[Parlay44]

I'm just going through my Facebook at the end of the day. Just noticed a girl I know saying that X many years ago she married her best friend.

I'm hearing this a lot lately.

What the hell does that mean in woman-speak?

Did she settle for this guy? Did she find an Alpha and break him down into a Beta?

Is it just a BS statement they use to brag to their girlfriends? A female status thing?

I know her husband is a cop. Gotta be some Alpha-ness to the guy. Never met the guy though.

[MiXX]

(12-01-2011 06:10 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

I know her husband is a cop. Gotta be some Alpha-ness to the guy. Never met the guy though.

You'd be surprised how many cops are alpha on the street, and come home and do all the housework, cooking and tending of kids for their (also cop) wives.

Cops can be alpha when it comes to taking out their tazer and hitting you with 10,000 Volts, but are complete pussies at home or with their women.


Mixx

[Danowar]

I've always suspected it's like when a dude is "friends" with a girl first. The girl just really thinks they are friends and that something just "happened", when in reality the dude has been wanting to bang them since the beginning. Most chicks will never understand that 99% of the time when a guy goes out of his way to hang out with them really just wants to bang and doesn't know how to make a move. I always hate it when a girl tries to say "oh he's just a friend!". Really? Go for his hog and see how much of a fight he puts up.

[Screwston]

Why do you assume all cops are alphas lol? A badge and gun will turn anyone into an "alpha" while they have their uniform on.

[Timoteo]

The whole "I married my best friend" thing is a tired cliche. The same as saying your man is your "soulmate." Or the "you complete me" bullshit. Women tend to try to make a man their everything, the center of their universe. It basically means that this man is my confidant (or he's acting like he's sensitive to her feelings). It's REALLY problematic for a man to do this. A woman can't give a man everything he needs to be happy, no matter how great she is.

There are a couple of schools of thought on this. I've heard both men AND women talk about how the best relationships were friendships first, that grew into something more. I don't know, because any chick I've ever dated/been in some type of relationship with I went in wanting the pussy. I wasn't trying to be buddies and confidants. I needed to like her, but I wasn't particularly interested in every aspect of her life, her friends, her family, etc. If you're around her for a while, you'll end up learning those things. Danowar touched on it...some of these guys weren't friends by choice, but got either backburnered by the chick, or were too soft to push up hard. They just kind of hung around long enough to get an opening and the shit kind of happened.

The cop thing is interesting. Yeah, some of them are different at home than they are on the job. On the job they have to project strength for their peers, and obviously to be taken seriously on the street. The flip side of that is that there is also a high incidence of alcoholism, suicide and domestic violence among police also. The pressures of the job can push them to vent in different ways. And maybe the pressure of being someone different than their true natures wears on them.

[Parlay44]

My friend's younger sister is dating a cop. He's a quiet chill guy. He does drink a lot though from what I hear. I can't blame him. He had a few of his cop friends get killed while on duty. That's gotta weigh on his mind.

I have issues with cops. I can't hang out or be sociable with them. Just don't trust them 100%. I feel like I have to censor myself around them. It has definitely put a strain on my friendship with this girl.

Any girl I was ever "friends" with first never ended up sexual. I'll never do that again.

Any girl I wanna fuck is getting gamed hard. Any girl I'm not interested in is getting spoken to like a man. It's the only way to roll.

[Danowar]

I have a friend who pretty much drops off the radar when he has a girlfriend and only spends time with her. If both people are like that I think that can result in the whole "best friend" illusion as well.

[Timoteo]

(12-01-2011 08:57 PM)Danowar Wrote:  

I have a friend who pretty much drops off the radar when he has a girlfriend and only spends time with her. If both people are like that I think that can result in the whole "best friend" illusion as well.

It's not uncommon for dudes to do that early in an LTR. You hope that they find their way back to their friends after a while.

[Tuthmosis]

(12-01-2011 06:27 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

You'd be surprised how many cops are alpha on the street, and come home and do all the housework, cooking and tending of kids for their (also cop) wives.

Cops can be alpha when it comes to taking out their tazer and hitting you with 10,000 Volts, but are complete pussies at home or with their women.

It's true. "Alpha in the street, Beta in the Bed." I can hear Ludacris singing that shit.

I've known several cops and law-enforcement types for whom this was true. They're basically big man-children, given toys to play out their fantasies at work in a real-life scenario, but tame around women. I have no idea why this is. It must come from--at least in part--their fear of the legal consequences of beating them down.

[Stitch]

Well, I spent about 19 years like that with my wife. And honestly, when it was working, it really was pretty fun--we liked most of the same activities and moved around a lot, so it really was like having a good friend with me.

'Course, now that she's a psycho hose beast, I regret some of it, but it was a fair amount of fun while it was working.

[Parlay44]

(12-01-2011 10:20 PM)Tuthmosis Wrote:  

(12-01-2011 06:27 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

You'd be surprised how many cops are alpha on the street, and come home and do all the housework, cooking and tending of kids for their (also cop) wives.

Cops can be alpha when it comes to taking out their tazer and hitting you with 10,000 Volts, but are complete pussies at home or with their women.

It's true. "Alpha in the street, Beta in the Bed." I can hear Ludacris singing that shit.

I've known several cops and law-enforcement types for whom this was true. They're basically big man-children, given toys to play out their fantasies at work in a real-life scenario, but tame around women. I have no idea why this is. It must come from--at least in part--their fear of the legal consequences of beating them down.

I knew a few guys from high school that became cops as well. In school they were total meatheads, played football, wrestled. After high school they all delivered pizzas for a few years then became cops. That seems to be the usual carreer path.

[vinman]

(12-01-2011 06:27 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(12-01-2011 06:10 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

I know her husband is a cop. Gotta be some Alpha-ness to the guy. Never met the guy though.

You'd be surprised how many cops are alpha on the street, and come home and do all the housework, cooking and tending of kids for their (also cop) wives.

Cops can be alpha when it comes to taking out their tazer and hitting you with 10,000 Volts, but are complete pussies at home or with their women.


Mixx

Man.....you don't know the half. The military isn't much better. I saw a Marine crying while on Skype with his girl when I was in Afghanistan. I did everything I could to drive a stake through the hearts of Betas and guide them on the path of Alpha. Sites like this helped immensely.

[RichieP]

I dunno, I think if you're both emotionally mature, you can still have a masculine-feminine dynamic AND just get on great as humans.

The best relationships I've had, there's been both. Strong man-to-woman dynamic, but also shared common values and great friend-type experiences.

But yeah, I'm inclined to believe that women who say they "married their best friend" are probably in some sort of dysfunctional setup with deranged gender polarities.