Quote: (07-13-2015 12:49 AM)Suits Wrote:  

Just got the funniest text from a girl who had I'd gotten in contact with via online dating. She was fairly eager to meet me previously, which makes that text I got a bit of a shocker:

"Sorry, I don't wanna meet up any more. Good luck with u."

Sounds like she just figured out that you'd already hit it but had totally forgotten about her

Married chick, came over for breakfast, was suppose to go out to club/bar tonight. Text her before meet up, no response... Hit her with the "Awesome, take care!" text. Ironically set up 2 dates tomorrow during the flake time so not that bad.

-CD

One of my plates was supposed to come over last night but flaked on me the night before. She was very polite about it like the feminine filo girl she is but seems to be done not being able to lock me down.

Her: Hey about tmr, I'm not too sure about coming. Don't get me wrong, you are a fun and good guy, but the idea of casual things doesn't really make me proud of nor good about myself. I just thought I'd tell you earlier so you can make other plans

I arranged a date with a cute Indian nurse instead :-)

I've had some terrible lack with flaking as of late. I travel a lot and have no problems banging girls in New York and other cities.

Online in the UK is a fucking bitch though particularly London. The girls are completely non spotaneous and boring for such a big city, and worst of all the English girls are seriously ugly compared to the foreign counterparts. It's a problem that can't be solved because even 7/10 girls sometime blow me off because they are looking for a male model from online. The standard for English women is really low. I can't even remember the last english girl I banged, the last two in the last few weeks have been polish and chinese. I had a girl blow me off last night after 30 minutes, you could see straight away on her face the disappointment expecting Channing Tatum, the good news is that she travelled an hour to see me, and it's an hour back, good luck to her. For all their supposed game, a lot can be gleaned by the first 5 seconds of meeting a girl, her facial expression usually says it all either smiling ear to ear or having a sour as fuck face.

I'm probably around a 7.5, tall, in good shape and have a good job, that doesn't stop women blowing me off left right and centre.

Unless you're a 9 in looks in the online world women will eat you like sharks. Online is genuinely 90% looks.

I avoid wasting time anymore for dates and take them somewhere closeby. In fact I now just screen further and have long text conversations with them, flirt with them with sexual innuendo's and ask for more pics and send more of mine in order to build more of a connection.

Double booked tonight online, two flakes. One of them I tried to change the location of to better logistics because I was thinking of flaking on her anyway and the second flaked an hour before with basically no excuse. Girls without any repercussions to their actions this is what they do.

^ Did you speak to either over the phone?

I do speak to some girls over the phone before the first date but not many, it does help, if slightly. These two I didn't bother. Most girls don't want to these days in fact they get shocked if I call them, "can I call you later?" after 10 seconds usually and you never hear from them again.

Ahh, the sad reality, haha. The last phone conversations I had with chicks I was supposed to meet (one I did, the other I didn't) were pretty dry. It could of been their personalities, but girls simply don't communicate by phone much anymore.

On one of the colder winter nights a couple of weeks back (it's winter in Australia), I quadruple-booked and all of them flaked, one because she got off at the wrong tram stop and didn't want to walk the distance... Luckily the live music at the venue was great, and I ended up hooking up with another girl I met there, although she was kinda plain.

Still, quadruple booking and flakes... that's a personal record!

Quote: (08-17-2015 01:12 AM)StrikeBack Wrote:  

On one of the colder winter nights a couple of weeks back (it's winter in Australia), I quadruple-booked and all of them flaked, one because she got off at the wrong tram stop and didn't want to walk the distance... Luckily the live music at the venue was great, and I ended up hooking up with another girl I met there, although she was kinda plain.

Still, quadruple booking and flakes... that's a personal record!

Wow, I've had a triple flake before but never a quadruple!

Winter increases flaking so much. It's hard to get motivated to brave the cold so even the smallest excuse is enough for a girl to flake. I went through a bad patch of that in June and July but August hasn't been bad so far.

I just got flaked on, 5 hours before first date.
Her: my car is broken and they dont pick up the phone at the garage, so i dont know if it will be ready today.
Her: and that is not an excuse
Me: ok. why would this be an excuse?

I dont get why she needs to tell me that it is not an excuse, excuse for what?

I'm on holiday at the moment in the Greek islands, I banged one French girl but have got a list of flakes.

One flake being a girl met in a club, me and my friend started with these two girls. I number closed on my one she seemed pretty keen but both girls wouldn't kiss properly, she said she's shy. I think we spent over an hour with them. Way too long and we couldn't move them.

Next day comes she doesn't answer the phone and makes up an excuse about them being tired.

My friend couldn't believe it because he looks like fucking Christiano Ronaldo and banged 3 girls within 4 says despite having average game at best. He's fucked about 400 women, it's generally hard to go out with a guy like that without feeling completely fucking powerless, he stole two other girls from another friend without basically doing anything all he has to do is turn up.

I had a flake/oneitis recently. Girl I have been patiently pursuing for a while. We had agreed to meet Friday night for dinner/movie..

She blew me off by saying she was still at work Friday night, staying late etc. Kept on pushing it back and eventually asked for a 'rain check'. I said how about saturday? she says yeah sounds good etc, but yesterday afternoon she says 'are we meeting tonight?' and I just felt like it was no longer pursuing this b**ch. Its like she didn't want to meet but couldn't say it so just drew everything out. I called her out and just neutrally told her in a text I had lost interest as I felt like she wasn't interested and I was tired of trying to make it happen.

I tend to find when I am stressed out by chasing a woman, and it feels like I am struggling to meet her, it seems like its taking ages to develop, that woman just isn't interested enough for whatever reason. I think my logical brain was just making up these stories like she had been busy etc but when it boils down to it it was blindingly obvious that I had to call it a day, and I'm glad I ended my pursuit with her in a very matter of fact and clear way to her, instead of drawing it out.

My flake rate went down dramatically when I could get the number and meet in same day. Any girl who pushed for future "dates" I didn't bother with.

The iron has to be hot or it will cool enough for them to think otherwise.

Just think of it as the "I need to go to the toilet/meet my friend for 2 minutes" excuse on a night out. And you're left there with your thumb up your ass.

Just had the girl I was supposed to go on a date with tonight flake on me again. This is the second time in two weeks now. I got the flake vibe from her from the beginning so I've double booked her both times thankfully.
She is very keen in her messages and contacts me without me instigating but I'm not giving her any more chances so NEXT.

I set a new flake record tonight. I got 3 flakes and two reschedules in one night.

The 1st reschedule was a date I had today for lunch. She claimed that she had to go to another city to show up for child support proceedings that she forgot about. She texted a couple of days in advance so I don't hold it against her that much.

The 2nd flake was a girl that seemed to like me. She every went as far as telling me: "You're so much smarter and more successful then me. I think you might be out of my league." She went radio silent on me the day we were supposed to meet [today]. Which is a shame because she was young, cute, and bi. It looks like I oversold myself and she was afraid of getting rejected by me.

The 3rd flake was a girl that kept texting me, and went as far as to remember and wish me luck on one of my tests. Busy at work, offered to reschedule for the next day which I took her up on.

The 4th possible flake was a woman that I agreed to meet up and have lunch with. She's separated and she texted me today saying that she's not sure if she's ready to start dating again. I'm treating this as a flake, but there's a small chance that I'll be able to turn it around.

I usually only get one flake for ever 3 dates I stack together. If this happens again I'll have to flip the script on them and start sextuple booking women. lmao!

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You should have nexted after the bitch went ghost. Nice recovery though. The 5-6.5 range are THE WORST. They pretend think they're "hot" and many times act/behave worse than 8+'s. They're acting out their "Getting even with 'them'" fantasies, whoever "them" are. Avoid them; you lower your SMV by wasting your time on them.

Couldn't have said it better! Every time I've dealt with a 5 or 6 with an attitude problem I've gotten the notch and regretted doing it! There's nothing more repulsive then a fat, low value, skank with an attitude. I refuse to mess with them nowadays. I'm willing to keep one 6 around as a female beta orbiter to do my housework for me, and be on call as a human fleshlight during my nofap marathons. If she's highly obedient. Women that are 5's, or 6's that have entitlement issues might as well not exist to me.

I was out of the game for 3 months and my first date back flaked on me. I'm finding a lot more flaking just 6 months later than the last time I used tantan/tinder in China. The girl today is a 19 year old 7. Im in my 30s. She seems into me, sending me texts out of the blue. So I will dial it back up again next week and see if I cant get her to come near my place at 2-3pm on a weekday.

The game of flakes!

To paraphrase Helmuth von Moltke the Elder (or whoever said it first) :

"No plan of operations extends with any certainty beyond the first contact with the main hostile force."

Always have a plan B, C & D.
Or at least plan for numerous contingencies.

It is now approaching winter: welcome to flake season.

As if every other season half of them don't flake anyway, but it's only going to get worse.

I had a girl who deepthroated me a mere few days ago flake on me today. She has a cold.

I had another girl I had sex with flake on me this week. She has a cold.

I had another girl I have not yet met flake on me this week. She has a cold.

I had another girl who I banged in the weekend flake on me this week. She has "another plan".

As above, have at least 5 other options and you'll be less disappointed.

I hear you. I just got reminded today how frustrating and disappointing flakes are. Russian 7 off tinder just hit me with the "busy day at work, can't make it, I'm too tired", even though she was the one who suggested meeting up today

I was all hyped up for finally being able to get my hands on a russian girl and bam! I guess another time...

Sidenote: this thread is great for venting.

I've been dealing with a weird flake lately. I call her "The Enthusiastic Flake".

Went on a date with a 27 year old "8" about a week and a half ago that went pretty well, and she started texting me soon afterwards of her own initiative, which is usually a pretty good sign!

But even though she started up the dialogue after the date, she demurred when I tried to close for a second, and yet remains enthusiastic. "Yeah! I'd love to go out again! But this week is gonna be really busy..."

I don't respond for a while and send a restart several days later.

"Awesome, I can't wait! But it's probably going to have to be later next week..."

She always responds quickly to my restarts, and is enthusiastic. But...blows me off nonetheless.

She's really hot so I've probably given her way more chances than I should have. The second time I almost deleted her number...but...

Anyone else ever deal with a chick saying "No" so enthusiastically?

Quote: (10-19-2015 01:04 PM)XPQ21 Wrote:  

Anyone else ever deal with a chick saying "No" so enthusiastically?

Yes. She's probably just a waste of your time.

"Your schedule sucks so let's stay in. Wine, movie, and dark chocolate. Sunday eve"

Man so I had a date with this chick set from OKC. This girl was HIGHLY interested, wrote paragraphs to me. We settled for tonight. I evaluated her interest level as very very high (given that she's a solid 2 SMV points below me, I wasn't surprised).

Then I got this chick, substantially younger and hotter, who I had almost forgot I had set up a date with her the same day. I hadn't heard from her in almost a week and naturally I smelled a flake so I wasn't too worried. Her interest level seemed pretty low and I asked her out just to weed her out as a NEXT but she said ok.

Turns out: first girl flakes, second doesn't.

The hell

It's spring down here now, nice weather, and flake rate has gone way down. Up there, I said I even got a PB flake rate during winter. It's gone the other way. Recently I double-booked and they both showed up! A couple of flakes would apologise and reschedule without prompting.