So this happened. I am trying a new strategy involving a 3 dates for sex strategy. A nice walk outside close to my place - following up with coffee at my place. If all goes well a second date another time at a venue. Third time home date with bang. The overall aim is to spend less money and reduce calory intake from alchol before I get the girl really hooked while also gauging her interest and finding out how much I really like her.
Anyway, this strategy has had an excellent start and has already payed off but something happened this saturday.
I met the girl, whom I was going on a walk with and she seemed ok looking. Kinda insecure and talking a lot - a good sign for a I could keep my composure easily and feel out all her signs. The walk is long - like 45 minutes and as we get back to my place, I casually offer her coffee “as per my plan” which she accepts.
I normally have this rule that I try to avoid messing about with girls on the first date, particularly without alchohol as this has failed me in the past - problem is that all the signs that she wants to be kissed are there, so I decide to go for it anyway. It kinda acellerates and suddenly half her clothes are almost off. She turns out to have a killer body. I do decide not to firmly push to seal the deal because I tell myself I want to play it longer term. I have to let her go because I had f-date with a different girl.
Here’s the problem. I wrote her following and asking her to come to my place for Netflix and chill. She responded by asking for a drink and talk - let’s get to know eachother date, which I was not cool with because it made me feel I was losing my frame with her.
Did I fuck up? Should I have pushed for sex when she was on my be drinking coffee with me?
What ensued was me kinda beta-ing out a little bit because she declined to my house. I texte her the whole situation made me feel “weird” and she’s kind of bought into that but still pushes for the chat date.
While I don’t believe that de-escalation early in the dating has ever brought anything good with other than disappointment, I really do want to fuck her.
What should I do? She afsked for a wednesday date and I am contemplating writing her a short commandlike text givingher instructions to meet me at this and this bar wearing this and this oufit and try to make things happen anyway.
Comments?
Anyway, this strategy has had an excellent start and has already payed off but something happened this saturday.
I met the girl, whom I was going on a walk with and she seemed ok looking. Kinda insecure and talking a lot - a good sign for a I could keep my composure easily and feel out all her signs. The walk is long - like 45 minutes and as we get back to my place, I casually offer her coffee “as per my plan” which she accepts.
I normally have this rule that I try to avoid messing about with girls on the first date, particularly without alchohol as this has failed me in the past - problem is that all the signs that she wants to be kissed are there, so I decide to go for it anyway. It kinda acellerates and suddenly half her clothes are almost off. She turns out to have a killer body. I do decide not to firmly push to seal the deal because I tell myself I want to play it longer term. I have to let her go because I had f-date with a different girl.
Here’s the problem. I wrote her following and asking her to come to my place for Netflix and chill. She responded by asking for a drink and talk - let’s get to know eachother date, which I was not cool with because it made me feel I was losing my frame with her.
Did I fuck up? Should I have pushed for sex when she was on my be drinking coffee with me?
What ensued was me kinda beta-ing out a little bit because she declined to my house. I texte her the whole situation made me feel “weird” and she’s kind of bought into that but still pushes for the chat date.
While I don’t believe that de-escalation early in the dating has ever brought anything good with other than disappointment, I really do want to fuck her.
What should I do? She afsked for a wednesday date and I am contemplating writing her a short commandlike text givingher instructions to meet me at this and this bar wearing this and this oufit and try to make things happen anyway.
Comments?