25% inspired by a recent thread by the great WIA
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-41982.html
25% inspired by OGNorCal707's recent bad breakup thread
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-41880.html
50% inspired by some of the posts from others and the desire to encourage & help other cats who have gone through/will go through this BS
Been divorced just short of 3 years
While looking back it was one of the best moves of my life; it does come with eternal scarring and no one escapes unscathed
Case in point - Although I had grew up around players and Game dropped on me from the time I was knee high to a grasshopper; there was a time where I felt like marriage would be a viable option for a player like myself.
In my mind, I had accomplished many of my "player goals"; I had knocked more chicks than I would have ever imagined in my shy guy days and was experiencing the dreaded burnout from the lifestyle in my mid-20's.
Also - I had recently lost my mom due to a long-term illness so I was openly depressed and thinking 'why the hell not? this MUST be the next level of life for a guy like me'
Of course, I was dead wrong in the end, but as I remember other guys I respect saying you miss ALL shots that you don't take.
It's with this advice and presumptiveness that I entered this arrangement.
Fast forwarding past the carnage, I have emerged a changed man but not after I had stayed too long. Remember the part about none leaving totally unscathed?
***Danger ahead - directly during and after a divorce is the most vulnerable time for any man - Beginner/Intermediate/Alpha
Doesn't matter, you ask why?
Well, because it's at this time that you will feel the most alone, attacked, accused and ridiculed. You will feel the need to grab onto something solid in a room of quicksand, a life raft to stay afloat on in a sea of change.
This is grown man B.I. - not everyone is built for this
I would like to think I have thick skin, however I wasn't able to escape some feelings of guilt although I knew I had every right to walk
After all we had a son out of our union - saving grace
We talk a lot about being Red Pill and sometimes overuse the term Alpha within these RVF walls, but not enough is spoken about the importance of family and close friends during times of need.
It's been said a million times, no man is an island
As men, we consider ourselves as hunters and self-sufficient; I definitely count myself among those ranks, yet those close to you can act as a sounding board and a source of encouragement during the storm.
Very important to take this new found free time to focus on numero uno - the man in the mirror
I have witnessed so many guys speed into a rebound fling that turns into an almost incurable case of oneitis or even worst situation than what they just left, primarily out of the fear of being alone.
In retrospect, it's easy to understand. In many cases - a bitch has just snatched the rug out from under you and your sense of security even identity in some cases has just been hi-jacked
BUT - I am here to tell you to MAINTAIN PLAYA
Instead of looking to the next broad for that security blanket, this is the time where you go to work on yourself: self improvement, business, reading, studying and plotting your glorious comeback
Just think after your growth, there is a fine ass 8+ waiting around the corner for the new and improved 2.0 version of YOU
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-41982.html
25% inspired by OGNorCal707's recent bad breakup thread
http://www.rooshvforum.network/thread-41880.html
50% inspired by some of the posts from others and the desire to encourage & help other cats who have gone through/will go through this BS
Been divorced just short of 3 years
While looking back it was one of the best moves of my life; it does come with eternal scarring and no one escapes unscathed
Case in point - Although I had grew up around players and Game dropped on me from the time I was knee high to a grasshopper; there was a time where I felt like marriage would be a viable option for a player like myself.
In my mind, I had accomplished many of my "player goals"; I had knocked more chicks than I would have ever imagined in my shy guy days and was experiencing the dreaded burnout from the lifestyle in my mid-20's.
Also - I had recently lost my mom due to a long-term illness so I was openly depressed and thinking 'why the hell not? this MUST be the next level of life for a guy like me'
Of course, I was dead wrong in the end, but as I remember other guys I respect saying you miss ALL shots that you don't take.
It's with this advice and presumptiveness that I entered this arrangement.
Fast forwarding past the carnage, I have emerged a changed man but not after I had stayed too long. Remember the part about none leaving totally unscathed?
***Danger ahead - directly during and after a divorce is the most vulnerable time for any man - Beginner/Intermediate/Alpha
Doesn't matter, you ask why?
Well, because it's at this time that you will feel the most alone, attacked, accused and ridiculed. You will feel the need to grab onto something solid in a room of quicksand, a life raft to stay afloat on in a sea of change.
This is grown man B.I. - not everyone is built for this
I would like to think I have thick skin, however I wasn't able to escape some feelings of guilt although I knew I had every right to walk
After all we had a son out of our union - saving grace
We talk a lot about being Red Pill and sometimes overuse the term Alpha within these RVF walls, but not enough is spoken about the importance of family and close friends during times of need.
It's been said a million times, no man is an island
As men, we consider ourselves as hunters and self-sufficient; I definitely count myself among those ranks, yet those close to you can act as a sounding board and a source of encouragement during the storm.
Very important to take this new found free time to focus on numero uno - the man in the mirror
I have witnessed so many guys speed into a rebound fling that turns into an almost incurable case of oneitis or even worst situation than what they just left, primarily out of the fear of being alone.
In retrospect, it's easy to understand. In many cases - a bitch has just snatched the rug out from under you and your sense of security even identity in some cases has just been hi-jacked
BUT - I am here to tell you to MAINTAIN PLAYA
Instead of looking to the next broad for that security blanket, this is the time where you go to work on yourself: self improvement, business, reading, studying and plotting your glorious comeback
Just think after your growth, there is a fine ass 8+ waiting around the corner for the new and improved 2.0 version of YOU
MDP