I'll admit that I'm pretty shit at this. Starting to bother me actually. I've never been able to decipher what the problem is, but recently I've started to get the feeling it's something fundamental, due to some things girls have said. One was a fairly open girl saying 'you came but I didn't, it's not fair'. I then proceeded to fuck her steadily for about an hour, with her trying to find the best position, and concurrently using a vibrator, and she still didn't come but she said 'good work, I almost came'.
These are the factors that are adding to the confusion, perhaps you guys who seem to have higher success at this can diagnose the problem:
- Some girls have said 'you are so good in bed', 'you are the best I've had', 'that was really good' with a big grin on their face, etc, and meant it. I think this was in response to my stamina. I never go soft, so the limit is my physical fitness and energy, or her getting tired of riding, or me getting bored because I can't come any more times. In all these cases though, none of the girls have come, but have expressed (without me asking) how much they enjoyed it. I am certain they didn't come because of experience based on point 2:
- All of the girls who have come basically did it to themselves. They knew exactly how to position and move themselves (on top, in a variety of different ways specific to what worked for them), or they masturbated during, or they positioned themselves in a very specific way so my fucking would make them come (kind of being on top, but more v-shaped in body position, and me basically lifting them up and then dropping them down on my dick). The exceptions were the rare few who came during the fingering foreplay (who were more sexually open types). Adding to the confusion though were the girls who said 'make me cum' as I was fucking them, as though that's just something I can do to them by my choice. Is it? In some way that is universal to women I don't know of?
- I rarely use oral, usually because they aren't comfortable with it. I do however do a good amount of foreplay with fingering/clit massage etc.
- There is no problem with size, girls generally report I am 'big' but I put that in inverted commas since they are obviously comparing with local men. Based on the condoms in Australia I'm slightly bigger than the average there, and based on Japanese condoms I'm 'elephant sized'
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. Any size problems have been due to them being too small (discomfort, pain or bleeding), but that is only very occasionally.
So far my wild guesses are that I'm not muscular enough to visually/physically stimulate her, that the relationships are not long or intimate enough, that I'm too nice (which helps get them comfortable enough to come home with me on a short timeframe) which is reducing perceived dominance, or that I'm simply not banging long enough without pause (although when I've tried just banging really long without pause they've seemed to start getting bored or started wondering why I won't come), or that I both need to bang them crazy hard with all my might and for an extended period without pause (in which case that's a physical fitness issue).
Anything in there stand out as a potential problem to you guys? It bugs me that girls never come due to my fucking, when it seems by every other guys self-report that they do for them with a high frequency. Pisses me off actually, because them coming gets me off too. I have read the famous 'sex-god method' book, and have tried to apply some of the advice (dominant language etc), but it hasn't done much.