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Sup you guys! Although I read the forums here I have little experience to share with any of you, so I've just been trying to soak up the knowledge.

I've been batting away at cold approach, swinging tons but missing every pitch. I'm sure you all have been there. Still, my opens have been going better on average and I feel more confident [read: indifferent] in the field thanks to hundreds of reference experiences (I've now done 250+ cold approaches...a few instant-dates but no lays or day 2s). So without further ado here's a short and sweet post for ya'll to enjoy. My question is at the very end in large font, underlined, starred, italicized, and bold:

The Opener

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Me: "You look very Peruvian"
Her: "No...Mexican"

Teasing/Flirting

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Me: "You strike me as the wild bad girl type" *cheeky smile*
Her: "No, no...I don't party much!"
Me: *extends pinky for pinky promise - she takes it with her pinky* "I promise...your secret is safe with me" *insert cheeky grin*
Her: "Hahaha, yeah I like to go out every weekend. We'll party a drink and stuff..it's fun."
Me: "Yeah, dancing on tables and making it rain I bet"
Her: "Sometimes ahaha"

Sexual Conversation/Nonjudgement

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Me: "Yeah, he's going to get an arranged marriage so he's plowing through as much as he can before his freedom's over!" *my imaginary friend is getting an arranged marriage, so he's playing the field for a while. Great way to sneak some non-judgement in there for the ladies *
Her: "Wow, that's not good!"
Me: "Meh, he's safe and uses protection. I think it's fine. He's an adult so he might as well have his fun"
Her: "Yeah, you're right...I could never do an arranged marriage...I would probably cheat"
Me: "Yeah...imagine if they were ugly"
Together: HAHAHAHAAHA

Number Exchange

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Her: *putting her number in my phone* "Can I call my phone now?"
Me: "Sure" *she calls my phone so that she too has my number*

Texting

*I don't send her a "nice meeting you" text. She texts me first the next day around 11am.*

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Her: "Well goodmorning
Me: "XYZ, hey . Same to you. I just started breakfast!"
Her: "Really wow "
Me: "Jealous! . What about you?"
Her: Hahahaha am not!! I had my breakfast at 8am. right now I'm working . What are you doing?
Me: Munching on this delicious chicken ..so, Karen - our picnic. When are we doing this? I can't Friday.
Her: What day can you???
Me: Midday Sat. or Monday I'm free most of the day

I sent that text Wednesday at 2pm. She still hasn't responded, so I'm assuming that she's either 1) super busy - not likely - 2) found her soul mate or 3) this one is dead in the water.

*My Question*

Did you guys see anything wrong with my text exchange? I know that I can be a bit too silly at times so I really toned it way down. I know that once you ask about a girl it means you've lost so what could I do better in the future?

This feels like a major sticking point because now I "lose" at this point of the game every time despite getting numbers more consistently.

By the way, if it helps I'm 20 and she's 21. I suggested a date at the park since drinking venues are out.

Soooooo....her name was Karen?

Quote: (05-30-2014 10:31 AM)Sharkie Wrote:  

Soooooo....her name was Karen?

nah

Saying Peruvian is saying they're Indian, not the best thing to tell a girl in a society where being the least amount of native is good.

I never really liked the "So, are you from XXXX" line. You more often than not get it wrong. A simple "Hey, I'm FVTT" has worked just about every time. Be loud, have a deep voice, and she will notice you and it will work. It has yet to fail for me. Then, quickly jump in with something else to get the conversation going. No need to make sweeping racial assumptions.

Quote: (05-30-2014 05:09 PM)Cattle Rustler Wrote:  

Saying Peruvian is saying they're Indian, not the best thing to tell a girl in a society where being the least amount of native is good.

Huh, interesting perspective. I had no idea.

Quote: (05-30-2014 10:55 PM)From Vegas to Tokyo Wrote:  

I never really liked the "So, are you from XXXX" line. You more often than not get it wrong. A simple "Hey, I'm FVTT" has worked just about every time. Be loud, have a deep voice, and she will notice you and it will work. It has yet to fail for me. Then, quickly jump in with something else to get the conversation going. No need to make sweeping racial assumptions.

"So, are you from XXX" is my favorite. Your approach is pretty bold. Might try it

Quote: (05-30-2014 10:55 PM)From Vegas to Tokyo Wrote:  

I never really liked the "So, are you from XXXX" line. You more often than not get it wrong. A simple "Hey, I'm FVTT" has worked just about every time. Be loud, have a deep voice, and she will notice you and it will work. It has yet to fail for me. Then, quickly jump in with something else to get the conversation going. No need to make sweeping racial assumptions.

Hey man,

I opened around 30 sets with this exact line and a few more with a slight variation ("Hi, what's your name?") and in most cases it worked well to get the woman's attention. Thank you! When I don't have a spontaneous thought, this can now be my default during a nighttime/warm approach. I should note that since I focus mostly on cold-approach daygame, my thought is that your approach may not be as effective during the day; however, I will experiment with it starting tomorrow.