Okay great, let's get back on topic with your initial question:
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I have some kind of vague opposition to consciously saying and doing things to get women into bed
In order to do that we have to treat them like a girlfriend right?
The simple answer is no, you don't have ever have to treat a woman like a girlfriend to sleep with her.
If you get a woman into bed, you're obviously saying SOMETHING to get her into bed.
It doesn't have to be deceptive one bit !
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But if the intention is not to turn them into my girlfriend but to just have sex it feels like a deception. Although I want a girlfriend right now... I keep going back and forth to wanting a girlfriend and just wanting sex Confused.
There are a few scenarios here:
A girl you'r about to have sex with says, "wait, before we have sex, where is this going?"
A few simple answers are:
"We'll find out while we have fun"
"I'm not sure, but I'd like to find out"
"We'll see, let's not worry ourselves"
"I don't like to jump into things fast, I take my time"
etc.
All these answers are all the truth, there's nothing wrong with saying that to a women.
She's basically shit testing you with her response to make sure you're a man and can handle the situation.
Coffee made the perfect explanation of holding your frame and being on judgemental - that can carry you a long way.
You shouldn't be in the frame of "Wanting" a girlfriend, you're coming from a position of weakness.
You should be in the frame of girls wanting to be with YOU.
They should pass your tests and filters for the quality girl you want in your life.
In the meantime having fun and sleeping with them isn't an issue.
However, after doing this with girls for awhile, this is where the path splits:
You've been hanging/banging for a bit and she says, "What are we? Is this going anywhere"
Aka she's catching feelings for you.
Some players will bat the shit test down, say what she wants to hear and carry on and milk her for all she's worth and keep playing the game. (Eventually sooner or later the girl gets wise)
Some players realize she wants you as her man, and you like her, so you make her your woman. (This opens a whole new book on game and how to maintain a good relationship)
Some players don't want to burn or hurt her so they let the woman go since they don't want her as a girlfriend. (Plenty of fish in the sea, carry on, sometimes they come back to fuck)
At the end of the day you DON'T need to treat every girl that comes into your life and game them like they're your GF - matter of fact they should prove they're worthy of being your girlfriend!