It is usually a good sign because it means the girl has thought about having sex with you.

Follow the excellent advice in this thread. Use humor and a carefree attitude to deflect her statement and just continue to have fun with her.

Whenever a girl has told me this, I have usually ended up sleeping with her either that night or on the next date.

Dating this Bulgarian when I was in DC.

I don't know what sparked the conversation, but she was like "I was gonna give you some tonight"

And I was like, "What makes you think I want to sleep with you"

It was all over at that point.

Now if she didn't already have two kids...

WIA

Every time I hear this I just day "yeah....whatever" or "yeah we'll see".

Many, many of my one night stands have started with a girl saying something alone these lines.
As well, once you have banged them, they also end things off by saying "I never do this" or "I'm not usually like this".

Girl: "We're not having sex tonight"


Me:

What about ...Guys flat out stating "There won't be any appetizers tonight"

Quote: (10-10-2014 10:48 AM)Ensam Wrote:  

I've never had a chick say that and not ended up sleeping with her later. Just don't react to it.

Exactly. I just smirk and say okay. And smirk some more when I'm hitting it later. The hamster is a hellavu drug.

I once started a date off with "Just so we're clear, you're not getting appetizers tonight" (EXACT phrase)

I made a thread about this and got destroyed by the guys in here.

I know this is "bad game" (or maybe a cultural thing), but the last time some girl said that to me i didnt get the bang and pissed me off so much that i havent even tried to game anymore in a while.

Also the next time im all alone with a girl and she pulls that shit with me along with a snarky bitch face im kicking her out right then and there.

Last time a girl said this to me. (She was coming round my house 2nd date). I didn't get the bang. I tried everything but all I got was a makeout, I even went for the hail mary at the end of the night and got my cock out but she didn't do anything.

However this girl was only 18, I'd only known her 4 days, and maybe I escalated too fast at the start. But it was weird because even when I tried rubbing her pussy through her jeans she just pushed her hand away so maybe she wasn't turned on at all (normally girls start squirming with pleasure if you do it right).

Quote: (10-10-2014 10:52 AM)Mentavious Wrote:  

That usually means, "oh you will be getting sex tonight."

So true. I met a really cute 27 year old Vietnamese girl from Tinder. We met on Labor Day afternoon for a Boba tea. Less than two hours later we were back at my place. After I carried her back to my bedroom and laid her down on the bed she giggles and says "we're not having sex right now!" while only wearing her panties. I ignored it and felt like one of those football players running through the paper wall

Quote: (10-10-2014 04:58 PM)dog24 Wrote:  

I made a thread about this and got destroyed by the guys in here.

I know this is "bad game" (or maybe a cultural thing), but the last time some girl said that to me i didnt get the bang and pissed me off so much that i havent even tried to game anymore in a while.

Also the next time im all alone with a girl and she pulls that shit with me along with a snarky bitch face im kicking her out right then and there.

Quote: (10-10-2014 05:28 PM)tylerdurden1993 Wrote:  

Last time a girl said this to me. (She was coming round my house 2nd date). I didn't get the bang. I tried everything but all I got was a makeout, I even went for the hail mary at the end of the night and got my cock out but she didn't do anything.

However this girl was only 18, I'd only known her 4 days, and maybe I escalated too fast at the start. But it was weird because even when I tried rubbing her pussy through her jeans she just pushed her hand away so maybe she wasn't turned on at all (normally girls start squirming with pleasure if you do it right).

When a chick says this to you the best thing to do is relax and have fun. She's told you she's thinking about you sexually so there's no need to push very hard. Escalate towards the make out but don't push it much further. Just keep her engaged and turned on and eventually she'll make it happen. If you get butt hurt or too aggressive you'll scare her off.

Plough through it. Agree to her words and carry on.

Allow me to relate a story of mine.

I went to visit a now ex-girlfriend in Berlin after spending New Year’s in Paris. This was just over a month when she broke up with me over Facebook. While speaking with her over skype, deliberating on whether I should go or not – she said, “But no sex”. I said, “Sure, okay”. My mind was made up right then and there. But I deliberated little bit back and forth. Her boyfriend was going to be busy studying for exams the week I'd be there. I told her I'd come on condition that she'd spend the whole 5 days with me. "None of that crap where you greet me at the airport and say, well it was nice seeing you, but I got a doctor's appoint, so see you later."

She agreed and I went.

Kissed her the first day, fucked her on the third.

G

Every time a girl's said that to me the nights ended with me at least getting my dick sucked.

If she wasn't really interested, she could just simply walk away by saying 'I need to go to bed'

Since she said 'we are not having sex tonight', it's your fault and you are the one who pushed her if you guys end up having sex.

Typical female logic. 'I am not that kind of girl but he pressured me to....'

So this thread reminded me of when I first learned that girls did this and what to do about it (ignore it).

Back when I was a much younger man I took a girl out on a hiking date. When I dropped her off she invited me in and we had a few drinks, fooled around a bit, she offered to let me crash with her so I wouldn't have to drive. I said, sure. She said, you can sleep in my bed but I'm not going to give you a blow job. I thought it was oddly specific but didn't think any more of it. We get into bed, mess around a bit more but I didn't push for anything. I pass out and then woke up in the morning to her giving me head. Go figure.

There is a certain type of girl who responds incredibly well to being turned on and then ignored. It's a fine line because if you don't turn them on enough then they don't get interested but if you push it too far before backing off it makes them shutdown. It's kind of like petting a cat.

Some solid advice in this thread. I salute and thank you, gentlemen.

start around 9:24 and go to the end.

perfect answer for this thread.

culturally our french girls are different than americans but itbis usually a good sign...unless she is on her period and the red army is there

Self-affirmation. Girls that say this out loud want to have sex but don't want to be perceived as a slut (in fact it's most likely a recurring theme). She's "shit-testing" your game. Real prudes don't bring up sex.

First, it means she is thinking about sex, regardless of what she says. Second, after that I usually act like I dont wont sex and almost every time they turned into the aggressor and initiated sex.

I'm sure many guys get hard when a girl says this, its normally a sign you're getting closer to sex.

'...but no sex' is part of the so called 'anti slut defense'. Never let it affect you, just go along with it. 'Oh, no it would be too soon', 'No I wasn't offering that', etc.

Then when you get her home, proceed as usual.

Just ignore it and continue like she didn't say it.

I had one like that 3 months ago, she was a virgin, and I was already 3 fingers deep in her pussy and she seemed to enjoy it. At one point she grabs my hand, takes it out:
"I don't feel like doing it tonight, I'm probably not ready"
Answer was, "Well, if you want to tell your friends you lost your virignity with 3 fingers and flaked halfway in the process it's up to you"
It was a dangerous answer, but I got the bang.

It's all how you play your cards, and it's probably just an anti-slut defence.

I just ignore it personally or give a similar response to some of the ones on here depending on the mood (like if she is really snarky about it or throws it in like right at the start). by the end they either give it up or they get out so only two possible outcomes