I know a lot of you guys are dead against online "game" and I tend to agree but I have come across a Ghanaian (if you don't know already, I'm all about black girls) girls on PlentyofFish who is single, inexperienced, sweet and SWEET MOTHER OF GOD hawt.

We've been chatting and, yeah, she's not the sharpest knife in the draw, or at least she doesn't come across as having much depth online (but this is often true of African girls and irl they can be really quite smart, anyway..)

She's new to white guys and she's new to men as opposed to boys.

She has been falling for my romanticisms and says she finds me attractive. I asked her what she was looking for and she said long term, I told her I was looking for something "casual/short term" and gave my ex as the reason and she still seems to be interested.

So any ideas where to take it from here with a girl like this? It's all on me because she is totally submissive. I am normally used to playing off strong personalities but in this case I have to have a plan and execute it with confidence.

Quote: (07-21-2011 06:58 AM)Anonybrit Wrote:  

I know a lot of you guys are dead against online "game" and I tend to agree but I have come across a Ghanaian (if you don't know already, I'm all about black girls) girls on PlentyofFish who is single, inexperienced, sweet and SWEET MOTHER OF GOD hawt.

We've been chatting and, yeah, she's not the sharpest knife in the draw, or at least she doesn't come across as having much depth online (but this is often true of African girls and irl they can be really quite smart, anyway..)

She's new to white guys and she's new to men as opposed to boys.

She has been falling for my romanticisms and says she finds me attractive. I asked her what she was looking for and she said long term, I told her I was looking for something "casual/short term" and gave my ex as the reason and she still seems to be interested.

So any ideas where to take it from here with a girl like this? It's all on me because she is totally submissive. I am normally used to playing off strong personalities but in this case I have to have a plan and execute it with confidence.

Smells fishy to me. Pun intended.

Quote: (07-21-2011 07:16 AM)MrPink Wrote:  

Smells fishy to me. Pun intended.

Well let me ask this: how do you game a boring girl, online or otherwise?

I shit you not that body is b-a-n-g-i-n-g, Ghana girls can be so fucking fine...

Sounds like you're getting too into her before you really know much about her.

Get her on the phone, feel her out, get some more pics from her to make sure she's real. If all that works out have her meet you for drinks somewhere and go from there! I don't see why this case is exceptional in any way. Her being submissive just means you'll have less resistance when you take the lead and eventually go for the bang.

Just like when cold calling in sales, you're making a connection online but your goal isn't to "sell" online. Your goal should be to get a face to face meeting where you can flirt and escalate. Girls that put up too much resistance to a meeting after a handful of messages and a couple of calls usually turn out to be flakes not worth your time.

I have her on fb so can be sure she is who she says she is. I am currently 5000 miles away from home so can't meet up yet, need to keep things just pootering along until I get back to the UK then defo can arrange a meet up.

But yeah, she is not exactly a conversationalist, online and therefore possibly irl too, and I am not sued to that.. anyone got any tactics to keep a convo alive and build chemistry without much input from the girl?

Quote: (07-21-2011 07:23 AM)Caligula Wrote:  

Sounds like you're getting too into her before you really know much about her.

Get her on the phone, feel her out, get some more pics from her to make sure she's real. If all that works out have her meet you for drinks somewhere and go from there! I don't see why this case is exceptional in any way. Her being submissive just means you'll have less resistance when you take the lead and eventually go for the bang.

Just like when cold calling in sales, you're making a connection online but your goal isn't to "sell" online. Your goal should be to get a face to face meeting where you can flirt and escalate. Girls that put up too much resistance to a meeting after a handful of messages and a couple of calls usually turn out to be flakes not worth your time.

100% Agreed. You're investing way too much into this girl. Try to get into the mentality that you're briefly interviewing these girls and then go for the kill. How many messages have you sent back in forth? You should be going for the date by the third or fourth message at the latest or you're just wasting your time.

Quote: (07-21-2011 07:31 AM)Anonybrit Wrote:  

I have her on fb so can be sure she is who she says she is. I am currently 5000 miles away from home so can't meet up yet, need to keep things just pootering along until I get back to the UK then defo can arrange a meet up.

But yeah, she is not exactly a conversationalist, online and therefore possibly irl too, and I am not sued to that.. anyone got any tactics to keep a convo alive and build chemistry without much input from the girl?

I grew up in the UK so I know the online UK game is different somewhat from the North American online game.
Ghanaian women love white guys. Since she has added you to facebook (or vice versa) So you are already quite in. Do you have her digits, bruv?

I know it's hard to talk to boring women but you have to keep her on the stove (somehow, study some media trivia and talk about some pop stars and see if she bites on that crap) until you get back to the UK and then when you get back, draw her to your yard and be forward about digging out the poontang.

Good luck.

Quote: (07-21-2011 08:31 AM)Moma Wrote:  

I grew up in the UK so I know the online UK game is different somewhat from the North American online game.
Ghanaian women love white guys. Since she has added you to facebook (or vice versa) So you are already quite in. Do you have her digits, bruv?

I know it's hard to talk to boring women but you have to keep her on the stove (somehow, study some media trivia and talk about some pop stars and see if she bites on that crap) until you get back to the UK and then when you get back, draw her to your yard and be forward about digging out the poontang.

Good luck.

OK this is what I'm talking about I will post pics to justify my fervour in a min.

Ghanaian chicks are about as cool as they come in Africa as far as I can tell, much less religious and more liberal/easy going than East Africans and Nigerians. This girls isn't even a christian, score!

She is nice and friendly and whatnot but yeah, doesn't add much to a convo so it's all me.

What's that dynamic gonna be like in person? :/

Any other specific Ghana gal tips?

Quote: (07-21-2011 08:49 AM)Anonybrit Wrote:  

Quote: (07-21-2011 08:31 AM)Moma Wrote:  

I grew up in the UK so I know the online UK game is different somewhat from the North American online game.
Ghanaian women love white guys. Since she has added you to facebook (or vice versa) So you are already quite in. Do you have her digits, bruv?

I know it's hard to talk to boring women but you have to keep her on the stove (somehow, study some media trivia and talk about some pop stars and see if she bites on that crap) until you get back to the UK and then when you get back, draw her to your yard and be forward about digging out the poontang.

Good luck.

OK this is what I'm talking about I will post pics to justify my fervour in a min.

Ghanaian chicks are about as cool as they come in Africa as far as I can tell, much less religious and more liberal/easy going than East Africans and Nigerians. This girls isn't even a christian, score!

She is nice and friendly and whatnot but yeah, doesn't add much to a convo so it's all me.

What's that dynamic gonna be like in person? :/

Any other specific Ghana gal tips?

Since you are a white guy, just be yourself (a white guy). The base of her interest in you since you guys hooked up online is because you are white.
So be a white guy.

I know a few Ghanaian women and like I said, they have a weakness for white fellas (hence you see a lot of light skinned Ghanaian peeps and the women do a fair share of the mixing).

So without sounding stereotypical, be a white guy to her. Mention the stuff white guys like. The music, the food (bangers and mash, shepherd's pie, apple crumble, toad in the hole).

Sexually, approach her the same way you would any other lizard. If she is in your drum, you lips her as you would any other, reach for the punni and perform the bo-cat duties (if you are bo inclined).

There is no real trick to banging if the woman already has a pre-inclination towards your type.

I hope that was of help.

I think the majority of African girls on online dating sites are fake profiles that are actually scammers living in Nigeria. They creat fake facebook profiles too.

Make sure she actually lives in the UK. Talk to her on the phone, or ask to see her on webcam or something.

Quote: (07-21-2011 09:24 AM)Moma Wrote:  

Since you are a white guy, just be yourself (a white guy). The base of her interest in you since you guys hooked up online is because you are white.
So be a white guy.

I know a few Ghanaian women and like I said, they have a weakness for white fellas (hence you see a lot of light skinned Ghanaian peeps and the women do a fair share of the mixing).

So without sounding stereotypical, be a white guy to her. Mention the stuff white guys like. The music, the food (bangers and mash, shepherd's pie, apple crumble, toad in the hole).

Sexually, approach her the same way you would any other lizard. If she is in your drum, you lips her as you would any other, reach for the punni and perform the bo-cat duties (if you are bo inclined).

There is no real trick to banging if the woman already has a pre-inclination towards your type.

I hope that was of help.

She told me that she had never "clicked" with white guys before, but obviously I am not some wasteman from inner city London, so I am making her click It's going quite well but getting convo from her is like pulling teeth.

Gonna aim for digits by close of play tonight. Thanks bruv.

Done and done, gave her my number and she said she'd text me when I get back in the UK, won't be back in the UK for a few weeks but she is very sweet, quite vulnerable, and we're getting along well even though she is one of those girls with seemingly no interests.. still we could have some fun dates I think.

Quote: (07-21-2011 09:26 AM)ManAbout Wrote:  

I think the majority of African girls on online dating sites are fake profiles that are actually scammers living in Nigeria. They creat fake facebook profiles too.

Make sure she actually lives in the UK. Talk to her on the phone, or ask to see her on webcam or something.

Exactly what I'm talking about. No doubt the girl in the pics is fine, but I've dealt with Nigerians running this type of thing. You'd be surprised how many guys fall for the scams. Just be really careful and let your dick do minimal thinking with this chick.

OP, did she also give you her number? You are right though, she is proper fit. I'd press that, no questions asked.

Nice, exactly my type of girl. If it turns out she's not real the worst that can happen is you'll have wasted some time on her. I'm assuming you're not going to fall for any sort of scam which involves sending her money.

You might have to pay for the dates. She's going to the clothing store to get her bikini self shots!

The lack of conversation may simply be cultural barrier. If she is new to the UK she may simply not be used to the dating culture, as it is no doubt much different where she is from (this is all assuming she is real). Different as in total opposite, some African cultures still do arranged marriages for christ sake. I've dated several African girls, don't judge their conversation or personality until you meet in person or at least get her on the phone, they may not be the best typers but almost always have great personalities. If your away, Skype is your saviour. Very sexy girl btw.

Quote: (07-21-2011 12:14 PM)MrPink Wrote:  

Exactly what I'm talking about. No doubt the girl in the pics is fine, but I've dealt with Nigerians running this type of thing. You'd be surprised how many guys fall for the scams. Just be really careful and let your dick do minimal thinking with this chick.

Don't worry, she passes the fb test and we were talking on IM there for a few hours.

Quote: (07-21-2011 12:21 PM)Moma Wrote:  

OP, did she also give you her number? You are right though, she is proper fit. I'd press that, no questions asked.

She didn't but she said she "couldn't wait to call me" when I got back to the UK and wanted to chat again asap.

Quote: (07-21-2011 12:35 PM)Gringo Wrote:  

Nice, exactly my type of girl. If it turns out she's not real the worst that can happen is you'll have wasted some time on her. I'm assuming you're not going to fall for any sort of scam which involves sending her money.

As Caligula spotted, she does not appear to be that well off, I like to be a little flash with my cash on dates but I am not gonna be sending her or loaning her any money or whatnot, don't worry

Quote: (07-21-2011 09:19 PM)that guy Wrote:  

The lack of conversation may simply be cultural barrier. If she is new to the UK she may simply not be used to the dating culture, as it is no doubt much different where she is from (this is all assuming she is real). Different as in total opposite, some African cultures still do arranged marriages for christ sake. I've dated several African girls, don't judge their conversation or personality until you meet in person or at least get her on the phone, they may not be the best typers but almost always have great personalities. If your away, Skype is your saviour. Very sexy girl btw.

I was convinced this was the case, she was acting and talking like a freshy in every way, but it turns out she's UK born and bred! It could be that she's grown up around Ghanaians and had less exposure to mainstream British culture I suppose?..

But yes I agree, there is something about African girls and chatting online, they just suck at it! But then in person they can be full of energy and charismatic etc. etc.

Turns out this girl has been through the wars a bit, ex bf that hit her, felt isolated at uni, had to help out a lot at home etc. - I don't see any long term potential tbh but I would like to show this girl a good time and make her feel sexy/confident about herself.

So Ima just IM her every few days and maybe transition to Skype, then text in the UK, quickly followed by a call then bam; first date in London with a kiss close and then get her over to mine for the next.

MMMM shes sounding worse by the minute. Should be an easy lay though.

Quote: (07-21-2011 11:20 PM)that guy Wrote:  

MMMM shes sounding worse by the minute. Should be an easy lay though.

She's a sweet girl just doesn't give much away online. Whenever I suggest cooking my "special" for her etc. etc. she will suddenly animate and say she'd love that, so she's definitely interested, but Ima have to wait for irl to ascertain her real personality.

But yeah I think you're right

I have another girl gamed and numbered and ready to go too. I'm aiming to casually date about 3 or 4 girls at the same time, all of them long distance by about 2 hours train.

The other one is a sure shot. Will post pics if anyone cares to see.

Ok here we go:

Second girl, lives about 2h30 away (hmpf) and is so sweet I have to make sure not to hurt her at all, but I have her number and can arrange a date whenevs. Lives with the fam so any fun will have to be at my place and she works a terrible retail job so I'll be footing the bill. Caribbean though, and has the accent, auto-attraction for me.

That's an 8 or 9 in my book, even without the twins ._. Way out of my league though and probably gets gamed a lot, but she doesn't sound like a party girl so I'll give it a shot. She mentioned that she worked in a bank and likes her job so I opened with:

"So you're one of those sadistic bankers that gets a kick out of telling me I'm overdrawn right? "

Figured feisty would be a better tone to take with her. Will post results. Still, far far too hot for me in my current skinny ass state :/

Just keep in mind that if she's born and raised in Britain she may be used to aggressive game from dudes in her hood. Don't play it too cool; go for the bang on the first date!

Quote: (07-22-2011 01:44 AM)Caligula Wrote:  

Just keep in mind that if she's born and raised in Britain she may be used to aggressive game from dudes in her hood. Don't play it too cool; go for the bang on the first date!

Exactly my thoughts, but both her and the Caribbean girl have been unlucky with guys, both are quite introverted and neither go clubbing so they are fairly new to getting much real attention - especially (and I don't want to sound arrogant but it's true) from a 23 year old middle class student doctor that doesn't used the words "mandem" and "brap".

The third girl though, lol, cannot even imagine how much game she must deal with on a daily basis. Probably a pipe dream at my stage, remember I am the dude that was with a girl for 3.5 years (9/10 though) despite her cheating and generally being a bitch. I am very new to this and have much to make up for.

Only a trained, highly intelligent scientist could make the screamingly fundamental perceptual error of confusing something that's flesh and blood and real with tiny bits of electricity on a screen.

Don't take it wrong, I'm a little like that.

I've used the metaphor of the double-edged sword with my psychotherapy patients dozens if not hundreds of times: in your case, strong abstraction and focusing ability may come along with a sort of disconnect from the physical world. This theory also has soft support from the fact you're attracted to these earthy, even coarse women.

If you get with one of the women whose pictures you're theoretically looking at, it should be really good for you.

Good luck and best wishes.

"Online game" seems to be fairly mainstream and established by now, including on this website? There are a few threads of bodybuilding.com where guys regularly find, meet and fuck girls on POF and post proof afterwards.

Both these girls are 100% genuine, when you see a fb profile dating back years full of friends and family comments and photos, where they are a member of a university network you need a uni email to join etc. etc. you can be sure. Maybe in the 90s these sites were full of fat old men trying to lure young guys to their homes but that's just not the reality 99.99999% of the time anymore.

And I know that knowing their online personality =/= knowing who they are irl, we have been talking about as much in the posts above!

A good point though, is that online game doesn't necessarily translate to irl game. I just got messages from these girls, I hav them eating out of my hand online, but whether or not I can game them irl is another matter.. I hope so