Is it a Bad Move for a Married Man to Allow Another Man to Stay in His Home?
12-23-2015, 04:49 AM
I'm not asking this for the sake of my own insecurity....
But over the years I've stayed with friends of mine various times, sometimes shortly and sometimes even for a period of time or repeatedly. I saw some guy's wife's pic just now on Facebook, and it made me recall all the thoughts I had about nailing her when I stayed with them...
It's a natural enough desire, I guess, but I must admit I had to fight the urge in the back of my mind to satisfy that craving. This was a man opening his home and everything he owned to me - treating me like a part of the family. I doubt many would consider me an immoral person, and there are few things I wouldn't do for that guy, but the desire was still there.
Thinking back, I can remember many other times I had these thoughts. Some of these guys were extremely good friends of mine, and there's no way I would have sacrificed their trust in my right state of mind; however, I guess if you gave me enough alcohol, who knows what could happen.
And like I'm sure many of you players have experienced, there were definitely those scenarios where I could tell part of her (or even all of her, with the worst ones) was itching for it to underneath the civilized facade. Of course that makes the temptation even worse.
I could even break out a story or two where the line was at least slightly crossed, by either her or me or both, in a drunken daze that I still regret. Not with people I was staying with but still. Alcohol's a helluva drug; we all have our mistakes.
Here's a worst case scenario. Back home, two of the most stone cold natural players I knew from where I'm from decided to become roommates. One started letting his chick hang around or moved her in or something, and then one day he comes home to find the other banging his old lady on the couch. Turned out they'd been at it for a while. He moved out in a fury, the friendship was ruined, and the buddy has been wifed up with his chick ever since. How the hell he'll ever forget how he swooped her, I couldn't say.
I guess you could say he did his old roommate a favor by taking that sloot off his hands haha
Now, of course, you don't want to be with a woman who you can't trust - if you can't control your girl at least this much, you definitely should not be living with or marrying her. But if our society were more what you guys here might call truly "red pill," married women (or unmarried, for that matter) wouldn't be left alone with other men for long periods of time to begin with, would they?
So, at the risk of becoming too jealous and controlling, should keeping your woman in check include not creating unnecessary temptations by allowing another man to stay under your roof? You could say just not when you aren't present, but what are you going to do, ask him to bail every time you step out the door? No man should be too insecure or jealous, but where do you draw the line of giving nature too much room to run its course?
I'm not wifing up anytime soon. This is just an exercise in thought here - seriously curious about what you guys think.
I am also the guy who opens my door wide to both strangers and friends, letting them come make themselves at home in my place and have my girl cooking for us all, etc - if a buddy in a bad spot needed a place to crash for a month or two while he got on his feet, I'd be the first to offer it, and I'd hate to ever throw that piece of myself out completely.
So I guess it's one of those things were certain rules about what is appropriate or inappropriate have to be established.
I mean, if you have any control over the situation at all and your old lady has a level head, she herself would remove herself from the situation if it started getting "wierd." So perhaps it's about accepting the attraction may occurr but gaming her enough to keep her in check. And of course choosing friends wisely as well (though as the alcohol example suggest, that's not foolproof either).
But on the other hand, why allow temptation room to breath to begin with? It seems strict to overcontrol, but a realistic man has to take reality on reality's terms too, and on a certain level, would you not be doing everyone a favor by not compromising their integrity with the threat of natural human urges? Game is powerful stuff, but so are hormones.
Discuss.
But over the years I've stayed with friends of mine various times, sometimes shortly and sometimes even for a period of time or repeatedly. I saw some guy's wife's pic just now on Facebook, and it made me recall all the thoughts I had about nailing her when I stayed with them...
It's a natural enough desire, I guess, but I must admit I had to fight the urge in the back of my mind to satisfy that craving. This was a man opening his home and everything he owned to me - treating me like a part of the family. I doubt many would consider me an immoral person, and there are few things I wouldn't do for that guy, but the desire was still there.
Thinking back, I can remember many other times I had these thoughts. Some of these guys were extremely good friends of mine, and there's no way I would have sacrificed their trust in my right state of mind; however, I guess if you gave me enough alcohol, who knows what could happen.
And like I'm sure many of you players have experienced, there were definitely those scenarios where I could tell part of her (or even all of her, with the worst ones) was itching for it to underneath the civilized facade. Of course that makes the temptation even worse.
I could even break out a story or two where the line was at least slightly crossed, by either her or me or both, in a drunken daze that I still regret. Not with people I was staying with but still. Alcohol's a helluva drug; we all have our mistakes.
Here's a worst case scenario. Back home, two of the most stone cold natural players I knew from where I'm from decided to become roommates. One started letting his chick hang around or moved her in or something, and then one day he comes home to find the other banging his old lady on the couch. Turned out they'd been at it for a while. He moved out in a fury, the friendship was ruined, and the buddy has been wifed up with his chick ever since. How the hell he'll ever forget how he swooped her, I couldn't say.
I guess you could say he did his old roommate a favor by taking that sloot off his hands haha
Now, of course, you don't want to be with a woman who you can't trust - if you can't control your girl at least this much, you definitely should not be living with or marrying her. But if our society were more what you guys here might call truly "red pill," married women (or unmarried, for that matter) wouldn't be left alone with other men for long periods of time to begin with, would they?
So, at the risk of becoming too jealous and controlling, should keeping your woman in check include not creating unnecessary temptations by allowing another man to stay under your roof? You could say just not when you aren't present, but what are you going to do, ask him to bail every time you step out the door? No man should be too insecure or jealous, but where do you draw the line of giving nature too much room to run its course?
I'm not wifing up anytime soon. This is just an exercise in thought here - seriously curious about what you guys think.
I am also the guy who opens my door wide to both strangers and friends, letting them come make themselves at home in my place and have my girl cooking for us all, etc - if a buddy in a bad spot needed a place to crash for a month or two while he got on his feet, I'd be the first to offer it, and I'd hate to ever throw that piece of myself out completely.
So I guess it's one of those things were certain rules about what is appropriate or inappropriate have to be established.
I mean, if you have any control over the situation at all and your old lady has a level head, she herself would remove herself from the situation if it started getting "wierd." So perhaps it's about accepting the attraction may occurr but gaming her enough to keep her in check. And of course choosing friends wisely as well (though as the alcohol example suggest, that's not foolproof either).
But on the other hand, why allow temptation room to breath to begin with? It seems strict to overcontrol, but a realistic man has to take reality on reality's terms too, and on a certain level, would you not be doing everyone a favor by not compromising their integrity with the threat of natural human urges? Game is powerful stuff, but so are hormones.
Discuss.
Beyond All Seas
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling