Don't "fly out to see her." Tell her you're conveniently going to be in her area for X reason and that "maybe" you can meet up. I've seen and read time and again when you travel to meet a girl you put too much power in her hands/too much pressure on the meet up and a chance for flaking is high. Definitely fuck her and then dip out, that's a no brainer

Quote: (10-23-2018 02:34 AM)JackinMelbourne Wrote:  

Travelling whore maybe?

A lot of whores travel or get trafficked for work (expenses paid travel).

Long story short, whores gonna whore. Have fun but don't try to stop her from whoring or think that she loves you or that she doesn't view men as nothing more than cash dispensers.

Who knows? I didn't get this vibe from her but then again didn't see the exotic dancer thing either. I just know she should could have told me she was P4P on several occasions when it would have made sense to do so and she did turn down my request to take her back to my hotel which would seem very un whore like.

The other thing is she keeps coming back to me and telling me how romantic the dates were, the things we did and she can't stop thinking about me and so on. She was also asking questions like did you see any other girls on your trip and then pressing for more personal information. To me, this is all the kind of stuff you would hear from a girl who wants to be your girlfriend. Maybe I am just naive as I don't spend time with pros but I don't think they would bother with this stuff.

Quote: (10-23-2018 03:02 AM)speculator Wrote:  

Dual citizen strippers are very common in California. There is a famous strip club in Tijuana, called Hong Kong, where many of the "exotic dancers" have a dual citizenship. These hos fucked more men than you have shook hands with. Pump and dump.

HAHA good old HK.

A guy I know is dating a girl from there.

I don't get how he compartmentalizes it, she's even got a kid.

He told me she has a "business" that wasn't doing well/in the early stages and she's stacking cash to get the fuck out of HK.

He doesn't have any reason to lie though, dudes a chad thundercock with looks and is jacked.


As for OP - you haven't even fucked this chick, barely kissed her, and acted all proper.

THEN she drops a side note she's a stripper/hooker on the side?

The only thing you should be doing is fucking her brains out.

Upside is she's probably one of the cleanest girls you'll meet since they get tested often.


Don't be fooled, she's playing the wifey card because she sees you as a beta bucks.

She's playing you like she would play a John at the club as her personal ATM.

Quote: (10-22-2018 11:56 PM)TIOT12 Wrote:  

Quote: (10-22-2018 11:52 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  

What did she mean by exotic dancer? Like a stripper or something?

I would see this as a red flag. Keep her at arms-length emotionally.

She is a Mexican and so said it in Spanish as "bailarina exotica." She didn't elaborate further and I didn't think to ask as I thought she was joking at first. Honestly, I don't even know what the difference is between an exotic dancer and a stripper.

One sucks cack for money and the other doesn't admit she does

This is not a potential girlfriend who is a dancer on the side.

This is a professional dancer with YOU on the side.

Some guys just need to learn the hard way. A beginner must go through the aches and pains of women.

PumpAndDump. There's no other way.

Quote: (10-23-2018 06:17 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  

Don't know about Mexico but from my experience most of the strippers are not also whores on the side. The most beautiful ones don't really need that, the suckers who go to strips pay fortunes just to chat with them, and nurture the hope they will become their boyfriends. Whether whore or not, just don't invest much emotionally, and in any case you really don't seem much delighted with her personality considering your first post...

Cool story, bro.

You're the sucker if you believe that the majority of them aren't whores.

You really think a girl that gets naked or almost naked and rubs herself all over men that she finds disgusting (mostly) and quickly drains them of all their money isn't a whore? You really think she's never jerked a dude off in the VIP or sucked a guy off for a little spending cash or strung along some old dude and only banged him here and there to keep him dropping fat stacks of cash on stuff for her or just directly?

Come on.

Quote: (10-23-2018 02:05 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Quote: (10-23-2018 06:17 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  

Don't know about Mexico but from my experience most of the strippers are not also whores on the side. The most beautiful ones don't really need that, the suckers who go to strips pay fortunes just to chat with them, and nurture the hope they will become their boyfriends. Whether whore or not, just don't invest much emotionally, and in any case you really don't seem much delighted with her personality considering your first post...

Cool story, bro.

You're the sucker if you believe that the majority of them aren't whores.

You really think a girl that gets naked or almost naked and rubs herself all over men that she finds disgusting (mostly) and quickly drains them of all their money isn't a whore? You really think she's never jerked a dude off in the VIP or sucked a guy off for a little spending cash or strung along some old dude and only banged him here and there to keep him dropping fat stacks of cash on stuff for her or just directly?

Come on.

Though I don't corroborate the same opinion, I know from where Frank's post comes from. He lives in the same city as me, and here strippers don't bang in the strip clubs, opposite to our neighbours in Spain (or mostly everywhere in the world), where the strip club notion and reality is the same as a regular "puticlub" or brothel.

I use to joke with a friend of mine that Portugal is so conservative that even strippers do not bang...

...but of course they bang, normally is negotiated with the customer, and the deal is sealed outside, the club takes no part in it.

The words "potential girlfriend" and "exotic dancer" should never be used together in the same sentence.

This thread shows why it is important that this board exists. A lot of good advice that I needed to hear. Thank you all.

Where is Kona? He's our resident hoe-to-housewife conversion expert. ... Aka the stripper-whisperer

He is currently living and dreaming in the thread about the guy whose female boss stuffed panties in his mouth.

He will come when he is ready.

Quote: (10-23-2018 03:29 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

Though I don't corroborate the same opinion, I know from where Frank's post comes from. He lives in the same city as me, and here strippers don't bang in the strip clubs, opposite to our neighbours in Spain (or mostly everywhere in the world), where the strip club notion and reality is the same as a regular "puticlub" or brothel.

I use to joke with a friend of mine that Portugal is so conservative that even strippers do not bang...

...but of course they bang, normally is negotiated with the customer, and the deal is sealed outside, the club takes no part in it.

Thank you for corroborating his opinion based on local experience, but an exception doesn't disprove a generalization rule (that the majority are whores in some form or another).

Quote: (10-23-2018 05:47 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Quote: (10-23-2018 03:29 PM)Rocha Wrote:  

Though I don't corroborate the same opinion, I know from where Frank's post comes from. He lives in the same city as me, and here strippers don't bang in the strip clubs, opposite to our neighbours in Spain (or mostly everywhere in the world), where the strip club notion and reality is the same as a regular "puticlub" or brothel.

I use to joke with a friend of mine that Portugal is so conservative that even strippers do not bang...

...but of course they bang, normally is negotiated with the customer, and the deal is sealed outside, the club takes no part in it.

Thank you for corroborating his opinion based on local experience, but an exception doesn't disprove a generalization rule (that the majority are whores in some form or another).

I dont corroborate his opinion )) should have specified that ))

I posted this exact response when someone was asking opinions about their girlfriend stripping for financial reasons. It is a different day today, a different post even, but my answer remains the same:

Though the sex may be great, how does it compare with the RISK of being with someone like this?

There is DRAMA coming your way at minimum, maybe, likely TROUBLE. Why bother for a piece of ass?

Do you really want to be with someone whose prospects are so limited, and whose judgement is so POOR?

Things, good and bad, don't often happen TO us, we MAKE them happen through the choices we make.

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Someday do a web search for interviews with pornstars and their boyfriends. If you want the same haunted look in your eyes as the boyfriends, go for the long term relationship.

easy answer
1-Pump and dump.
2- String her along under hope she will be your girl friend one day. Get as much sex as you can. Share mini amount of info about you with her

If she works in the sex/adult entertainment industry then she is not good girlfriend material. Use this as an opportunity to get threesomes and foursomes with her and her other hot stripper friends.

I dated a stripper once for over a year and my biggest mistake was calling her my "girlfriend." I should have kept her as a casual friend with benefits and had her bring her coworkers into the bedroom with us and had crazy coke and ecstasy parties.

Quote: (10-23-2018 03:41 PM)JonVonstroke Wrote:  

The words "potential girlfriend" and "exotic dancer" should never be used together in the same sentence.

A lot of guys like to want to 'save' damaged women. I know because I'm one of them. It's a hard impulse to shake off. There should be an AA type program for captain save-a-ho types. Women love to avoid responsibility for their actions and it's easy to buy into their innocent victim narrative and white-knight. The fact is that women are more complicit in making these bad choices than they want us to think, which is why more often than not, despite all the crying and moaning, they don't leave this lifestyle behind. If you don't respect a woman's lifestyle, then you can't really respect her as a person. You need respect for an LTR otherwise you'll never want to show her off to your friends and family.

This goes to highlight womens dual game strategy (this is a more extream example).

They have bad boys they fuck in the bathroom stall, and serious boyfriends who they make wait 4 weeks for a peck on the cheek when they looking to "settle down".

Alpha fucks / Beta Bucks sexual strategy.

You can image the disgusting things a mexican stripper has done.

But you get a peck on the cheek, because she wants to be "a good girl now".

LTR this up and it will be a dead bedroom, and she will cheat.

Read This Carefully

Gotta bone a stripper at some point for bragging rights alone. After just one though, you'll know enough not to do it again.

Quote: (10-23-2018 02:05 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Quote: (10-23-2018 06:17 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  

Don't know about Mexico but from my experience most of the strippers are not also whores on the side. The most beautiful ones don't really need that, the suckers who go to strips pay fortunes just to chat with them, and nurture the hope they will become their boyfriends. Whether whore or not, just don't invest much emotionally, and in any case you really don't seem much delighted with her personality considering your first post...

Cool story, bro.

You're the sucker if you believe that the majority of them aren't whores.

You really think a girl that gets naked or almost naked and rubs herself all over men that she finds disgusting (mostly) and quickly drains them of all their money isn't a whore? You really think she's never jerked a dude off in the VIP or sucked a guy off for a little spending cash or strung along some old dude and only banged him here and there to keep him dropping fat stacks of cash on stuff for her or just directly?

Come on.

Too much hate in you, there is.

Quote: (10-23-2018 12:25 AM)TIOT12 Wrote:  

Quote: (10-23-2018 12:19 AM)Spaniard88 Wrote:  

That's a prostitute.

In Mexico, even more so than in the U.S., strippers are prostitutes. They're one level up from streetwalkers.

If it makes a difference, I didn't meet this girl in Mexico. I met her in Europe and she says she has dual citizenship with the US. Do you think she was lying about having a professional job altogether?

Or are you just saying that an exotic dancer in Mexico means that she is a probable prostitute?

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Quote: (10-23-2018 06:17 AM)Frank Mackey Wrote:  

Don't know about Mexico but from my experience most of the strippers are not also whores on the side. The most beautiful ones don't really need that, the suckers who go to strips pay fortunes just to chat with them, and nurture the hope they will become their boyfriends. Whether whore or not, just don't invest much emotionally, and in any case you really don't seem much delighted with her personality considering your first post...

The not knowing Mexico part is a massive factor, maybe where you're from it's the exception but Mexico is the rule if anywhere in the world is, stripping in Mexico is literally prostitution.

As for the question... that's a serious red flag in a potential partner, way too big a flag for me to consider. Heck even fucking strippers is hard work because they're about as stable as a 150 year old stick of dynamite, basically takes some serious issues in your life to get to the point where money is that much more important than self respect, dignity, family values and everything else you throw out the window the second you start stripping. Basically all the traits you would look for in a potential mother to your children are the very traits a stripper does not have.