most of the time women do this to truly hurt you, and it will feel like sadistic punishment, because its meant to be. The sadistic female uses triangulation, like you read about in the links, and knows your emotional levers better than you do. And thats where young naive men lose it; they would never expect their lover could be so cruel. Or anyone could interpersonally be so cruel to them. These jealousy tactics lead to arguing, rage, verbal/physical abuse, and is one of the most well played traps men find their way into, when dealing with the opposite sex. Its one of the more vulnerable positions you will ever find yourself in as a man.
Not all women will do this. My ex wife did not. My two most recent LTR's did however, and I would guess this is more rampant today with social media. These LTR's were highly attractive, educated, careerist 30 yr old millennial women in the US. But once I noticed their behavior, I notice it in all women now, and how much more vigilant you have to be to protect your emotions and frame in the relationship.
How I combat jealousy, and jealous making attempts by women.
Simply just say nice things about the other man when she brings him up; the ex boyfriend, the guy at work, the guy friend, the man hitting on her, or any man she tosses into your relationship.
"Oh, he sounds like he was pretty frustrated with your relationship. Maybe he needed help(she drove him nuts), maybe you two just weren't right and he's doing much better, maybe needed more time to mature"
"Your friend sounds like an awesome guy, you two should hang out, you go girl"
"Your boss just sounds lonely, maybe you should have a coffee with him. Just be there for him, he sounds like hes depending on you."
"The guy at the bar sounds hilarious, thats a great pick up line!" "He just obviously likes you, he sounds like a funny guy, can you blame him" "He sounds like a good guy."
This simple tactic alone instantly freezes out her game, and will quickly make it stop. Its an agree and amplify, with a twist of cruel humor for yourself, where you will be laughing at the joke you are playing on her. Ultimately, it will always make you look like the good guy, with an air of I DONT GIVE A F%$#, the perfect combo to neutralize this behavior.
I threw one of those LTR's out of my apartment in the middle of the night once when she used a jealous tactic. She was living with me, and I just made her leave instantly. She said this guy was texting her, and showed me a few texts on her phone. She was too dumb to realize iMessage showed her full text history on her iPad, and I saw later that night that she was texting back and forth with him for a while. It sent me straight into anger. It greatly upset my life. It hurt terribly bad and I kicked her out that night. The next day she was supposed to come to my child's birthday party. She pulled this because I was pulling away from her, she tried this stunt to get me back, but it totally backfired on her. I subsequently found RVF right around that time, dumped her, and began game. My journey into game came as a result of induced jealousy from my then GF.
Whats funny is that same girl texted me a month before her wedding day, and I suspect she was using the same tactic on her poor soon to be husband. My gut reaction to her initially was true. Further proving to myself that I can not go on denying my internal compass.
I dont want you guys to go through this. Notice her silly games, then shoot her down by being the super positive better than that guy. She will stop. And if you catch her, and your gut was really right, dont make it dramatic. Just make it end ASAP with no fighting. Dont let jealousy ruin your life, or frame of mind. Or your LTR for that matter.