I keep getting this question online. I'm sure it's not only me but how would you answer this or avoid answering it?

This is a deal breaker right here. I think I may have blown it a few times

Personally I try to weigh the answer on who they are.
If I want to...
Go a little Zen I say "I'll guess I know once I find it".
Get the talk to a sexual level "Bump into someone that compliments the taste of whipped cream and chocolate syrup".
Pose a challenge "Find someone that can make me curious, I've all but given up".
Etc, these however require calibration.

I'm sure Gmac has a solid answer to this.

If the ask more than one question I ignore that one.

If that is the only thing I say "I'm looking for a great girl to see where things go." then on to some other bullshit to take her mind off of that.

Noncommittal and vague while not avoiding the question.

Occasionally I'll ask her to answer the question as well to see where she is at. They are often as noncommittal and then you are in "agreement".

Doesn't always work but those that press for an answer more substantive are not gonna be what I want anyway.

Doing some spray and pray myself today.

"I like having a girlfriend, but won't rush things just for the sake of being in a relationship."

These are all good. I getting this mostly from the girls who say they want a family and all that shit.

I employ the tactic I like to call being vague as fuck.

"What is anyone really looking to find here? I could get all psychoanalytic or existential on you but no one wants to hear about that."

She will fill in the gaps herself, so you don't have to do any of the legwork aside from that comeback. Unless she's uneducated, in which case she might not get it.

Quote: (05-07-2012 02:37 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

"I like having a girlfriend, but won't rush things just for the sake of being in a relationship."

Man, yeah that's good.

I say --

"I want to find the woman who's right for me...but more important I want the woman to find out that I am right for her"

Guaranteed to get the hamster sprinting at warp speed.

Cold reading skills.

Tell her what sme vague non-statements like the ones suggested above, and sooner or later she'll give you everything she needs you to say. Then you basically turn those statements into affirmations of your intent.

I sent Mikes this time...I got this back lol...

I know what u mean I've met some pretty interesting guys on here too... I'm looking to meet someone that's a right fit and def. Want to have atleast one child in the next couple years if not sooner ... So I'm pretty serious about things ... I've gone through my wild years and I'm pretty much a no drama kinda person... Def. Looking for the same

Woah. I thought Mike's line was definitely good.. But I didn't realise it'd help you discover pitfall traps.

Take your own condom and make sure you personally dispose of it in a furnace or something.

Quote: (05-07-2012 05:31 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I sent Mikes this time...I got this back lol...

I know what u mean I've met some pretty interesting guys on here too... I'm looking to meet someone that's a right fit and def. Want to have atleast one child in the next couple years if not sooner ... So I'm pretty serious about things ... I've gone through my wild years and I'm pretty much a no drama kinda person... Def. Looking for the same

Translation:

"I'm finally starting to regret my whorish days and I'm looking for some beta chump to take me and ignore my past."

Every woman over 30 is looking to have a child. That's just a hazard of the game.

Gaming "older" women requires you to fake some beta traits. (Exception: Post-divorcees, who just want to "have fun.")

You *want* to have a relationship. You just haven't found the *right woman*.

Ding, ding, ding, her little narcissistic brain goes off, "He just hasn't met me!"

Quote: (05-07-2012 03:12 PM)Gmac Wrote:  

I employ the tactic I like to call being vague as fuck.

"What is anyone really looking to find here? I could get all psychoanalytic or existential on you but no one wants to hear about that."

She will fill in the gaps herself, so you don't have to do any of the legwork aside from that comeback. Unless she's uneducated, in which case she might not get it.

For younger (under 26) girls, yes.

Older girls are surprisingly good at spotting the kind of game we tend to run i.e., some form of aloof/cocky funny/natural.

To get older broads, you need to mix in a little beta game.

One reason I don't like gaming older women is because they are more bitter about life. Running game isn't playful or fun.

Try using the "twirl move" on a 20-year old. She'll giggle.

Then try that on a 33-year old. "You're not going to spin me."

Older women - by necessity - are far more serious about dating.

The goal is to convince them you are serious, too.

Ok so how would you respond to that? Set up for the SNL .

edit..I went in Beta.

Quote: (05-07-2012 06:18 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

Ok so how would you respond to that? Set up for the SNL .

edit..I went in Beta.

She sounds like a window shopper. ("I've met some pretty interesting guys on here too.")

Window shoppers are the worst for a SNL.

I would send the following response: "Whoa, we haven't even had any fun together and you're already talking about kids. Are you always this serious?"

If she says something like, "A girl my age has to be," then she's out.

But a lot of girls want to prove they are not so serious, i.e., boring, and will send an interesting reply.

I sent " I was going to give away my changing table this week but I guess not. lol"

Quote: (05-07-2012 06:34 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

I sent " I was going to give away my changing table this week but I guess not. lol"

That's really good.

Looking forward to her reply.

She's fast I'll give her that but she just sent..... "So what do you want in a woman?"

Tough nut.

I'm old fashioned and like to take charge. I'm looking for a woman whose not afraid of a dominant man.

Quote: (05-07-2012 06:55 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

I'm old fashioned and like to take charge. I'm looking for a woman whose not afraid of a dominant man.

What? I think we may have chatted enough. I was thinking of dropping a bombshell on her. My digits. Then radio silence. I'll send what you wrote but I think that will be the end of this deal.

If I can get a second on your idea I'm all in. I think if I answer that in text I'm opening myself up for a series of shit-tests. I did some fine work there with the help of you fine gentlemen.

Your girl presents the problem of the "time waster" or "window shopper."

Those women like to ask endless questions and go on repeated dates.

With those types, I go back and forth between alpha and beta.

Beta, "I want a girlfriend," and alpha, "I am dominant."

If she goes for the dominant line, then she's in the frame that you're running things.

I used that very same line on a girl who "was tired of men just looking for sex," and she responded, "Good. I'm looking for a dominant master."

That line won't work universally. But it does two things that are central to my game:

1. Blowing Bitches Out (BBO). If a girl is a time waster, I am not going to run endless game on her. I'm going to blow her out with a line she might not like, but...

2. Often those BBO lines leave a girl who wants to be dominated. She only seemed like a time waster because her submissive switch hadn't been flipped.

On some sites you can see clearly what a person is looking for - they can select friends, networking, dating, serious relationship. I've found that deep down, most chicks are looking for at least a boyfriend, even if they don't openly state that. Since I'm usually looking for internationals, I just select friends and networking. I don't openly state that I'm NOT seeking more than that, though I'm really not. I contact chicks that are interesting to me, and start working them and see where I can take it.

I can recall only a couple of chicks that asked flat-out what I was looking for. I usually reply that "I'm looking for nice people, and I'll see where it goes from there." Give 'em the idea that you're open. I avoid the chicks that openly state "serious relationship" and nothing else. I hunt down late 30s to mid 40s, and find many of them are looking for something serious, but are also open to getting fucked by a guy they're attracted to that seems cool. Especially when you're dealing with internationals. They know you can't be all-in because of the distance, but like the thrill of a foreigner coming over and spending time with him. It's a temporary departure from their mundane lives. Some have dreams of meeting someone "they can grow old with," and they've already had all the kids they're going to have. They can be ripe for bang-outs.

It's funny you posted that Mike, as I just asked one if she liked a dominant guy or milk toast.

Been rambling endlessly about everything but avoiding anything that might get her to open up about what she wants...

Was time to throw a bomb.

Quote: (05-07-2012 06:48 PM)el mechanico Wrote:  

She's fast I'll give her that but she just sent..... "So what do you want in a woman?"

Tough nut.

You got a lot more patience than I do El. Tell her you will send over your dental records in the morning and she can continue with the interviewing process.