Quote: (07-12-2016 01:23 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

This is something I have been studying...

Why do girls love getting spanked?
Why do girls love getting tied up?
Why do girls love getting disciplined?
Why do girls love to be dominated?

I have an evolutionary theory that goes back to the caveman days:

For much of human history -- rape was common. Women were taken through violence and war.

As a survival mechanism, women learned that fighting back often led to more serious injury or death -- Because of this, women may have developed an instinct to be dominated..

This might explain why BDSM, "bad boys", rough sex, etc, is so popular..

Also, from a genetic standpoint, we share 99% of our DNA with bonobo chimps.. We are wild fucking animals!

And, I feel that some girls want to be nasty and disgusting because society pressures them to be pretty, pure and chaste. That's why they want to lick my ass.

So, the answer is YES! If a woman senses that she needs to be disciplined, then, she should be disciplined, its good for her, she will feel more comfortable with the man who fills her need.

I've been surprised by how many seemingly sweet young girls crave my discipline. It's so uncanny that I felt the need to study it. I sensed their was a genetic or evolutionary reason behind it.

Girls don't want to be in control, they want their man to be in control. That's why they look for alphas.

Basically it boils down to courage - for most of human history and pre-history a man had to be able to hunt, fight, and be aggressive in order to protect and provide for his tribe.

Only in recent times can a 90 lb desk jockey provide a substantial income for a wife and kids. And today so few men ever need to hunt and fight, or are physically capable of it, that it arouses women the few chances they actually get to see men display aggression (outside of a Call of Duty game).

I believe humans however are more related to chimpanzees, which are patriarchal, than bonobos.

Ironically bonobos are matriarchial and somewhat resemble the state of the modern post-feminist, "beta male culture" we have today:

*Male bonobos are bound to their mothers for life.

*Female bonobos have sex fairly indiscriminately and the males rarely know who the father of the kids are. Females also frequently engage in lesbian sex.

*Male bonobos are more socially isolated from one another, so even though they are physically stronger, the females band together in groups and enforce discipline on the males.

If a Woman Needs It, Should She Be Spanked?

Quote: (07-12-2016 09:49 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

I was born 50 fucking years too late.... sigh....

Men should be able to spank their women, period. This is the natural state of things, and leads to harmonious relations. However, in these fallen times, women will resist and can call the cops on you if don't have sufficient hand in the relationship.

It is funny to think spanking wives was still close enough to mainstream to show it in the Lucy Show

Ahh, I'm glad I saw this thread pop back up again.

The other day I was playing volleyball on the beach. It was a glorious day, surrounded by good friends and a friendly group game was going on and I was playing in it.

My friend had just offered me his last beer.

The sun was glistening on the ocean, the girls were in their bikinis, and my girl was laying face down after a long day of playing and was now working on her tan.

I came over in between turns on the court and kneeled down in the sand by her ass and asked the group sitting watching, "Hey, are those people playing instruments over there???"

Before waiting for any responses, I answered my own question:

"Because I think I hear some drums!" as I immediately started rapid fire smacking my girl's ass cheeks like a snare drum.

She clenched/screamed/squealed and I fell over in the sand laughing my ass off as my friend's around me laughed.

Then I went over and cracked the last beer.

Later when we got home, she jumped me.

How do you "store test" for fresh coffee? Is that checking if the seal is broken?

Quote: (07-13-2016 02:48 PM)spokepoker Wrote:  

How do you "store test" for fresh coffee? Is that checking if the seal is broken?

Yep, that's it.

Ok, I was thinking she had to taste it in the store before purchasing it.

I know there is a biological connection between a woman's butt and her psycho-sexual brain.

I know this is evolutionary psychology!

And, more specific than that, I know there is a biological connection between a woman getting spanked on her butt and her desire to be sexually submissive.

I have seen it with my own eyes..

When I spank a girl, I can almost see the social/cultural programming melt away from her body as her mind returns to it's default natural female state.

Something special happens when you playfully spank a girls butt!?!?!!!

I don't know???

Femininity responds to masculinity!?!?!??

This is my area of focus right now.

Fascinating and fun!

Quote: (07-12-2016 09:50 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:  

Ahh, I'm glad I saw this thread pop back up again.

The other day I was playing volleyball on the beach. It was a glorious day, surrounded by good friends and a friendly group game was going on and I was playing in it.

My friend had just offered me his last beer.

The sun was glistening on the ocean, the girls were in their bikinis, and my girl was laying face down after a long day of playing and was now working on her tan.

I came over in between turns on the court and kneeled down in the sand by her ass and asked the group sitting watching, "Hey, are those people playing instruments over there???"

Before waiting for any responses, I answered my own question:

"Because I think I hear some drums!" as I immediately started rapid fire smacking my girl's ass cheeks like a snare drum.

She clenched/screamed/squealed and I fell over in the sand laughing my ass off as my friend's around me laughed.

Then I went over and cracked the last beer.

Later when we got home, she jumped me.

Good man, how will a girl know she is cared for if you don't smack her ass at least once a day?

Quote: (07-13-2016 05:11 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

I know there is a biological connection between a woman's butt and her psycho-sexual brain.

I know this is evolutionary psychology!

And, more specific than that, I know there is a biological connection between a woman getting spanked on her butt and her desire to be sexually submissive.

I have seen it with my own eyes..

When I spank a girl, I can almost see the social/cultural programming melt away from her body as her mind returns to it's default natural female state.

Something special happens when you playfully spank a girls butt!?!?!!!

I don't know???

Femininity responds to masculinity!?!?!??

This is my area of focus right now.

Fascinating and fun!

I agree the study of the effect of the hand on the women's bottom is an interesting study worthy of much ardeous work.

I remember once in the older times of PUA that there was this guy, a doctor, making the rounds on the PUA circuit claiming that pressing hard on one distinct spot on each cheek would make a woman have an orgasm. I actually tested it several times, but got more confused looks than anything.

Then later on some years, I read actual scientific explanation which is that there are deep nerves in the buttcheeks which are linked directly to the clitoris.

Do it. Some fruedian psycho-sexual magic at work.

If you don't spank, you wank.

All I know is that my ex got a kick out of my surprising her with a good smack to the ass that would cause her to start giggling like a little girl.

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A perfect reminder of this particular method for old school alphas in LTRs. I've used it, and with the right submissive woman, it can work wonders.

Depending on where you live and whether it is male-friendly, spank that ass!

Chicks love it when their bare ass is spanked...Sometimes one good smack in that bare ass make it jiggle gon turn her on. If you've been eating her ass like dessert, she will get more turned on knowing that you're not afraid to discipline her bare ass. A good spanking is when the palm of the hand gets to grace her butt cheeks and makes a slapping sound.

You can also spank her bare ass with your dick too, but not too hard on the dick though..You gotta swerve to the side when slapping the ass with the dick to minimize impact on the dick.

Just make sure that her ass doesn't get too red or bruised when she has a waxing appointment or doctor appointment for a physical or gynecological check on the same day.

I am very interested in this topic.

How do you go about testing the water with this and escalating from there? It seems we have some experts on this forum.

Quote: (07-17-2016 08:10 AM)Ski pro Wrote:  

I am very interested in this topic.

How do you go about testing the water with this and escalating from there? It seems we have some experts on this forum.

You must NEVER do it by holding her against her will. Never, ever force her. She has to come to you voluntarily and asked to be the spanked. She has to realise that you are unhappy with her shitty behaviour and this is the way to fix it. You tell her either she volunteers to be spanked on the ass or she leaves (while you point at the door).

2 ways to do this:
Either she has to bend her body over your knees while you are seated and lift her skirt or dress to be spanked. Alternatively she can also bend over a table or desk with her both her hands placed palms down on the table. You can make her count the spanks as well. The most important thing is that you are calm and serious while doing this. Do not do this if you are really angry or furious. You must be very calm, but also very authorative. If she feels you are doing it half heartedly or as a kind of joke she won't take you seriously at all and won't feel like its a punishment.

You should also feel her pussy gently with your hands before and after the spanking. Don't be surpised if you find her quite wet on both occasions.

You only smack the ass cheeks with your open hand. Your hand must always remain open and never ever smack anywhere except the fleshy plump part of her ass. When you are done, you will probably need to comfort her. She will feel really weird....both humiliated and dominated but also strangely really turned on. Very often you may "have" to fuck her afterwards as she may be all over you with desire.

I want to stress again that you cannot hold her down or make it impossible for her to leave. She has to be in a position to get up freely and leave at any time, but chooses to remain because she wants to be spanked and disciplined by you.

There is a film called "Secretary" from 2002 starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader. If you go on any website talking about that film, you will see its always full of comments from women about how fucking turned on they are by some scenes in that movie.


Here is the correct way to do it:

Quote: (07-17-2016 11:55 AM)Mercenary Wrote:  

Quote: (07-17-2016 08:10 AM)Ski pro Wrote:  

I am very interested in this topic.

How do you go about testing the water with this and escalating from there? It seems we have some experts on this forum.

You must NEVER do it by holding her against her will. Never, ever force her. She has to come to you voluntarily and asked to be the spanked. She has to realise that you are unhappy with her shitty behaviour and this is the way to fix it. You tell her either she volunteers to be spanked on the ass or she leaves (while you point at the door).

2 ways to do this:
Either she has to bend her body over your knees while you are seated and lift her skirt or dress to be spanked. Alternatively she can also bend over a table or desk with her both her hands placed palms down on the table. You can make her count the spanks as well. The most important thing is that you are calm and serious while doing this. Do not do this if you are really angry or furious. You must be very calm, but also very authorative. If she feels you are doing it half heartedly or as a kind of joke she won't take you seriously at all and won't feel like its a punishment.

You should also feel her pussy gently with your hands before and after the spanking. Don't be surpised if you find her quite wet on both occasions.

You only smack the ass cheeks with your open hand. Your hand must always remain open and never ever smack anywhere except the fleshy plump part of her ass. When you are done, you will probably need to comfort her. She will feel really weird....both humiliated and dominated but also strangely really turned on. Very often you may "have" to fuck her afterwards as she may be all over you with desire.

I want to stress again that you cannot hold her down or make it impossible for her to leave. She has to be in a position to get up freely and leave at any time, but chooses to remain because she wants to be spanked and disciplined by you.

There is a film called "Secretary" from 2002 starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader. If you go on any website talking about that film, you will see its always full of comments from women about how fucking turned on they are by some scenes in that movie.


Here is the correct way to do it:

Thanks for the info. This can only come from a place of punishment in your opinion? Not as part of sex in general?

Quote: (07-17-2016 12:21 PM)Ski pro Wrote:  

Thanks for the info. This can only come from a place of punishment in your opinion? Not as part of sex in general?

Sure, it can be part of sex, but spanking as part of sex already happening and spanking the ass as a punishment are 2 very different things in my opinion. Although, when done as a discipline, it often leads to "make up" sex afterwards anyway.

When it is part of sex that is already happening, you can be a lot more more playful, smile like a villain, and it will probably wont last as long, and she will react and treat it in a different way as well. There is a lot less "seriousness" to it if you do it this way.

There is something else as well. If you establish this as a routine, you will notice some girls will misbehave and piss you off on purpose just to see if you will spank her again. This is called "bratting"....being a brat.


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Quote: (07-17-2016 12:29 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  

Quote: (07-17-2016 12:21 PM)Ski pro Wrote:  

Thanks for the info. This can only come from a place of punishment in your opinion? Not as part of sex in general?

Sure, it can be part of sex, but spanking as part of sex already happening and spanking the ass as a punishment are 2 very different things in my opinion. Although, when done as a discipline, it often leads to "make up" sex afterwards anyway.

When it is part of sex that is already happening, you can be a lot more more playful, smile like a villain, and it will probably wont last as long, and she will react and treat it in a different way as well. There is a lot less "seriousness" to it if you do it this way.

There is something else as well. If you establish this as a routine, you will notice some girls will misbehave and piss you off on purpose just to see if you will spank her again. This is called "bratting"....being a brat.


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So Mercenary, in your opinion, should spanking be a routine punishment or used sparingly?

BTW, I've never been attracted to Maggie Gyllenhaal until watching that scene. I liked her girly voice as well.

Quote: (07-17-2016 12:47 PM)Chowder Head Wrote:  

So Mercenary, in your opinion, should spanking be a routine punishment or used sparingly?

I think it depends on the type of woman you are with. Some become submissive quite quickly, while others are very rude and rebellious and require more discipline. I would strongly recommend using it sparingly. It really should be last resort for serious transgressions, and she should feel herself that she crossed a line and the spanking is deserved.

You really should only be using it for serious matters and only after warning her a few times. If she forgets to respond to a message or arrives to an agreed time a bit late, or something minor like that then of course no, that does not merit a spanking and you would be crazy to do it. If she acts rude, entitled and ungrateful often despite you treating her right, or breaks a really serious promise she made to you, than that is more worthy.

If you're using it as a punishment rather than as part of sex already happening, then you need to make sure you are authorative every time and follow through, otherwise she will not take it seriously anymore. However, as I mentioned above, she needs to accept this freely and offer her ass to you to be spanked. You can never force her.

If you are doing this correctly, you really shouldn't have to do it more than once or twice a month at most. Any more than that and you may have a mental case or BPD girl on your hands....or simply a big brat. For me, I find my girls require it maybe only once every 3 or 4 months at most, depending how disrespectful I feel they have acted. I generally pick sweet natured girls anyway though, so there may be a bias in my experience.

Interestingly, your girl may act up and rebel every month near the same time when she nears ovulation. When she is most fertile and likely to get pregnant, is the time of month she tests your masculinity, authority and alphaness the most.

Make sure you track her menstrual cycle if you are in a long term relationship. There's even apps on smartphones to do this.
Her changing behaviour will make a lot more sense if you know what stage her menstrual cycle is in.

Your dick will thank you for it later.

Quote: (07-13-2016 07:16 PM)nomadbrah Wrote:  

I read actual scientific explanation which is that there are deep nerves in the buttcheeks which are linked directly to the clitoris.

I knew it!

I have seen it and felt it!!!

The better my game has become, the more young girls want me to spank them, discipline them, etc.

I suspect that it might have to have something to do with the fact that being submissive gives a girl purpose.. In a society where she might often feel aimless, submitting herself to me may give her the satisfaction of having a clear purpose...

Maybe trained dogs are happier than wild dogs?

Maybe, its only female dogs???

Maybe, trained bitches are happier than wild bitches?

I don't know but I'm working hard to study and collect field data!

When did a woman not have a deep craving for a spanking? Deep down, it is the desire of every woman to submit to an alpha male. The only problem for many women, there aren't enough alphas to go around. If you spank your woman on the regular, you're already separating yourself from the pack of timid, passive and submissive males.

There's a classic John Wayne movie that has already answered this question with the implication that spanking is the best cure for female attitude.