Quote: (03-22-2013 11:25 AM)soup Wrote:
Quote: (03-22-2013 11:17 AM)Nascimento Wrote:
Quote: (03-22-2013 10:56 AM)soup Wrote:
Yes, but, I've seen women do crazy shit to get men to do what they want. Mostly blackmail and false rape charges etc. I've seen peoples lives ruined by this kind of thing.
Shit, I just got a text from one the girls I'm banging, and she's threatening me. We hit it really late last night and she had to wake-up early this morning for work.
She sends me a text saying: "I slept through my alarm!!!!!!! I get fired today, your life is over."
I don't even know how to respond to a text like that.
I can only imagine what kind of shit a woman would pull if she wanted to have a baby, or get money from me, etc.
Keep us posted on that.
I emailed those texts to my email account. At this point, I'm going to freeze her out. I can't think of anything else to do.
Taking suggestions here...
I'm going to treat it as a case where you have not totally decided to freeze her out. Although I think this is quite reasonable given her absurd message. It's very rude, irresponsible and narcissistic for her to even joke like that.
I'd rather dream up a more widely applicable model than in this clear ditch-the-bitch situation.
I think an underlying principle which can offer hope is something I've heard attributed to Napoeon but am not sure about source:
Always presume stupidity before malevolence.
Let's make labels for someone like her as either being in S mode or M mode respectively. You don't yet know because text messages have no meta-data.
Let's model a woman's mind as something that:
a) Is solipsistic in that others exist only on terms of good-bad valence towards her-- you make me feel good or bad, period.
(All her morality stems from this. e.g., if you are Hitler roasting millions in ovens, but you give me a nice dress, you are "good.")
b) Is --time solipsistic?-- ( don't know if this is the right term) in that there is only NOW. Just like a child. There was a great Janice Jackson song from the 80's "What have you done for me lately?" that helps to illustrate.
Now with women there's an upper bound and a lower average with how smart they are, as in reality smart-- being able to see cause-and-effect-- not book-smart, because book-smarts are just a combination of memory and obedience and stamina-- so this is relative, but a bitch who says this and it is not TOTALLY a joke is someone you probably should be phasing out, because she is going to keep dumping bullshit like this on you.
My own belief:
Try to hang out with the most intelligent people you can. It will make you better.
So in this case, lacking meta-data because there is no body language or voice tonality, one could translate her threat to:
"If I get fired, I'm going to feel really bad, and I can't accept responsibility, so I'll assign responsibility to you and at least temporarily view you as a source of problems, and be mad at you. "
I think this is one where the more time passes, the less likely there will be any real blowback.First of all because she's a chick she probably won't get fired unless she's already been fucking up repeatedly. If she's that much of a fuck-up you probably don't want her in your life anyway.
If she likes fucking you, her innate selfishness will tend to smooth things over and she will quickly forget the "bad thing you did" as quickly as she'll forget the good thing's you've done.
Let's analyze female hamster morality from an imaginary, honest female point of view with insight:
1) If anything bad happens to be, it's someone else's fault, because I feel like I am a good person.
2) I am too stupid to get revenge by living well, unless I carousel my way to temporary feelinggood. I generally can only get revenge by doing something negative ( like getting Pycon programmer fired) because I am- for example in this case- too dumb and/or lazy to learn to program Python myself.
3) I am lazy (except for posting to facebook or some other easy activity that gets me social attention or in some higher-functioning cases housekeeping if it soothes me) , short sighted like a child (forget quickly because I am busy posting on Facebook)
4) Be cause I am lazy and forgetful, I will usually only pursue revenge assiduously if the pursuit gets me further social or financial reward.
5) The saving grace for you bad people who have offended me, is that if YOU are a potential source of social/financial reward, after I am done being mad I may act as if nothing happened because I am not responsible for the vengeful things I did. Those were your fault, remember? I might then act as if I really like you and as if I am trustworthy, because that will then be the best way to get more social/financial reward. Of course you'd be an idiot to trust me.
So I think in this case I would advise:
1) Don't confront her as if she is in M-mode, it will force her to harden her position.
2) Talk to her with slight positive valence,, seeing you "support" her will help switch her from M to S mode if she is hovering.
3) If she is really in hard M mode, IDK-- maybe cut off all contact with her? Do you realistically see going the way of false rape accusations etc?
4) If not hard M; and you really want to put up with her, wait until she's iin a good mood and feel out the chance of schooling her on personal responsibility. Maybe make her send an email saying she liked fucking you.
"Against stupidity the Gods themselves struggle in vain."
--Goethe
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