Interesting thread.
A few of my own observations regarding Asian girls in this context (I have lived in Asia for a couple years and have had several relationships).
- I have seen this "money behaviour" before with Indonesians in particular. A friend of mine was in a relationship for years with an Indonesian girl, in Indonesia. He took some financial blows and lost his job in a short span of time. In other words, times were going to be tough. What did she do? She ditched him and literally gave him the reason "you can't support me". He was baffled. He also suspects her family and particularly her mom is behind it.
- I have also seen the opposite, with a Vietnamese girl. When times got tough in the relationship (financially), she accepted a temporary lower standard of living and roughed it out with her man. The man had an "I got this" attitude about it, and eventually got his shit together. She supported him all the way through.
- Of course both above cases are separate and we can't generalize entire countries, but when it comes to Indonesians in particular, I have observed gold digging behaviour more often. They can be the friendlist people on earth, until the money stops rolling in. They'll disregard you in an instant, better believe it.
- The family thing is very real and cannot be underestimated. With most Asian girls I've been with, the family was never far away. They give you the idea that you're in control, but they're always hovering in the background, like a plague of mosquitoes just outside of your hammock, waiting to strike. And forget about calling anyone out on it, because you WILL get the passive aggressive treatment and it WILL turn you miserable and bitter. Better to accept it, immerse in it and navigate it.
- If you want to succeed, it is imperative to spend extended time in her country and to learn her culture. An Asian girl studying in Europe is not the same, no matter how many "traditional" and "Asian" traits she displays.
- You will never truly integrate into her family or her country. People will tolerate you, accept you, respect you even, but: you. will. always. be. an. outsider. You can speak the language fluently, you can live in their country for 2 decades, you can raise a family there; but you are still an outsider. In the West, we are already used to being multicultural and people from different backgrounds integrating into families. Forget about it in Asia.
- I agree with the notion of AWALT, but I like to give a different spin to it. Get your shit together, not just financially. Adapt, command respect, be the alpha in her life, navigate her culture. She will fall into your frame just like any other girl. Because: AWALT. It just takes a different approach with different obstacles to overcome. Doesn't mean it's impossible.
A few of my own observations regarding Asian girls in this context (I have lived in Asia for a couple years and have had several relationships).
- I have seen this "money behaviour" before with Indonesians in particular. A friend of mine was in a relationship for years with an Indonesian girl, in Indonesia. He took some financial blows and lost his job in a short span of time. In other words, times were going to be tough. What did she do? She ditched him and literally gave him the reason "you can't support me". He was baffled. He also suspects her family and particularly her mom is behind it.
- I have also seen the opposite, with a Vietnamese girl. When times got tough in the relationship (financially), she accepted a temporary lower standard of living and roughed it out with her man. The man had an "I got this" attitude about it, and eventually got his shit together. She supported him all the way through.
- Of course both above cases are separate and we can't generalize entire countries, but when it comes to Indonesians in particular, I have observed gold digging behaviour more often. They can be the friendlist people on earth, until the money stops rolling in. They'll disregard you in an instant, better believe it.
- The family thing is very real and cannot be underestimated. With most Asian girls I've been with, the family was never far away. They give you the idea that you're in control, but they're always hovering in the background, like a plague of mosquitoes just outside of your hammock, waiting to strike. And forget about calling anyone out on it, because you WILL get the passive aggressive treatment and it WILL turn you miserable and bitter. Better to accept it, immerse in it and navigate it.
- If you want to succeed, it is imperative to spend extended time in her country and to learn her culture. An Asian girl studying in Europe is not the same, no matter how many "traditional" and "Asian" traits she displays.
- You will never truly integrate into her family or her country. People will tolerate you, accept you, respect you even, but: you. will. always. be. an. outsider. You can speak the language fluently, you can live in their country for 2 decades, you can raise a family there; but you are still an outsider. In the West, we are already used to being multicultural and people from different backgrounds integrating into families. Forget about it in Asia.
- I agree with the notion of AWALT, but I like to give a different spin to it. Get your shit together, not just financially. Adapt, command respect, be the alpha in her life, navigate her culture. She will fall into your frame just like any other girl. Because: AWALT. It just takes a different approach with different obstacles to overcome. Doesn't mean it's impossible.