Long story short. Have been in a relationship with a (mostly) fantastic girl little over one year. Super kind, always there for me, giving, generous, really hot (yes… guys turn around on the street, watching her go by)

My pad, which is very nice, is paid by my company. I can't have other people living there, but a GF spending a few nights a week isn't really an issue. During this year, the topic of moving in together has arisen, and I've told her it would be nice to live together some day. Nothing more, just an aloof but positive attitude.

My GF shares an apt with another girl. They don't get along really well, but the place is tiptop and she got everything she'd wish for. Generally I make her come to my place 90% of the time we hang.

The other day she found out that her flatmate is selling the apartment, and she'll need to consider an alternative. She makes OK enough to find a small pad and I supported her browsing for flats…

Last night I was having a few beers and dinner with my bud at a dive bar to which she came over (after calling and asking why i don't upen my door at home) to make a scene. The message was that I'm not supportive enough offering my pad up for her or suggesting that I'll move out for us to find something new together. I was apparently a "liar" since I've been talking about how nice it would be to live together some day, but not being up for it now - that she needs my help.

I told her straight up, that it isn't cool at all what she's suggesting. Naturally i'm supporting her, and she can live there if she won't manage to find something in the beginning - but Its still good for us to have our own places bla bla bla, and the fact that I don't wish to cause a mess at work.

Observation 1) This is not a genuine desire. She needs a "provider"..
Observation 2) In the future, never ever speculate in shit you can't stand be hind 100% once the situation occurs (living together). Silence is the answer.

Tonight we talked again at her place, she was acting out and questioning my "love for her", saying that she'd do anything for me (Which is true) - and what was I doing for her, now. I'm not so sure that argument would hold if I was to be the night shift manager at Domino's pizza, weighing 40lbs more, but let's leave that aside from the hypargamous notion of "unconditional love". I was calm all the time, and told that feelings towards as moving together, getting married and the rest should grow naturally and not be pushed due to circumstances as these. Sure, I get the part that she's in a shitty situation but I made it clear to her I love her (she didn't say anything about loving me) and it will be all right. She is just acting out of proportion.

I'm leaving town this weekend, and suggested we take a small break and think things through. She's kept repeating that she knows "how this will end" (break-up) which frankly is a depressing, negative mindset. Calm down, I said, a million times..

Besides being cuckolded, isn't she also projecting her un-love, or whatever the fuck is going on, on to me?

Whats your take on this?

I thought cuckolded meant she makes you eat some other dudes jizz out of her pussy.

That's the meaning of it in Mexico.

Got an interesting opinion to share?

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:38 PM)Benelli Wrote:  

That's the meaning of it in Mexico.

Got an interesting opinion to share?

Well I would if she was doing what I thought it was.

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Tonight we talked again at her place, she was acting out and questioning my "love for her", saying that she'd do anything for me (Which is true) - and what was I doing for her, now. I'm not so sure that argument would hold if I was to be the night shift manager at Domino's pizza, weighing 40lbs more, but let's leave that aside from the hypargamous notion of "unconditional love". I was calm all the time, and told that feelings towards as moving together, getting married and the rest should grow naturally and not be pushed due to circumstances as these. Sure, I get the part that she's in a shitty situation but I made it clear to her I love her (she didn't say anything about loving me) and it will be all right. She is just acting out of proportion.

Yeah right.

In my humble opinion you are still a bit wet behind the ears, for the simple reason that you are over analyzing a situation that requires little or no analysis. If you let her "cuckold" you now I imagine if you get married.

I say dump her.

I also smell some

Or genuine naivety

This thread is going to be huge

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:36 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I thought cuckolded meant she makes you eat some other dudes jizz out of her pussy.

No that's felching.
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...why are you looking at me like that??

I think cuckolded doesn't require creampie-eating. Merely that she gets pregnant by another man. Or men. Not sure.

I do know that some girls have a cuck-queen fetish. They want their man to impregnate other women. But this doesn't seem to be as common. Either because feminists oppress it, or because most men are cunts.

But to get back on topic: some of my favorite porn scenes are girls eating each other's jizz-filled snatches. Way more interesting than anal sex.

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:46 PM)Vicious Wrote:  

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:36 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I thought cuckolded meant she makes you eat some other dudes jizz out of her pussy.

No that's felching.
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...why are you looking at me like that??

I don't think so
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckold

1.Your relationship is over. End it ASAP.

2. Silence is not the answer when it comes to speculating about move-in/marriage with a woman. If she brings it up, tell her emphatically that you are not interested and prefer your own space. She either accepts it or not. Don't be intimidated by her just because she is attractive and you are afraid of losing her.

3. She wants the move-in because according to hamster logic that is the next step before marriage.

Trololololilililololi trolololololo trololololo

Benelli, what do you mean by cuckolded?

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:49 PM)Flavius Aetius Wrote:  

2. Silence is not the answer when it comes to speculating about move-in/marriage with a woman. If she brings it up, tell her emphatically that you are not interested and prefer your own space. She either accepts it or not. Don't be intimidated by her just because she is attractive and you are afraid of losing her.

Good points. Regarding nr 2, you are post on regarding the intimidation thing - i'm sad because of the fact this thing has blown out of proportion for her.

Regarding the word, cuckolded. Lost in translation. Urban dictionary aka the tween-dictionary is indeed entertaining. I thought it stood for being led on with bullshit

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:47 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I don't think so
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckold

Urban Dictionary, anyone can edit that. That particular entry is obviously some sort of edgy snark.

Quote: (02-20-2014 05:02 PM)Vicious Wrote:  

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:47 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I don't think so
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckold

Urban Dictionary, anyone can edit that. That particular entry is obviously some sort of edgy snark.

Well it's obviously No1 for a reason. You guys aren't American so stop trying to correct me.

Cuckolded is when she's fucking around on you.

Try and be brutally honest with yourself about what you actually want. An element of being alpha is making sure you are happy and doing what you want. So what do you want?

Do you want to eventually get engaged to her, get married etc?
Or is this just for no strings attached sex until she breaks up with you?
If your company didn't have a problem with more people in the apartment, would you welcome the idea?

Remember to take advice you read on this forum with a grain of salt. Some advice is going to be wrong for you because your goals are not the same as the other guy's goals.

You can lock down a head-turning girl in a country full of pretty girls like Belgium. You are probably already playing at a higher level than a big chunk of guys on this forum.

Chuckhold in America = she's having sex with someone who isn't you.

http://youtu.be/deQEWp0Exxc

Damn, I read through that whole thing and there wasn't even any cuckholding.

Quote: (02-20-2014 06:01 PM)Onto Wrote:  

Damn, I read through that whole thing and there wasn't even any cuckholding.

My thoughts exactly. Pretty gutted tbh

cuckold is when she is fcuking another man openly with you knowing about it. She makes no attempt to hide it. She may even let this cat hit it in the bed, car or home that you purchased and not even remove the evidence.
At the most brazen point, the lizard might hit it while you are home or she knows you are going to walk in and see penis (not your own) inside her vagina (technically your property).

Cuckolded means she has had another man's child and fooled you into believing it's yours and supporting it. Aside from that, next girl, or just keep fucking this one without giving her anything more. Value yourself highly, you don't require her in your life to pursue your happiness so fuck trading your happiness to try and keep her.

With the exception of mis-using the word cuckhold, it sounds like you're no fool and have a good grasp on her motives and the situation

Let her cool off and stick to your guns. Tell her to find another apt. That's what the rest of the world does when that shit happens. Why does she feel it should be any different for her?

Breaking up with a girl is much drama when you are living together. No clean getaway in that situation. Been there thrice, not fun.

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:46 PM)Vicious Wrote:  

Quote: (02-20-2014 04:36 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I thought cuckolded meant she makes you eat some other dudes jizz out of her pussy.

No that's felching.
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...why are you looking at me like that??

No, felching is when you eat it out of the asshole.

Why are YOU looking at me like that?

Cuckold? Isn't that when suburban soccer moms get drilled by black thugs and her husband watches? At least that what my cousin calls it when he comes home.

Quote: (02-20-2014 06:31 PM)Statsi Wrote:  

Cuckolded means she has had another man's child and fooled you into believing it's yours and supporting it.

I believe this is the traditional usage, though it has been used lately to mean an open affair perpetrated by the woman. The term itself derives from the cuckoo bird's laying of its egg in the nest of another bird... effectively shifting the cost of raising offspring to an innocent third party (the husband, in human terms.)

   

Odd, but when I look at this photo I think of Lindy West.