Quote: (01-06-2018 11:24 AM)questor70 Wrote:
Personally I don't see a huge distinction between a guy banging a woman who openly admits she has a boyfriend and the boyfriend who has an "open" relationship. In both cases you are sending a single to women that it's okay to double-dip. I get that the overall investment is less in a bootycall vs. some official designation of boyfriend or SO. But how much difference is there really? Does it boil down to whether you reveal the relationship to friends and family? I mean, there is some sort of grief over the death of fidelity as a virtue here, but if guys never say no when a woman admits she has a boyfriend, isn't that just part of the problem? Seems bros before hoes no longer applies as everyone's out for himself.
This has been my observation...
She usually lives with "open relationship" guy, who takes her out on dinner dates, watches her dog, drives her to the airport, goes to all her family functions, buys groceries, pays bills, texts back and forth with her all day, puts her on his health insurance, etc.
In my view, that's a relationship which should warrant monogamy. The fact that she is allowing a man to make this type of investment in her, without commitment, is immoral in my opinion. She wants all the benefits of a boyfriend / husband, but isn't willing to give up sucking off Johnny Bartender.
Why a man would allow this arrangement, I do not know.
My FWBs? They come over, we bang, they go home. Sometimes we text, sometimes we go on dates if I feel like it. Sometimes we don't talk for months. I don't know what they do when I'm not around, and frankly, I don't care.
I avoid women in "open relationships" because I do not want the drama. Banging an "open relationship" girl means you're also bringing their boyfriend into your life. Even if it's just her talking about how "I live with Joe Beta, but I don't know if I'm in love with him, you know what I mean? He's so good with the dog, but that spark isn't there. And he was late to (something stupid)."
Plus, they always claim "there's no jealousy", but there is. He is putting in a huge investment with little return, while I'm casually banging her on the side with little to no investment. Any man who isn't jealous is lacking in testosterone.
Every "open relationship" girl I've ever banged has been an emotional, egotistical train wreck. I've found that it's just not worth it.