Quote: (06-19-2017 03:27 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
There's been some good advice in this thread including the above. I'd recommend you start reading as many finance related resources as you can because you'll learn many lessons without having to learn them the hard way.
In all seriousness, this was the best college textbook I ever had:
It's basically the Red Pill for money and is a must-read if you plan to ever own a home and deal with contractors, or even auto mechanics and financial planners.
Quote: (06-19-2017 03:27 AM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
You're upset because you probably think you helped him out and now he thinks so little of your friendship and you it's like he's spitting in your face and turning his back on your friendship. This hurts and it can be immensely frustrating, but consider that he was never really a good friend to begin with. I've essentially lost a lifelong friend to this situation. Trust me when i say it's not worth it. Sacrifice and save to pay your dad back and make sure he knows you've learned a hard lesson and that you appreciate his support. Show him.
There's a great passage in the
Anabasis, too lengthy to quote in full here, about why Persians and Greeks alike loved Cyrus the Younger. Book I, Part IX:
http://www.gutenberg.org/files/1170/1170-h/1170-h.htm
The sum of it was that he was known to reward strivers with opportunities, punish wrongdoing swiftly, never begrudged talented people opportunities to get rich or fulfill their goals if it was in his power to help, make sure his loyal friends were famous alongside him, and share his favorites of the many gifts he received instead of hoarding them for himself. For this, people would travel the known world to come work for him, backed his plans, and turned in traitors who were plotting against him.
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Frequently when he had tasted some specially excellent wine, he would send the half remaining flagon to some friend with a message to say: "Cyrus says, this is the best wine he has tasted for a long time, that is his excuse for sending it to you. He hopes you will drink it up to-day with a choice party of friends." Or, perhaps, he would send the remainder of a dish of geese, half loaves of bread, and so forth, the bearer being instructed to say: "This is Cyrus's favourite dish, he hopes you will taste it yourself." Or, perhaps, there was a great dearth of provender, when, through the number of his servants and his own careful forethought, he was enabled to get supplies for himself; at such times he would send to his friends in different parts, bidding them feed their horses on his hay, since it would not do for the horses that carried his friends to go starving. Then, on any long march or expedition, where the crowd of lookers-on would be large, he would call his friends to him and entertain them with serious talk, as much as to say, "These I delight to honour."
When you give trusted, proven people gifts and come to the aid of their causes, you're an asset to them. There's more where that came from if they keep up the good work.
Once you give people loans, you're now a liability. They're in the hole and know it. Like Sonny says in the clip from
A Bronx Tale above, you lend somebody money, there's a good chance you're just paying them to go away. At the more extreme end, if you're a Persian noble in the bronze age, maybe you're paying them to make
you go away: it's no longer in your debtor's best interest to foil a coup or assassination attempt.