Poor Date Game Review
03-11-2015, 12:03 AM
@OP
Written about 3700 words on this, but I can't seem to sum it up.
you need a better game plan
- change your mindset
- get her logistics
- demonstrate your personality
- get her compliance
- talk about her, her topics, her feelings about topics
- seed the conversation with what you've got planned next
- escalate the touching
- escalate the "sensual" chat. (explicit sex talk can easily go sideways)
- act on her logistics
Last try
1) change your mindset
- if she goes out with your off of the internet, she likes what she sees
- if she's out with you, sex is on the table
- the date is a "smell test" - are you as cool as she thinks you are. (no, you're even better in person, and your profile doesn't do you justice)
2) get her logistics
- how did she get there
- does she work tomorrow
- who does she live with
- how far is her place/how far is work/school
Don't ask questions, make statements.
"you look like a Bushwick chick. ..Oh word, you live in Bed Stuy? Gangsta!"
"So you drinking on a school night?"
"Your roommate's gonna be mad as hell when...."
"My commute from Carroll Gardens to midtown takes..."
3) create opportunities to demonstrate your personality
How do you demonstrate your personality?
By now you know to
- tell jokes
- tell stories
- drop little bait and big bait.
But you should also
- do cold reads on a chick
- make bold statements
Statements > Boring questions with predictable answers.
Make statements that require her to respond.
"You totally look like the one girl in the study group that ends up doing all of the work"
"lemme guess, you're a whisky girl"
"Barkeep, the lady wants a sex on the beach"
She's going to respond to your cold read/bold statement.
These demonstrate your personality, but they also get her talking because she's on the defensive.
And the tone of this conversation is PLAYFUL. You're not "negging", you're teasing her. And she should enjoy it.
4) Compliance/Attraction - After you get her talking, you have to get her to submit/comply with your wishes
"pass me the salt"
"pass me the pepper"
"do you have any gum"
"come over here"
"move over there"
"sit next to me"
"put your hands up"
"put your dukes up"
"lemme taste your drink"
"taste my drink"
You can create escalation in getting her to comply.
Why do you want her to comply?
Most pick up gurus are obsessed with the idea that when a girl is attracted to you, she does what you say.
That is true. (it's a very male-centric focus though)
What is also true is that when you get a girl to do what you say, she becomes attracted to you.
Hard to believe, but that's how power game works.
- when you're her manager and you tell her what to do, you become more attractive than the fry guy, and way more attractive than the janitor
- when you're her professor, she looks up to you
- When you're older than her, you're more attractive.
This is why most of these relationships are looked down upon. A man has an unfair advantage, because his mere position allows him to be the man who orders her around. He "takes advantage" of her.
It works on the not-so-obvious level too.
If you're getting her to do things, and she's following you, you've gotten compliance, and you're assured of her attraction to you.
5) Focus on Her - Stop talking about anything other than her.
You've been making statements, and she's been responding. Take her responses and spin your game.
Everything she says, you can focus on the verb or the noun of the sentence, and get her to talk about
- how she FEELS about the verb/noun.
Hamster - "So my cis-gendered ACE friend has a cute dog"
Player - "Is it a really cute dog? I bet you like cute dogs. Is the dog frisky? How does a frisky dog make you feel..."
Hamster - "OMG, how'd you know? Dog is always humping my leg and jumping in my lap"
For extra points, later in the night, you circle back to this little nugget and talk about the frisky dog.
6) Seed the Convo
When you get to the bar,
"this is our first stop of the night"
later
"I got this killer purple haze/absinthe/turkish yogurt drink at my spot"
later (after she's loose, open to convo, warm to your touch - actively reaching for you)
"Hey we're still having fun, we're going to check out my purple haze and feed my pet Gila monster Wolfgang
7) Touching
You need to treat her like a lover from the very beginning.
- open the door, hand at the small of her back
- move her around at the bar.
- thumb wrestle, measure hands, fake palm read @ the booth, pinky swear
- pinky to pinky to touch her hands
- touch the inner side of her wrist, then forearms
- walk away from her, then come back to her and put your hand on her shoulder, or touch her shoulder blade
Depending on your school of thought, keep escalating this throughout the date until you're ready to kiss her.
8) Sex chat
Alcohol is good.
Logistics set.
You've gotten to wide rapport (can talk about anything, crack jokes)
You've gotten deep rapport, "I can't believe that I'm telling you this..."
I prefer to talk about sensual things, as opposed to sexual things. But I couple the 5 senses discussion with touching.
You could talk about Federal Taxes in a sexy way, with good eye contact and playing with her hands.
Some bitches need to hear about you sticking their dicks in their slimy vaginas like a jar of dill pickles. © Shoshanna
A little goes a long way, but I play it safe.
If you go hard with the sex talk, you'll start to filter out the time wasters faster.
It's anyone's guess as to whether a chick that's feeling you would be more willing to fuck you if you were diplomatic, or sounded like a bro.
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That's how I think you should change up your game.
WIA