[Byzzy]

Hey, i'm starting this thread because i think that i have some of a problem. I had a relationship of 1 year and 3 months, so i didn't go out to hit some chicks, but i recently broke up and started going out again.

I've made out with some chicks, but i've also had a lot of problems closing the deal. I'm afraid that i have lost it and that it is going to be really hard to get it back.

For example last night i was dancing with this french chick for about 30 minutes, i thought that things were doing great, until i made my move and she didn't like that and started with "i have a bf, maybe u should dance with another girl". Same thing happened with a dutch like a week ago. I was really frustrated when i saw this french making out with another guy like an hour after that, specially because the guy was really fugly.

I don't know what to do, i'm getting really desesperate because i can't close the deal like i used to do it before. It's gotten really harder for me and it is very frustrating. I would appreciate any piece of advice from you guys.

[HawkUnit]

I am by no means an authority on game, but I can tell you that cold streaks and fuck ups are inevitable. The best thing you can do is not allow it to discourage you. If you can look back and identify where you went wrong that's ideal, and a wing is especially useful when trying to evaluate your own vibe. If not, you can just chalk it up to some intangible of the girl: she just wanted you to entertain her, she's on her period, etc -- women are fickle, indecisive, insecure, and flaky by nature. You just have to let it roll off your back and move on. A nosedive in success usually just means a return to basics. Roosh has a cheat sheet at the book of "Bang" which usually clues me in when I'm trying to figure out my latest SNAFU. There are also some pretty decent lists of fundamental principles you can find on the website. Look for 18 Reasons Why you don't get Laid or the 9 Immutable Laws of Attraction. Also, his post on lessons learned from 2011 is really good.

Whatever you do, don't get frustrated and allow desperation or insecurity to leak out when you're trying to game. You might as well not go out if that's your mindset when you're heading out the door. Hope that helps.

[MiXX]

(02-04-2012 12:09 PM)Byzzy Wrote:  

I'm afraid that i have lost it and that it is going to be really hard to get it back.

There's your problem right there. Fear.

Start off by being a social guy to girls that are 2 points BELOW WHAT your own looks are, then start working your way up to build your confidence.

If you have the cash $$$, nothing gives you more confidence than having girls chase you by your uniqueness that you offer that local men do not. Find that fishbowl, and take your passport and go spend some time there for 1 month....


Mixx

[Byzzy]

As a matter of fact, i'm exactly doing that. In two weeks i'm going to europe and i'll be one month there. I have big hopes specially with Poland and Hungary and i hope that i can gain some confidence that could help me when i come back to the country where i live.

(02-04-2012 03:21 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(02-04-2012 12:09 PM)Byzzy Wrote:  

I'm afraid that i have lost it and that it is going to be really hard to get it back.

There's your problem right there. Fear.

Start off by being a social guy to girls that are 2 points BELOW WHAT your own looks are, then start working your way up to build your confidence.

If you have the cash $$$, nothing gives you more confidence than having girls chase you by your uniqueness that you offer that local men do not. Find that fishbowl, and take your passport and go spend some time there for 1 month....


Mixx