Quote: (09-27-2015 02:23 PM)amusedmastery Wrote:
Typical flaky, hot-cold behavior pattern from modern womynzzz. Next time you get invited on a group date, radio silence or flake out yourself and restart later.
At this point, you need to ghost this chick for a while and ping her again when you reset your frame. A few weeks. That way, she thinks you're busy dating other womynzz and doing some cool shiz. She senses beta neediness right now and by radio silence, you establish that you're not. If she agrees to meet again after the ghosting, CANCEL on her! Then reschedule....If she asks what you've been up to and why you "went away", tell her you've just been "busy". Leave it at that to allow proper hamster spin. Then proceed accordingly. It's a shitty process, but you're dealing with illogical female hindbrains.
Quote: (09-27-2015 02:37 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:
I think dude should've bailed on their 3rd meet up when she brought that other beta orbiter with her to the bar, that's some disrespectful shit, she knows that you like her and are seeing it as a date. There's no excuse for that shit, I would've ejected immediately, sounds like she's friend-zoning you or qualifying you as some kind of beta that she can fuck if she wants, but blackburn just as easily. A lot of chicks nowadays are flipping the script and setting up "soft harems" of fuck buddy guys that she will bang, I hear and see this happening to guys I know, usually she'll have one main dude who's the most "alpha" (however that description applies), and then a fleet of more beta orbiters that she may throw scraps to occasionally.
I WAS JUST GONNA ASK ABOUT THIS!! what a coincidence.
I fully agree with you.
I was gonna ask if after everything that occured (she changing the terms, one step at a time...), I should have left when she invited this other dude, cause really, it was the most annoying/disrespectful thing she did. She knew it was a date but she sabotaged it, God knows why.
Now I think that when this guy came and we were all having a drink, I should have took her aside and told her that this was not what I had in mind and leave her right there. This was the point of no return I think. But it all happened so quickly I did not have time to process it, you know, I was there talking to her girl friends for like 20 minutes, I did not know if her female friends were gonna come with us or not in the end and then she said my guy friend is also coming, and 5 minutes later the guy arrived, and 5 more minutes later her girl friends said they prefered to go home so she, this dude and myself left to go to the club.
I thought about calling her out and leaving her, but sometimes I am too harsh when chicks do stuff I dont like which has been counterproductive in the past, so I wanted to be more "flexible" this time.
In this case I should have left when this guy appeared. This was the right/alpha thing to do, cause really it was too disrespectful. First I thought were were going alone, then her girl friends were coming also, then they were not coming but a random guy appeared and joined us. It was so confusing.
Anyway, right after I asked her out on this third date her interest level was already low; she went from really into me to just friends in five days:
1 took several hours to reply to my text eventhough she read it and was online on fb.
2 agreed to the date but told me to text her on Saturday morning anyway.
3 wanted to add her female friends to the ecuation.
4 brought a guy!
5 I asked her to dance two songs, but she did not even ask me once in two hours.
6 did not even kiss me.
I think she wanted to friendzone me on this third 'date' because of whatever reasons, so she put me in the backburner while she fucks her A guy.