A buddy of mine found pictures of his girlfriend that seriously got him thinking his girlfriend cheated.

I think the body-language says it all, but I wanted to get more than just my own opinion before I tell him this girl has no intention of being true to him. Not to mention I'm going to have convince him his little blonde sweet heart is not really that.

Background: White Sensation Party earlier this year. He wasn't there, the girl is the blonde, the other girls her friends, the guy and his friend unknown - never seen before, so my buddy assumes they met at that party.

   
   
   
   
   
   
   

apologize for the massive scale of the pictures... didn't figure they'd be that big. Oh well.

I don't know man, it's really hard to tell. Girls act that way sometimes even though they aren't cheating. But most of the time they probably are.

What's the tattoo on her stomach say?

Aloha!

No idea. I think she and her friends drew slogans on each other with a marker? My buddy never mentioned tattoos.

I have this hunch that guy is actually a PUA - look how she's got his arms around him - in any case, he's playing his cards right.

I figure if my buddy has dump this girl, he's going to have to do it soon, and fast, like ripping off a band-aid - letting this shit linger in his mind will fuck him up. He's going to have to make a decision.

Cheater? Or no?

Quote: (10-19-2010 07:23 PM)rumguzzler Wrote:  

I think she and her friends drew slogans on each other with a marker?

Yep, she's cheating.

Aloha!

It does seem from the pictures that she is paying a lot of attention to the white guy with the beard. If it was just her having a fun time then there would be more pictures of her with the girls or even the other guy. The fact that every picture has her with her arm around the guy or looking at him playfully suggests there was some interest there.....if she cheated or not is open to debate. Were there other pictures from the night? How did you acquire the pictures?

My buddy, we'll call him Jack, sent them to me by email. There were other photos, according to him - from the pre-partying as well. The guy above isn't in them. But pretty much every picture from that party with her in it has him in it too... I think it must be her friend who took these photos, because this girl cannot possibly be this dumb. In photo #4 he's got his arm round her. Smooth kino.

I would say there's a 90% chance they hooked up or have hooked up in the past. Maybe a previous fling? In any case, the way she seems to act in all the pictures with the guy is a bit too comfy for a girl that has a boyfriend who's not in the picture.

The only other possibility (10%) is that the guy is gay, which doesn't seem to be the case judging by the pictures.

My assessment, exactly. Jack doesn't think they've met before, but how would he know. Anyways, it's this girl's birthday tomorrow. I'll recommend he dump her there.

"What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas"

unless, of course, it ends up on the internet

Bro, my advice is I would stay out of it reguardless...

One of my best friends, and my roomate at the time, had a baby with this girl. She lived with us, as well as the baby obviously. I'm at a party one night and meet this kid. I tell him which town I'm from and he says, "Oh yeah, I used to date a girl from that town, her name was ___________," which just so happened to be my friends girlfriend. He told me about how she told him that she was pregnant with his kid, which was really my best friends kid. I brought this up to him, and he flipped the fuck out on me, told me I was lying and to fuck off. Shit hit the fan. I gave him a month notice that I was moving out (Mostly because of the falling out, but also his crazy bitch girlfriend was stealing shit from me), and after that, we really weren't even homies anymore. We'd been best friends for 6 or 7 years.

So I end up moving out of state, come back home a year and a half later to find that the kid caught his whore of a girlfriend cheating on him with her manager. Hate to say I told you so dude. He appologized to me and we made ammends, but things definitely aren't the same. We're cool, but we're not boys like we used to be.

Then last time I came home, I found out that after they had broken up, she was fucking his DAD for COKE!!!! WTF? Turns out HE KNOCKED HER UP TOO!!!! Imagine that, your dad knocks up your babys mama!!!

Needless to say, she lost custody of the kids, but that fuck up cost my friend lots of money and many years of things he could have been doing fun. Poor fucking guy was stuck with a kid at the age of 17, won't get to see shit for the world. Works a hard ass construction job, makes decent money, but that's probably all he'll make in his life, is decent money. Kid was always kind of a dipshit to tell you the truth, a good guy, but a dipshit.

Moral of the story, sometimes it's just not worth it to get involved, it may just cost you a friendship. But at the same time, dumbfuck should have listened to what I was telling him and he wouldn't have wasted another year and a half with that whore.

I would agree, but my buddy came to me for advice. He's already taken the red pill. I think he just needs support to go through with what he knows to be right. I told him chances were she was cheating, and if she wasn't cheating, she was flirting big-time with this guy - we talked a bit about boundaries and what he considered ok and not ok in his relationship.

I think he's going to dump her.

where is this? US?

No. Amsterdam, I think?

I think he needs to first question her on it. I mean, a picture is simply one second of the entire night. Plus, the pictures don't show her doing anything over the top. It's a given that if you let your girlfriend go to a part such as that herself, she's going to enjoy herself with whomever is there. It's only natural that she goign to gravitate to whomever it is she finds attractive and who shows her attention in return. Afterall, she isn't bad looking one bit! Women are going to flirst, especially when their man isn't around. I mean, the same flirty qualities that most men like in a woman, and which probably attracted your friend to her in the first place, didn't just go away once he got with her. She's still the same flirty, fun loving girl shes always been probably. He needs a little more to go on, and compare these pictures with other incidents he's experienced throughout his relationship. Sounds like your friend has other reasons to question his girl's loyalty beyond these pictures.
Now, I'd definitely recommend this... Once he questions her, if she says absolutely ANYTHING he doesn't like or doesn't sound Kosher, he should definitely dump her! No point in staying with some girl for 3 years, whom you know after the first 3 months isn't for you! Plus, Many times its necessary to dump a girl for a while, even if the ultimate plan is to get back with her! Sometimes they need time to get their mind right, and need to see life without you, plus learn to realize that you mean business and won't tolerate nonsense!

Quote: (10-20-2010 12:35 PM)Urban Renaissance Man Wrote:  

I think he needs to first question her on it.

No offense, but I think that is the worst advice you can give. If there's anything experience with women will show you, the last thing you want to trust is her word. Girls bend words to manipulate what you think about them, or the history, or fact. And they will not feel ashamed for doing it.

Always judge a person by his or her actions.

While I wouldn't necessarily judge a girl for being touchy-feely when she's not in a relationship, I always think a girl who doesn't respect certain boundaries when she is in a relationship is a Hoe.

It looks like your bro didn't set limits with his girl. No girl I have been with seriously has taken a foto with her hand even touching another guy while we were dating. I make it clear that they don't have permission to do that. If they don't like it they can leave...if they like you they won't.

Your buddy needs to get himself in line or she's going to fuck every semi-smooth guy with a beard (if she cheated on him...you really can't tell from these fotos dude). Tell him to look at some pua material..get some jealousy going and he'll have her back in his arms in no time. If that doesn't work tell him not to dump her yet, keep her around and use her as a pivot until he gets another girl going.

Quote: (10-20-2010 01:45 PM)kerouac Wrote:  

Quote: (10-20-2010 12:35 PM)Urban Renaissance Man Wrote:  

I think he needs to first question her on it.

No offense, but I think that is the worst advice you can give. If there's anything experience with women will show you, the last thing you want to trust is her word. Girls bend words to manipulate what you think about them, or the history, or fact. And they will not feel ashamed for doing it.

Always judge a person by his or her actions.

While I wouldn't necessarily judge a girl for being touchy-feely when she's not in a relationship, I always think a girl who doesn't respect certain boundaries when she is in a relationship is a Hoe.

Well, I can tell you one thing, if you break up with a girl without at least questioning her on what's bothering you, you might regret the break up later! You will always wonder if it was justified. Now I'm not saying take her at face value but at least see if she has an explanation that sounds plausible.

Honestly I don't think she's cheating, atleast I don't get that from the pics. I can say though, that I would dump her anyways. I have never been able to tolerate that type of bitch. What kind of girl would go out drinking and clubbing without her man, hug on strangers and take a bunch of fucking pics of herself doing it (if she is in love with you) . This is typical of a Northern Euro or an a North American slut. They think its cute and need validation by bieng flirty and "cool" in the club or with friends. Unless those were her gay friends, cousins or some other relatives I would not tolerate that shit.

This chick doesn't have a really "hot" or horny look, so I dont think she looks like a cheater as far as sex..but she is the kind that probably requires much attention from men in general wherever she is at, with or without her boyfriend which still causes heart ache.

Quote: (10-20-2010 02:19 PM)Rocco81 Wrote:  

Honestly I don't think she's cheating, atleast I don't get that from the pics. I can say though, that I would dump her anyways. I have never been able to tolerate that type of bitch. What kind of girl would go out drinking and clubbing without her man, hug on strangers and take a bunch of fucking pics of herself doing it (if she is in love with you) . This is typical of a Northern Euro or an a North American slut. They think its cute and need validation by bieng flirty and "cool" in the club or with friends. Unless those were her gay friends, cousins or some other relatives I would not tolerate that shit.

This chick doesn't have a really "hot" or horny look, so I dont think she looks like a cheater as far as sex..but she is the kind that probably requires much attention from men in general wherever she is at, with or without her boyfriend which still causes heart ache.

I agree! And not only does it cause heart ache and problems, with the constant flirting, but it also makes it more likely for her to cheat, since she's constantly seeking validation from other men, which some of the smoother guys will hone in on!

Further Fun Facts:

A. camera belongs to friend, who took photos.

B. She wrote my boy, Jack, two messages that night, sometime around when the above photos were taken, and one 2 hours later. In the second message she wrote: "They're playing Cold Play's XXXX! I miss you so much!"

C. A week after above party, she blurted out "I love you" to Jack.

D. Two weeks after, according to him, she wrote him a very significant birthday card indicating he has complete and total sway over this girls feelings.

That "I miss you so much" had me raise my eyebrows. I can easily imagine a girl writing that when she feels guilty of something. The b-day card can be seen as part of this guilt assuaging complex, or it can be viewed as serious feelings on the part of this girl. I don't think she writes that to just anyone. On the other hand, I have it on good authority when a girl who is falling in love says "I love you", all she really means is she is not ready for you to dump her yet.

Dude she might really have missed his ass...I dont see her as a cheater, rather a flirty Alpha bitch who will just lead him along and diss him for the next better deal.

Doesnt say anything to be honest, but dump her and move on is always solid dont give any reason...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-q__knBahs use the number two when she calls...

Girls cheat anyways.