Here I post about my approaches so that I can get your advice.
So, I traveled (alone) to Spain for Christmas.
I went to a castle with a fantastic view. I was taking photos and a lone girl was sitting looking at the vista. I was thinking of approaching her when she asked me for a napkin. I searched and gave her one.
Me: Where are you from?
Her -Italy but I live here.
: It's great to live in Barcelona. I'm just visiting for Christmas.
-Christmas greetings.
: Thank you! to you too. Could you take a photo of me?
She did.
Are you a student?
- No I work here.
She was not beautiful but for an isolated guy like me that shouldn't be a problem. However the vista was weighing heavier than her. The place was closing in 2 hours. Yes, two long hours but I was anxious to look around. One reason that I am not very sociable is that I have a lot of tension inside . (This is different from social anxiety).
I took some more photos while being close to her. I thought that would also work as "cat and string theory" to her. [This is one thing I'm good at!] I thought I would tell her that she must have seen all in Barcelona however I'd like to see around the castle.
As a part of my dumbness I didn't think, at that momemnt, that I could have told her "Hey, do you want to sit here all the afternoon? I think the view from the top is more spectacular."
But when I turned back to her she was wearing her earphones so I swallowed what I wanted to say. So I went on, anxious about exploring the place. Another reason that I'm not very social is that people are not that real to me. (Have you heard of "derealization"? But of course people feel real when they are annoying, which is the case most of the time.) After walking some distance and taking some more photos I thought "I have two more hours for taking photos and haven't I been looking for an opportunity to hit on a girl all along"? But she was no longer there. Me, son of a bitch. I spend the rest of my time enjoying the vista and watching the couples.
So, I traveled (alone) to Spain for Christmas.
I went to a castle with a fantastic view. I was taking photos and a lone girl was sitting looking at the vista. I was thinking of approaching her when she asked me for a napkin. I searched and gave her one.
Me: Where are you from?
Her -Italy but I live here.
: It's great to live in Barcelona. I'm just visiting for Christmas.
-Christmas greetings.
: Thank you! to you too. Could you take a photo of me?
She did.
Are you a student?
- No I work here.
She was not beautiful but for an isolated guy like me that shouldn't be a problem. However the vista was weighing heavier than her. The place was closing in 2 hours. Yes, two long hours but I was anxious to look around. One reason that I am not very sociable is that I have a lot of tension inside . (This is different from social anxiety).
I took some more photos while being close to her. I thought that would also work as "cat and string theory" to her. [This is one thing I'm good at!] I thought I would tell her that she must have seen all in Barcelona however I'd like to see around the castle.
As a part of my dumbness I didn't think, at that momemnt, that I could have told her "Hey, do you want to sit here all the afternoon? I think the view from the top is more spectacular."
But when I turned back to her she was wearing her earphones so I swallowed what I wanted to say. So I went on, anxious about exploring the place. Another reason that I'm not very social is that people are not that real to me. (Have you heard of "derealization"? But of course people feel real when they are annoying, which is the case most of the time.) After walking some distance and taking some more photos I thought "I have two more hours for taking photos and haven't I been looking for an opportunity to hit on a girl all along"? But she was no longer there. Me, son of a bitch. I spend the rest of my time enjoying the vista and watching the couples.